i dont know what to do.

WONGY_2

Hi
Sorry to hear your problems, I really think that you need to get some free advice - the citizens advice bureau and also some solicitors offer free advice, you need to know what your rights are concerning your daugther, and the possibility of taking her back to your family.

Good Luck and get some advice...x

Kaz2904

I couldn't read and run.
I'm so sorry you find yourself in this situation. I think you should listen to what the other posters have said and decide what YOU want. Do you want to go home with your daughter? Or would you be happy to build a life in this country without your family?
I'm interested that you said your mother in law had advise you to go to your GP. Are you close to her? DOes she know what goes on in your house? Would she be able or willing to support you?
I think that you should use the time you have whilst your husband is not there to go out and start building a support network for yourself and your daughter.
I wish you all the luck in the world and hope that everything works out for you and your daughter.

pboae

As well as regular Mum and toddler groups, there's a surprisingly large Spanish speaking community in Wales (partly because of the Patagonia connection). I did a very quick search and found this thread
http://www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/make-friends-netmums-meetups-20/parents-other-countries-21/172210-spanish-mum-wales-cardiff.html

for Spanish speaking Mum's in Wales. If you can find one connection to that community, you'll soon find a lot more. You might feel less lonely if you can find other ex-pats who get home sick too.

BitterAndTwisted

Google "Mother and Toddler Groups" plus the area of Wales you are in.

BitterAndTwisted

pboae, that's a fantastic find! Well done, you!

lostinrates

latina, until you said you lived in Wales I thought I might know you.

I have no advice but I'm so sorry. Life doesn't have to be like this for you, nor will it be good for your daughter as a child, or, vitally, for her own self worth when she grows into a woman.

my_gorgeous_ellie-belle

Girl, you sound like a lovely giving person, that has had everything taken out of them...if that makes sense. Almost like a broken person (i was described like this once by a colleague, he said when he first met me i had a twinkle, with such a bubbly personality, always smiling and happy to see everyone, but over time the spark had dwindled and even though i still laughed and joked with everyone he said i seemed almost empty and sad inside. Funnily enough he was so right - but it was what made me realise i had to do something about it.)

You need to start to believe in yourself again, put yourself first (and your daughter too obviously) but once you put your self back up there with the rest of the world he'll realise you don't NEED him. He may change, but by the time you have worked your self confidence back up you'll prob care little either way but at least then you'd be in a better position to decide what to do. Plus you'll hopefully feel stable again - sounds like you were to begin with anyway to take the plunge to move to a new country, new people and learna new language!

Listen to peoples advice on here, many of us have had to turn to the other anon posters in order to get some umph in order to make a change.

Good luck hun, big hugs to you!

BTW you are similar age to me and so is your daughter to mine, if you ever want to chat, on msn or anyhow, i don't mind at all - i love to chat...x

Tia_Maria06

Just thinking that Womens Aid might be an option?? Get strong and take back your life, and your DD xx

Leedslad_3

Hi

I didnt just want to read and run. Firstly i am sorry to hear of your situation.

I feel for you and as a bloke i think that he need to wake up and realise what he has.

I aggree with all the other posts. with a situation where you say you feel sad and depressed i feel that you need to take small steps at a time. Like the mother and toddler groups for a few reason firstly in order to meet new people in your local area who you can maybe meet with in order for you to have some time for you. secondly this will help make you stronger as a person and knowing that you have people around you to talk is priceless.

Odette

Don't let your husband bring you down, the most important thing is your child and I wouldnt trust that kind of fickle man around a child.

Do you have any skills? Is there any way you could get a part time job? It might give you some of the independance you need to improve your self esteem as well as being able to put some money aside for the potential break down of your marriage.

I just want to let you know also that although your story is sad, you seem very clued up, your going to go through a tough time, but you will make it. For sure.