Would you lie and keep something even if you feel guilty?

lindsaygalaxy

Hello

Sorry if I didnt word it right. As its for a special time he wants us to all get it together, which I can understand, but its not like we have spare cash, so need to be sensible.
I just dont know to keep the things I got and hide it as shes likely to need spares, but I know I will feel guilty if I do that.

jackomdj

I would just let him know that you already got part of it as it was reduced - no big deal! I would say the things that are going to be more important to her are things like her bag, pencil case, pencils, lunchbox etc & she is going to remember Daddy helping chose these more than getting her uniform together.

Is you OH going to be around to take her to work on her first day? My OH is a contractor & we have no idea where he will be on her first week (he goes everywhere from Scotland to Cornwall) & if he takes the day off he does not get paid, so unfortunately it may just be me & my youngest Daughter taking her.

Nicky

Bennifred

Just tell him you got a couple of things because they were at an unmissable price, but you'll get the rest of the stuff with the three of you together! Why the need for any beating around the bush?

Don't mean to be rude, but it seems a bit of a non-issue!:rolleyes:

belfastgirl23

So he told you after you'd already bought some things, therefore he was too late really, just a bit of bad luck. I'd just let him know that he was a bit too late and it was a special deal but that you'll get the rest of the things together and when she tries it all on together for the first time it'll be for you both together.

Also not understanding why it would be such a big deal though ... it's nice he wants to be involved but surely he'd understand if you'd already bought a few bits and bobs.

toniq

If he will be that upset and if it is still on sale take it back, get a refund, say to him that it is on sale now then go together and buy xx

shellsuit

I don't understand the issue either.

Why didn't you just tell him that you'd already picked up some things as they were cheap?? Why feel that you would have to hide the things to keep him happy?!

*is confused*

carolinosourus

If you bought some things simply because you were out, saw them and bought them to save time and another trip then I don't see what the problem is, especially if he only told you that he felt he needed to be involved after you bought these things.

Surely he should understand that you're not a mind-reader and should realise that you only got those bits to save time and effort on his part?

Also, if there's still more to get then he can join you for that, it should take less time than if you needed to buy everything, people will be less tired and it means there's less time for disagreements!

I have to say, it does sound like you're a little frightened of him, I don't think that I'd be concerned about telling my partner that I'd already got some stuff if I was in your situation, obviously I'm not but this is simply my own opinion

Good luck!

Edit: I wouldn't suggest hiding things because that won't help anything, if you're so scared to tell him then I would suggest there may be underlying issues here

mrcow

lindsaygalaxy wrote: »

Hello

Sorry if I didnt word it right. As its for a special time he wants us to all get it together, which I can understand.

It's not that special a time. There's more going on in the world than uniform shopping!

Text him back and tell him that you've bought it already. And that you got it 1/2 price.

But you can all go lunchbox and book bag shopping together if he'd like?

Felicity

I understand.

Why not keep the receipts for what you have bought. Go shopping with hubby and if still in the sale buy the same again, then return the stuff you bought.

If not still in the sale then come clean, buy the bits you need together and look forward to a lovely future.

You sound just like my hubby and me! x

BeenieCat

I would imagine she feels it's a bit late to come clean as he's already mentioned going out to buy it all and she didn't say anything.

OP can't you get your mum or other family member to say they bought them or something? Or can't you say you found them today, or tomorrow after you spoke to him?