HELP! Partner moving in..

mealone

As long as you have seperate homes, finances and bills you are not treated as a couple but when you are to become a family and with the addition of a new baby you are doing the right thing, OP.

I dont believe that you will be worse off but with you only being in your job for a month and him being unemployed you need good advice, see a WRO or CAB for specialist advice.

Congratulation on being pregnant with your daughter and making her a family home before she is born.

alwaysonthego_2

Check out this link for further info

http://www.redcar-cleveland.gov.uk/main.nsf/Web+Full+List/487D90CD2AFA80F08025714C002F4052?OpenDocument

alwaysonthego_2

mealone wrote: »

As long as you have seperate homes, finances and bills you are not treated as a couple but when you are to become a family and with the addition of a new baby you are doing the right thing, OP.

Not true depends on the DM.

ALIBOBSY

A couple can be classed as a couple when living apart, but it usually only occurs in cases say like a partner in the forces or working away, when one person has to live elsewhere but effectively their "home" is with the partner.
They are looking for a financial link betweeb people to class them as a couple but they also take into account emotional links as well. Do you shop together, do you eat together, socialise together share bills kids together etc etc.

If he moves in and no longer has entitlement to any cont based JSA he will not qualify for income based whilst you are in full time work. However you will get some tax credits.

Personnally I couldn't imagine having had my kids alone whilst my partner lived elsewhere Either you are commited or not. It is different when dating but surely once you are commited to each other and a new child you live together and support each other?

When OH and I got together my salary was almost double his, over the years we have been on simular amounts then I was part time and now I am at home with the kids. Our money has always been in "one Pot" and we are partners through the good and bad. I like MSE he would given half a chance spend in all V. quickly lol.

I am not trying to have a go, just giving another point of view, only you can decide what is best for your family, but you need to consider things other than money.

Good luck whatever you decide and enjoy your new baby

ali x

milly09

Yeah i got the fright of my life reading that
i have a boyfriend who lives in a shared house many miles from me, i also have a son that is not his, i have never mentioned or had to mention my relationship in government forms because as far as i am aware until we are co-habiting (thinks that is how it referred to) then i am classed as single.


OP, you should be entitled to working/child tax when he moves in, plus positivity says he will get a job and all will be well

chinxstar

thanks@mealone but its another boy lol!
@alwaysonthego...appreciating the help immensely, where is all your knowledge from? I believe I can obtain an up to date manual on uk benefits....what does CPAG stand for?

ALIBOBSY

Sorry others have posted almost the same as me but alot quicker, note to self learn to type faster......

ali x

alwaysonthego_2

chinxstar wrote: »

@alwaysonthego...appreciating the help immensely, where is all your knowledge from? I believe I can obtain an up to date manual on uk benefits....what does CPAG stand for?

I am a benefits adviser for a well known charity. The CPAG benefits welfare and tax credits can be found at your local CAB or bought online. CPAG is Child Poverty Action group

http://www.cpag.org.uk/publications/1_wr.htm

NASA_2

chinxstar wrote: »

If you do not qualify for Statutory Maternity Pay or Maternity Allowance, and you have paid national insurance contributions, you may be entitled to Employment and Support Allowance (ESA) for six weeks before the expected week of childbirth and up to 14 days after the birth.

This was from the citizens advice bureau website.......

The operative word being 'may' but I have yet to see an award based solely on pregnancy.

I can check it out with our Decision Makers though - would be nice to know for future reference.

chinxstar

@ALIBOBSY I know you weren't trying to have a go, but I have raised two kids by myself for several years now, so doing it alone is something I can handle although not preferable, partner or not....we have been together a year, we do not share bills, but he does play with the boys and we do spend weekends together, we have decided to make a commitment we have been dscussing these things i.e. start sharing bills help with the kids chores etc and this is the soonest point it could have happened for me...so I am here trying to get advice on the most practical way to do that...

but thanks to everyone or the advice