Unemployment Making Me Utterly MISERABLE!

marydot

I got made redundant Feb 09 this year so i can relate to every reply. I have good days and bad days...It does make you feel depressed and I am on JSA but its very hard..I have applied for many jobs 98% of them do not reply!!!.

I wish everyone good luck as its tough out there right now !!

Chin up everyone !!! When I first was made redundant I was really in a panic!! But after 3 months without work I have learnt to sit back abit and try and relax.Not to get so eat up all the time.I felt like that when i was made redundant.

I do miss my old job and miss my friends too thats the hard bit. I hope everyone can find work and settle back into a routiue, its horrible without a job and it does make you feel depressed but keep on trying and trying...we cant be unemployed forever.!

angel13

i understand how you are feeling and feel the same myself at low points during the day. i was made redundant jan 2008 whilst off sick having back surgery. i had year of physio and can now do some work. I have a degree and I was an analyst and there is nothing I can apply for or get - and yes i mean nothing as i have tried every angle I know of. I relocated here for last job (kent) and partner works here so I cannot move back home to SW - chances of work appearing there rather than here is completely unlikely anyway!
I cannot do any studies as my next stage is Masters for which I would have to pay. So for now I am mystery shopping to earn some cash to save for stock for an online business. My situation has been dire what with being sick as well but I am going to get out of this and things will be fine. My degree at the moment is being wasted and my professional career seems to be over but I have got through worse than this - i got my degree part time whilst a single parent with many other awful things going on - so i know i can get through this. Just have to stay positive
We will all get through this somehow. Is anyone else trying to also start up a business?

McKneff

angel13 wrote: »

i understand how you are feeling and feel the same myself at low points during the day. i was made redundant jan 2008 whilst off sick having back surgery. i had year of physio and can now do some work. I have a degree and I was an analyst and there is nothing I can apply for or get - and yes i mean nothing as i have tried every angle I know of. I relocated here for last job (kent) and partner works here so I cannot move back home to SW - chances of work appearing there rather than here is completely unlikely anyway!
I cannot do any studies as my next stage is Masters for which I would have to pay. So for now I am mystery shopping to earn some cash to save for stock for an online business. My situation has been dire what with being sick as well but I am going to get out of this and things will be fine. My degree at the moment is being wasted and my professional career seems to be over but I have got through worse than this - i got my degree part time whilst a single parent with many other awful things going on - so i know i can get through this. Just have to stay positive
We will all get through this somehow. Is anyone else trying to also start up a business?

Keep going there girl, your positivity demands applause.:T
You'll get there.

go Angel, go Angel.:j

KT1985

snowqueen555 wrote: »

yes its not the lack of mnoney that hurts me, its the shame in having to tell everyone you have no full time job, i know they look down on me.. i hate this

Totally agree with everything, but especially this.
I have applied for jobs throughout the spectrum, but can't even get a job at Asda

andygb

angel13 wrote: »

i understand how you are feeling and feel the same myself at low points during the day. i was made redundant jan 2008 whilst off sick having back surgery. i had year of physio and can now do some work. I have a degree and I was an analyst and there is nothing I can apply for or get - and yes i mean nothing as i have tried every angle I know of. I relocated here for last job (kent) and partner works here so I cannot move back home to SW - chances of work appearing there rather than here is completely unlikely anyway!
I cannot do any studies as my next stage is Masters for which I would have to pay. So for now I am mystery shopping to earn some cash to save for stock for an online business. My situation has been dire what with being sick as well but I am going to get out of this and things will be fine. My degree at the moment is being wasted and my professional career seems to be over but I have got through worse than this - i got my degree part time whilst a single parent with many other awful things going on - so i know i can get through this. Just have to stay positive
We will all get through this somehow. Is anyone else trying to also start up a business?

Hi,
I last worked in July 2008, but between 2003 and 2008, I had been doing various contract/temporary roles in accountancy. I am 51, so the prospects for work are not that great. I have applied for over 200 jobs since Novenber2008, and I have only had two replies. One vacancy had 73 applicants for the one position.
I am thinking of starting my own business or businesses, but I lack a lot of confidence, because I cannot stop thinking that I will not make any money. I have never been self employed before, and I do not know how to market myself.
I would like to learn website design, in order to build my own website, which in turn could lead to me starting my own business - accountancy/bookkeeping, photography.
I just cannot get started, I feel like a rabbit trapped in the headlights. Unemployment is the worst thing in the World, particularly in our society, and particularly if you are over 40, have bags of skill, and really want to work.
The things which I miss, are just the simple contact with other people, even communicating in a work environment. I feel like a failure, even though there are millions of others in the same boat. I feel as though I have let down my wife (who has a job - but for how long?), and some of my family do look down on me - and I am not being paranoid about this, because there have been very negative comments from them.
One of the things which has helped me, is getting up early in the morning, getting my wife's breakfast, and then starting off the day with a two to three hour walk. I can then go home and make all the phone calls, and do the web searching with a clear head.
I know that I do feel very down at the moment, but I honestly do not think that the economy is picking up, far from it. So many people are still being made redundant, that this will have a knock on effect on other businesses. We have no industry to speak of, and with the savings rates at an all time low, and much uncertainty, people are reluctant to spend their money.
The government should have used this recession, to employ more people to carry out improvements to the infrastructure of the country, and to build more council houses, instead, they gave billions to the bankers, who are spending it on themselves, and cutting their staff.

