A Payment A Day Part 4

Flower08

Evening everyone!

Sorry to hear about the pressure that is being put on you Angelic! I agree that you know what is best for both you and Adam, and to be honest i hardly see the point of such groups when he is so young. You are quite obviously doing a great job and dont need the support and i dont see the need to isolate him from such a young age. Stick to your guns and do what feels right for both of you.

Spent a few hours listing some things on both amazon and ebay, OH and i are moving in with his parents in about 3 weeks to try and save some money for a few months so need to get rid of some of our [STRIKE]junk[/STRIKE] treasures, hopefully will also be a bit of cash to put towards the debts aswell!!

PAD is £4.69 to HSBC CC

Flower08

Actually and another PAD of £10 to Natwest CC

Mudbath

Hiya to my fellow padders.

My PAD today is £2.91 to the sealed robot head...I can't wait until it's full because it must have quite a lot in there!

I know where you're all coming from on the support group thing...my DS has had a few health problems since he was two - mostly caused by an infection after his first operation which they refused to believe he had. It's meant another half dozen operations to put things right and he'll be on medication for life - nothing serious so we are lucky but after op three I was labelled 'controlling and unreasonable' for refusing to let him go back to that hospital or join a parent help group there. Still riles me!

Hugs to all xx

Glowie2k2_2

Hi again all,

Just wanted to say that I didn't do my ebaying in the end, decided to get on the wii fit and try and lose some of this MASSIVE weight!

Well that's everything!! Hope everyone had a lovely saturday!

xx

PurpleJellyFish

PaD for me today of £2.17

angelicmary85

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mumofthreemonkies83 wrote: »

Angelic: I hear ya on the support group thing.:mad:
My eldest has a few "issues" (like you Sue P I had to carry rectal hydrocortisone for years and then intramuscular syringe and vial of hydrocortisone so I know what its like) anyways they push these groups so much sometimes and I think most of the reason is to cover their backs.
I know its not pleasant being kind of ushered to them but I imagine if someone else was in your position and wanted help that they didnt have access to the backlash would be awful.:rolleyes:
I guess theyre just trying to make sure their paperwork shows what a fab job theyre doing supporting people when they dont really see how theyre grinding parents down if that makes sense?

I think the way forward is to just think about it and if you definitely dont want to go then be firm and stand your ground, theyll get the message sooner or later

Big hugs to you and Aaron, Hows your daughter coping being a big sis?
Ive got two young boys 2y and 9m and I cant leave them for a second, eldest ds keeps trying to feed baby by jamming a spoon down his throat:rotfl:

Kids eh?

Mumof4 x

I see where you're coming from with them covering their backs but the woman who sent me the letter was told at the hsopital bith me and OH that we didn't want any of this yey and she's ignored me. The end of her letter says I'll look forwatd to seeing at *this place* at *this time* when the special playgroup is runnang and *the woman with the ds child* will be there with *the ds child* so you'll be able to speak to her for support.

I don't want any F***ING support!! These people are wishing his wee life aweay and for what reason? He might not need anymore help than any other kid would :mad:

Big sis is loving it, she just sits and gives him kisses and cuddles but she keeps slapping him to wake him up :rolleyes:

Flower08 wrote: »

Evening everyone!

Sorry to hear about the pressure that is being put on you Angelic! I agree that you know what is best for both you and Adam, and to be honest i hardly see the point of such groups when he is so young. You are quite obviously doing a great job and dont need the support and i dont see the need to isolate him from such a young age. Stick to your guns and do what feels right for both of you.

I fully intend to, have drafted a letter to send her back telling her that we'll get in contact when we feel the time is right!!

Mudbath wrote: »

I know where you're all coming from on the support group thing...my DS has had a few health problems since he was two - mostly caused by an infection after his first operation which they refused to believe he had. It's meant another half dozen operations to put things right and he'll be on medication for life - nothing serious so we are lucky but after op three I was labelled 'controlling and unreasonable' for refusing to let him go back to that hospital or join a parent help group there. Still riles me!

Hugs to all xx

I think I might start boycotting hospitals!! I thought it was just our hosp that was mean...seems like it's the same wherever you go!!

angelicmary85

SueP19 wrote: »

I really don't know why, they react really badly if you say no. The hospital went on and on for years about this group for us and in the end I lost my temper. DD has a infrequent fits but they last forever....................3 hours was the longest. I just couldn't see the point I had read everything about it and I just didn't want her to see the condition at its worst. I really could not see why I needed support, which shocked the bejesus out of them. I know my DD has faced very few problems compared to other medical conditions but these groups should be for if/when a parent needs support not a mandatory requirement.

I had many a blue with the hospital not just weight, up until she was 12 I carried rectal diazepan (have admin'd it a few times) but not really nice to do on a 12 year old, so they gave me medazalin to syring into her mouth, quite easy not rocket science BUT the "social worker" was well p**d off that I didn't have a training session with her and on my next hosptial visit she comandeered the appointment and destroyed the relationship I had with the specialist. Her partling words were "well it is more convenient for a busy parent to have a child doped up"!!!!!! The result was we had to fight to prove DD had epilepsy and load of tests ensued where they were so rude that in the end I shut my mouth, the tester conceded in the end and asked for my help, at the end of the tests I said to her why she was horrible at the beggining and found that she had been told that DD didn't have EP and that I was a controling mother who wanted a quite life!!!! Finally a top specialist in Sheffield was consulted and he said no way was she to come off medication. DD has just reached 18 and we have been transferred to the adult clinic, am dreading it.

So for those that have babes with medical conditions I would say, you fight for what YOU think is right :T not what they want.

I agree entirely with your last sentence!! :A

Flower08

angelicmary85 wrote: »

I fully intend to, have drafted a letter to send her back telling her that we'll get in contact when we feel the time is right!!

Good for you!! I am sure they probably are doing it to cover their own backs, but dont they listen??!! It could be years before you feel you need any 'support', but like you say he may never need anymore help/support than any other children.
At least you know you can get the support if you want/need it but i just think pressuring you when hes so young is rediculous - he needs the same as any other baby!! Feeding, cleaning and LOVE - you dont need support for that!

Gosh i sound like im having a right rant and hes not even my child :rotfl:

angelicmary85

Thanks Flower, I feel the same! Rant away...I'll tell the specialist to log on here and read all of the posts in favour of staying away for now!

On a different note...you can tell the people who don't have social lives, on here on a sat night!!

My excuse is that DD isn't well, got home from the shop and daddy had her in the bath as she's spewed everywhere...put her in our bed to keep her warm whilst I changed her bedding and low and behold she spewed in it so I crammed the double duvet in the washing machine and now I'm waiting for it to dry before I go to bed!!

Flower08

angelicmary85 wrote: »

On a different note...you can tell the people who don't have social lives, on here on a sat night!!

:rotfl::rotfl:Thats me

OH and i were invited out but once again we cant afford it. Sounds sad but cant wait to move in with his parents, we will have so much spare cash to throw ay debts and we will actually be able to have a life :j:rotfl: