Son and girlfriend

Silverbird

I don't see the problem. He's 20 and, like you say, an adult who can decide whether he wants to stay out or not.

It doesn't sound like he's disrespecting you, which would be a problem

At that age everybody wants independence from their parents and I imagine it's very nice for him to be able to spend time away from home without any rules as such.

There's no way you can know whether his most recent relationship is more about sex than love, but, again, he's 20 and will have to make his mistakes on his own and learn by them. At the end of the day though, his sex life is no business of yours, just as yours is nothing to do with him.

I hope the above doesn't come across as harsh - it's really not meant to be - and I do hope it helps put some things into perspective.

Pssst

He better make sure he doesnt knock her up otherwise she may well bleed him dry for the immediate future.

emlou2009

at the age of 20 i think the need to meet her before he spends the night went a long time ago

enjoy your new-found space. when it all goes pear shaped he'll be under your feet again soon enough!

Odette

I echo everyone, Im 23 and still live with my parents (just saving up to move out) and other than letting them know where Im gonna be they dont expect anything, even if they havent met my boyfriend.

Being supportive is much easier and in the long run will bring you closer together , ask if hes happy, if he thinks hes okay, and be for him when it falls apart, and for every time it happens for the rest of his life. Thats what mums are for

Ivrytwr3

he hasn't introduced you yet because she is probably walking like John Wayne at the minute.

jinky67

Ivrytwr3 wrote: »

he hasn't introduced you yet because she is probably walking like John Wayne at the minute.

you have such a way with words Ivy:D

money_maker_3

I was 18 and had my own flat, my BF was 21 and stayed with me most nights as he still lived at home. This went on for about 6 weeks, staying most nights with me and popping home maybe once a week, when we went to his mums for sunday lunch and she handed him 2 suitcases and said he may as well take the rest of his stuff with him !!!
I was a bit shocked, but she was being really funny about it, and worked out well, that was 9 years ago, and we are happily married with baby number 2 on the way !!!

consultant31

doelani wrote: »

Sometimes I hate being a mother !!!!!!!!!

I know how you feel and have echoed your sentiments many times. All you can do is wait and hope and pretend that you're dazzled by their new OH, lol. I'm still not convinced by my son's fiancee but I try really, really hard to like her (one day I won't have to try, it'll come naturally).

I was very fond of my daughter's husband (had been all through their courtship) and he turned out to be a ba*tard of the first order :mad:. She fell apart for a few months but I've been here every step of the way and she's rebuiding her life now and is happier than ever.

Sometimes I hate being a Mum too, but it definitely has it's rewards

ailuro2

He's 20!!

Make the most of having the house to yourself, have you not read the other thread with the 14 y.o. DD who 'disturbed' her parents.;)

He's texting you, he's happy, he's safe, isn't that what you want for your kids?

jenhug

Blimey, I was married with a baby at 20, seems like he is just young and having fun to me, if you don't get hurt once in a while then you will never appreciate the good things in life!