Timmne

The problem we had when we recruited for a skilled job recently was that we had ~200 applications for it - in that there were no doubt a few really good applications. Due to the climate, people were applying who had absolutely no experience/skill/qualifications - this meant that I had to literally shred half of them without even looking at them (due to the time needed to read them all); this really bugged me at the time thinking that if it were me applying, I would be gutted to know that my CV hadn't even been seen because of the sheer number of (mostly shnit) applications they had.

Good luck OP! :beer:

wishface

Don't people have interests beyond work these days? I can understand the financial implications of unemployment, especially given the pittance that passes for JSA.

Truegho

I know how you feel. It seems to be the depressing trend these days, not getting a reply.

Another thing I hate is when you are kept waiting and waiting for the result of a job interview - if you're lucky to get one, that is - and when you finally DO get word, it is a soul destroying rejection. Disgusting!

Will the days EVER come back when you applied for a job and, as there were only a couple of other applicants after it, you stood a reasonable chance of getting it? Sadly, I doubt it.

marydot wrote: »

I got made redundant Feb 09 this year so i can relate to every reply. I have good days and bad days...It does make you feel depressed and I am on JSA but its very hard..I have applied for many jobs 98% of them do not reply!!!.

I wish everyone good luck as its tough out there right now !!

Chin up everyone !!! When I first was made redundant I was really in a panic!! But after 3 months without work I have learnt to sit back abit and try and relax.Not to get so eat up all the time.I felt like that when i was made redundant.

I do miss my old job and miss my friends too thats the hard bit. I hope everyone can find work and settle back into a routiue, its horrible without a job and it does make you feel depressed but keep on trying and trying...we cant be unemployed forever.!

toasterman

andygb wrote: »

Hi,
I last worked in July 2008, but between 2003 and 2008, I had been doing various contract/temporary roles in accountancy. I am 51, so the prospects for work are not that great. <snip>Unemployment is the worst thing in the World, particularly in our society, and particularly if you are over 40, have bags of skill, and really want to work.
The things which I miss, are just the simple contact with other people<snip>.

I don't know why we have such a downer on 'older' people. I'm under 30, but throughout my life I've worked with some great people in their 50s, who were usually very well-rounded individuals with a wealth of experience in all manner of things.
I think it comes from the frame of mind that it was cheaper to fix something than buy new - so they were mostly very good at DIY, repairing electrical items..etc.
I went to Maplins for something a couple of years ago on a Saturday. Being a Saturday, 90% of their staff was A-level/uni students. I couldn't find what I wanted so I asked a staff member, who had no idea what I wanted.
They asked another, who started selling me something completely wrong.
Then they asked a much older cheap with a big bushy beard, who knew instantly exactly what I was talking about, and where to find it.
With age, comes experience?


On the subject of being miserable, I had a conversation with my girlfriend yesterday where she told me she was "losing patience" with me being unemployed. SHE's losing patience?!
I've gone from unemployed but optimistic, to giving up, into depression, then started counseling as recommended by my Dr (which is being paid for by my benefits, as there's such a waiting list on the NHS, and you have permanent blackspots on your medical record by attempting to get it).
Then a government assessment said I was no longer low enough to warrant sickness benefits, so am on jobseeker's allowance. I was actually looking forward to getting back to work, but I'm kinda back where I started - looking for a job, not finding anything, with no money to do anything.


My own boredom during the day (you can't spend ALL your time job hunting) has led me to wonder if it might be possible to set up some kind of unemployed-meeting-social-group-thing.
Certainly my confidence has shrank massively since I stopped working just because I'm not seeing/speaking-to anyone else most of the week. I've no idea what we'd do, but having very little human face-to-face interaction can't be good for you, and there must be hundreds of others locally to me with the same issue, that doing anything costs money, so barely leaving the house.
I've got plans for my own business but don't feel like I've got the confidence to try and sell anything/myself at the moment, which also causes problems when applying for jobs - I feel like I'm lying the whole time saying I "work well in a team" or whatever.

What would everyone think to that? Good idea?

daveboy

I was seriously ill in January 2008 and had only started a new job the previous October. Needless to say, said employer saw me as a cost and I lost that job days before a life saving operation.

I took three months to recover, and whilst my wound from the op was still healing, I was looking numerous times a day.

I eventually found something, applied and had an interview within a week. Initially it was just 25 hours a week. Now I am working 35 hours a week as a deputy manager for a national company.

Proof it can be done.

One side note though, my body chose the right time to try to kill me. I had, and still have, ulcerative colitis (severe ulcerative colitis which led to me losing my large bowel). The economy hadn't gone tits up at that point. I started my current job in May 2008.

I accept it might not be that easy now....but I am sure it can still be done.

But gone are the days where you can pick and choose what you do. The economy isn't like that any more.