Need a bf

battyboimatt

Hi All,

Maybe the right place maybe not but Im ready for a rant lol, I'm going on holiday this week so I should be happy but Im not, Im going alone Im 28 this year and am still single, yeah im no brad put, but I don't think im an ugly minger or anything, I'm just ok lol, who said being gay would be easy..I know I know personal choice I hear all you scream but honestly if there was a pill I could just take that would make me stop likeing men I would take it...but sadly there isnt.. I mean I don't despise been gay its just caused so much hassle in my life it's been three years since my last serious relationship and just cant seem to meet any nice gay men, it may not help that i live in a little village and dont venture far on my own but sigh as my mother always says there is someone out there for everyone..so if anyone wants me applications please lol, well enougth of my rant people, I know there are people out there with far worse problems but wanted to get it off my chest.

Matt x

swiss69

How many people are there in the world thinking the same thing, gay or not gay! Maybe its time to spread your wings and move away from your village. Surely a place like Brighton, London or Manchester would open up new opportunity for you.

The_Banker_5

battyboimatt wrote: »

Hi All,

Maybe the right place maybe not but Im ready for a rant lol, I'm going on holiday this week so I should be happy but Im not, Im going alone Im 28 this year and am still single, yeah im no brad put, but I don't think im an ugly minger or anything, I'm just ok lol, who said being gay would be easy..I know I know personal choice I hear all you scream but honestly if there was a pill I could just take that would make me stop likeing men I would take it...but sadly there isnt.. I mean I don't despise been gay its just caused so much hassle in my life it's been three years since my last serious relationship and just cant seem to meet any nice gay men, it may not help that i live in a little village and dont venture far on my own but sigh as my mother always says there is someone out there for everyone..so if anyone wants me applications please lol, well enougth of my rant people, I know there are people out there with far worse problems but wanted to get it off my chest.

Matt x

Ahh dont be like that.

I am quite certain there will be someone out there just like you who is waiting for someone just like you to come along. (No pun intended).

You might hit lucky on holiday, who knows?;)

Taye

haha bless i know how you feel hun im a 31 year old single hetrosexual woman... it makes no differance there are people of all kinds alone.

P.S i don't think i'm ugly either :P

BeenieCat

I'm sure you're not the only gay in the village but i agree that you should get out more, build your confidence and most of all - Don't look for it. In my experience love never comes along til you've given up on it!

Penny-Pincher!!

battyboimatt wrote: »

Hi All,

Maybe the right place maybe not but Im ready for a rant lol, I'm going on holiday this week so I should be happy but Im not, Im going alone Im 28 this year and am still single, yeah im no brad put, but I don't think im an ugly minger or anything, I'm just ok lol, who said being gay would be easy..I know I know personal choice I hear all you scream but honestly if there was a pill I could just take that would make me stop likeing men I would take it...but sadly there isnt.. I mean I don't despise been gay its just caused so much hassle in my life it's been three years since my last serious relationship and just cant seem to meet any nice gay men, it may not help that i live in a little village and dont venture far on my own but sigh as my mother always says there is someone out there for everyone..so if anyone wants me applications please lol, well enougth of my rant people, I know there are people out there with far worse problems but wanted to get it off my chest.

Matt x

Hiya!

Just wanted to send you a hug.

Do you have any ties to your area? Could you move to a more gay friendly area where it maybe easier to find a partner?

Dont feel bad about being GAY...if thats who you are, then be proud and confident about it! I have many gay friends, but I have never heard any say that they wish they could take a pill to change their sexual orientation (sp).....are you sure your gay?

I apologise if I offend and I dont mean any malice...promise.

Keep you chin up.

PP
xx

battyboimatt

Thanks all, yes im sure I'm gay..it's caused alot of grief in my life, don't get me wrong I do admire the female body and think girls are pretty but I can hug a girl and kiss a girl and it does nothing for me, I only need to hug a guy and whey hey lol, I know others are single as well but guess its just a low moment lol, yeah I have tired moving out,done it twice both times and come home both time lived in Leeds and North Wales and no penny pincher your comments didnt offend me, just alot of crap since i came out as gay, thanks so far for the support peeps

Matt xxxxxxx

Penny-Pincher!!

battyboimatt wrote: »

Thanks all, yes im sure I'm gay..it's caused alot of grief in my life, don't get me wrong I do admire the female body and think girls are pretty but I can hug a girl and kiss a girl and it does nothing for me, I only need to hug a guy and whey hey lol, I know others are single as well but guess its just a low moment lol, yeah I have tired moving out,done it twice both times and come home both time lived in Leeds and North Wales and no penny pincher your comments didnt offend me, just alot of crap since i came out as gay, thanks so far for the support peeps

Matt xxxxxxx

I'm sorry to hear you've had problems since you came out.

Sometimes people are small minded and can be hurtful with what they say. Maybe I am getting the wrong end of the stick, but I guess it can be a very lonely time when you feel you have no one that understands you.

Is there anyone you could talk too? There alot of legit websites where there are others like yourself feeling low.

HTH

Take care.

PP
xx

DKLS

Hang on in there, there will be somone out there for you, Where are you in the country?, Certain places its so much easier to be Gay, Try being Gay in Holmfirth, like my friend, who has been beaten up numerous times for the heinous crime of snogging or holding hands in public.

Reading between the lines it sounds like you have been on the scene and been spat out the other side. The scene is notoriously !!!!!y and promiscuous, and not everyone can handle it.

Have you tried internet dating?, might be worth a go to build up your confidence and you should get some decent nights out once you have weeded out the freaks.

If you fancy a night out come over to Leeds, I'll buy you a glass of pink fizz, I popped into Queens Court for a beer last night after a meeting, and was invited to a 3 sum with a Hospital Consultant and his Barrister Hubbie!!, I was flattered but had to decline due to being straight which they seemed most disapointed at.

Silverbird

Hi Matt

Have you tried dating websites? They're really not as bad as they're cracked up to be and although there are some nutters on there, there are also some very lovely, kind people. I'm straight, but met my husband via a dating site after feeling exactly like you are now. I was sick of being single (had been nearly 7 years for me!) and just wanted somebody to love. I've never enjoyed the pubbing and clubbing scene and am naturally quite shy so making conversation and making friends has always been difficult. A friend suggested a dating site and I laughed it off, but later that day I gave it a whirl. I figured that if I was feeling so lonely and looking for love then surely there were other like-minded genuine people looking for the same. Thankfully I was right. I met my husband in November 2004 and I have been very happily married for over 2 years and he's the light of my life.

Obviously I didn't search for gay men or women, but I did notice those options on the websites I was using (Friends Reunited and Yahoo - I found Yahoo personals better and this was where I found OH).

It's worth a shot and at the end of the day if you don't like each other then you never have to meet up again, although you can usually tell if you're going to 'click' just by emailing and phoning prior to meeting.

I do hope this helps and I do hope you find your true love soon.

All the very best x x

Pee

I think that there will be someone out there for you if only you can find them. I live in a rural area and know two gay men, who are not together, and although there is nothing wrong with either of them, I'd quite understand if they didn't fancy one another! A bit more choice would be nice... I think through an internet site you'd have a better idea about men who were looking for a relationship or just a quick get together, which might be harder to tell in a nightclub situation.