A Payment A Day Part 4

catchooky

Sorry, I just had to unload.
I've been made redundant twice this year while the OH has still worked.
He just texted me to ask if I would buy him a personalised numberplate for £390 for his 50th birthday. Now, he knows I'm skint, he hasn't bothered much in the past five years with buying me presents or cards as his cash generally goes on buying himself booze (while I and my family buy food for us bothe). And the crunch....................HE DOESN'T EVEN HAVE A CAR, :mad::mad: and he's got no chance of getting one in the next ten years. I just flew off the handle at him and he says I'm being touchy and that he was just joking. Am I being unreasonable? Bear in mind he texted me this so I didn't know that he was (apparently) joking. Have a sneaky suspicion he was testing the waters and then realised when he was going to be boiled alive that he better make it into a joke.

Hopeful1

catchooky wrote: »

Sorry, I just had to unload.
I've been made redundant twice this year while the OH has still worked.
He just texted me to ask if I would buy him a personalised numberplate for £390 for his 50th birthday. Now, he knows I'm skint, he hasn't bothered much in the past five years with buying me presents or cards as his cash generally goes on buying himself booze (while I and my family buy food for us bothe). And the crunch....................HE DOESN'T EVEN HAVE A CAR, :mad::mad: and he's got no chance of getting one in the next ten years. I just flew off the handle at him and he says I'm being touchy and that he was just joking. Am I being unreasonable? Bear in mind he texted me this so I didn't know that he was (apparently) joking. Have a sneaky suspicion he was testing the waters and then realised when he was going to be boiled alive that he better make it into a joke.

When you spend lots of time worrying about money and focused on clearing debt, it's very easy to be sensitive when others, especially OH's don't seem to have the same focus...i'm talking from experience! Men's humour (not all men - so don't lynch me Paul and Andy ) humour can often be very different to ours. I would try not to let it rile you. but it may be a good opportunity to explain why it upset you so much. With any luck, he might listen, understand and then be a little more forthcoming with contributing to the running of the family home.

Big hugs

LondonAndy

Hopeful1 wrote: »

Men's humour (not all men - so don't lynch me Paul and Andy ) humour can often be very different to ours. I would try not to let it rile you. .

Big hugs

Definitely agree with this Hopeful. I have lost count of the amount of times I have peed off ladies with jokes and comments which I think are absolutely hilarious. But I am a nice guy honestly....just boys often don't think before we speak / joke / ask. And it often takes several attempts to make us see the "big picture"

It's that men are from mars / women venus thingy. If he's a typical man he's prob feeling bad now catchooky. Have a little chat with him. Hope it goes well.

Right, don't tell any of my fellow species I have spilled the beans on boys thinking. Off to drink beer and watch sport.
*Grunts / Farts / Picks Nose*:rotfl::rotfl:

dankosheemo

SueP19 wrote: »

Forgot about those, we mostly go up April and October.................Pitlochry, Nairn, Gencoe.............................god wish I was going away this year



:T:T:T:T:T:T:T:T:T

I'm was part of June's £5/day and am on £275.81 so far, its worth doing, so good luck :j


My PAD for today is £44.57..................due to a lottery win, boy did my heart a flutter..................1st 4 numbers, by the time I had got to no5 my heart was pounding :rotfl:I think I would have had a heart attack if all 6 had come up :eek:

Diet
My 1st weigh in...........drum roll please................*9 lbs*
So now onto the second week, its not been too bad, worst bit was my lot had icecream, not once but twice:rotfl:the gits. Next week should be a more modest weight loss, just shows what cr*p is in bread, cos we don't eat biscuits, crisps etc!!!

Woow Sue! That's fab news on your weightloss, well done! :T :j How do you do it??

As for the lottery win, well done you! I'd have been having a fit on the floor! This week for the big win hey?
xx

Paulgonnabedebtfree

angelicmary85 wrote: »

Sneaked on quickly whilst the house is silent...I'm dreading MIL's visit...god help me!!

Paul I hope you seen my 2nd pad last night that was meant for today!

Have a fab day xxx

No prob. Sorted.

dankosheemo

Hopeful1 wrote: »

Danko - if we go away it'll be to Spain as that's way some of OH's family live. I need to get our piccies signed though and sent off. As usual i've left it all to the last minute and am living by the seat of my pants - i wouldn't know how to do things any other way

OoO get the photies sorted and get booking! :rotfl: Mind you, the weather's so fab here at the moment - almost seems a shame to miss it! It'll be nice to catch up with everyone though before pumpkin arrives
xx

Paulgonnabedebtfree

catchooky wrote: »

Sorry, I just had to unload.
I've been made redundant twice this year while the OH has still worked.
He just texted me to ask if I would buy him a personalised numberplate for £390 for his 50th birthday. Now, he knows I'm skint, he hasn't bothered much in the past five years with buying me presents or cards as his cash generally goes on buying himself booze (while I and my family buy food for us bothe). And the crunch....................HE DOESN'T EVEN HAVE A CAR, :mad::mad: and he's got no chance of getting one in the next ten years. I just flew off the handle at him and he says I'm being touchy and that he was just joking. Am I being unreasonable? Bear in mind he texted me this so I didn't know that he was (apparently) joking. Have a sneaky suspicion he was testing the waters and then realised when he was going to be boiled alive that he better make it into a joke.

Boil him anyway .

dankosheemo

:hello: Only me again with the weekly weight loss totals!

I haven't had all the totals in so just posting what we gots! If anyone's forgotten to post or if I've missed anyone then just let me know and I shall update accordingly!

:j Sooo we've lost a mahoosive *24 1/2 lbs* this week! :j

To date that's a whopping *114 1/4 lbs*!

:T Well done to everyone!! :T
xx

Paulgonnabedebtfree

Hopeful1 wrote: »

When you spend lots of time worrying about money and focused on clearing debt, it's very easy to be sensitive when others, especially OH's don't seem to have the same focus...i'm talking from experience! Men's humour (not all men - so don't lynch me Paul and Andy ) humour can often be very different to ours. I would try not to let it rile you. but it may be a good opportunity to explain why it upset you so much. With any luck, he might listen, understand and then be a little more forthcoming with contributing to the running of the family home.

Big hugs

It's true that not everyone is tuned in to my style of humour.
If I can try to explain (without digging myself a hole). A lot of my humour is actually me laughing at myself or laughing at the way I used to be. If someone isn't tuned into that fact, they can sometimes think that I'm taking the pee out of them when all I am really doing is having a little self deprecating laugh. It's hard to explain better than that. I think it's something that someone is either tuned in to or they aren't. Someone is not at fault if they aren't tuned in to it. It just means that their style of humour is different to mine.
Just trying to think of an example. John Cleese in Fawlty Towers is a good one I think. Now some people will laugh at him because they see this man behaving in a silly way and they think he is very funny (which he is IMO). However, others (such as myself) will be laughing more at ourselves than at him because we can see that he is touching on something that is somewhere within all of us. That's the best I can explain it at the moment as I'm still hot and sticky from a day's graft in the hot sun.

Paulgonnabedebtfree

Well folks, I did it.

Today I did just enough to achieve my highest ever month's turnover - and there's still tomorrow to go yet. I won't go in to numbers because I don't think that is right (especially as so many people are struggling to keep or get a job).
I'm £8.80 over my previous best with a day to spare. Mind you, as the money trickles in, it will be going straight out again to my debts - most notably the taxman next month.