Feel like a spare part in child's life

patchwork_cat

Very pleased for you - who do you work for as you say you have taken a step down from managerial, but are still receiving the same pay! Not like any employer I have ever known! What is the catch?

foi1983

Krystaltips wrote: »

I completely agree with you foi... Both our parents worked full time and we were left to walk home from school and fend for ourselves until 6:30 when my Mum got back from work, fed us then sent us to bed by 7:30... School holidays were spent in 'play schemes'... I never wanted that for my children so I'm glad my husband is happy to go out to work and I can be there for my daughters school plays and 'inspire days' and I get to pick her up every day... And I don't have the nagging feeling of having to return to work after maternity leave with my shiny new baby, she'll get me for the next 5 years at least too :)

Sarahlou, really glad your work allowed you to change your hours, it will really make a difference for you!

I would have even loved for that hour in the evenings with my mum. We would see her before school but she would not get back until 9/10 but she was so tired that she went to bed. It makes me want to cry just thinking about it. I honestly think it has scarred me for life.

School holidays were spent at home with me baby sitting my little brothers. People would ask me if they were my kids. lol.

I pray that I get to raise my kids. I do want them but if I know that I will not be able to raise them then I will have to be selfless and just not have them. Parents seriously underestimate the damage that not raising their kids does to them.

This country has descended into madness, kids killing kids, under-achieving in school, bowing down to peer pressure and the root cause of this is the disintegration of the family unit.

I better go, I've started crying. I hope I eventually get over this.

Sorry to the OP for hijacking your thread.

Once again SarahLou, well done!

patchwork_cat

foi - agree. I was sent to boarding school, but when I was in my 20's and my mum was dying (she had a mastectomy 3 days before my DS was born)she said to me - you can't have it all. I still suffer because of my childhood and hate sunday nights ( I was a weekly boarder and went back every sunday night, always in floods)

Blackpool_Saver

Congratulations OP WELL DONE

kindofagilr

Well done thats fabulous

I have been thinking about this as well I always thought we couldnt afford for me to go part time when we have children and would have to work full time.

But I looked into it with the pay calculator here at work and I can afford to drop my hours to work 3 days a week instead of 5. Then when my kids are at school, my work offer term time off work, so I can get all the school holidays off, but the pay is spread over 12 months if that makes sense?

I am really pleased your work agreed your new hours