i just want to give up!

traveller

Hi, I would almost certainly agree with the others that you depressed.I too I felt this way since last year.I didn't realise at first, but I too now realise I'm depressed.


One thing that has helped me Is forcing myself out of the house each day.Mon-Fri I work but weekends I would just be In the house mulling over problems ect.It has taken me a long time to force myself out-only started 2 weeks ago.My friends are doing other things/live nowhere near me now, so I don't really meet up with people.But I'm now determined to fight this for me.That may sound selfish as I have 4 children, but I'm no use to anyone If I don't force myself to realise I do infact have selfworth.

I don't necessarily have to have somewhere to go, but I must get out.National express have many £1 fares at the moment, so I have a few of them booked and I'll take my year old with me if need be-although you should try to get some time for yourself.I can't,so I'm working with what i've got,lol.

I admire your honesty, as I wanted to see my doctor but just didn't think he'd take me seriously, but i will check out one of the posted links.I wish you the very best of luck.

carolinosourus

Hi,

I can't really help with the main issue except to go and see your doctor and explain to him or her. Were you ever diagnosed with post-natal depression? Because that can hang around for a very long time and sometimes doesn't really show up at first.

What I did want to say was that even just going for a walk can really help, excercise releases 'happy' endorphins in the brain which can really help with depression or feelings of low mood, I don't know if there are any nice parks or open spaces near you but you could strap the little one into the buggy and take a book/magazine and a blanket and sit there for a little while, it may help just getting out of the house. If you do this regularly you may find that you start to feel a little better and also may feel sligtly more motivated, you may find that to start with you're forcing yourself to leave the house but after a while you may find yourself looking forward to it and walking more.

Also, I've found from personal experience that doctors are often prescribing anti-depressants but are not dealing with the cause of the depression which doesn't really help, just for reference (this is my opinion, I'm not a medical professional but the amount of my friends who have been put on them who don't really want them but want help with the cause is quite worrying)

Hope this has helped,

Caroline

poorly_scammo

I'm currently undergoing treatment for depression OP and I felt just like you, a blob.

My situation is very different to yours but I did find my GP enormously helpful.

After reading your posts I have the following to say. Apologies if any of it is harsh or unhelpful.

1. You sound as though your head is all over the place right now. You need some form of help- counselling, psychotherapy. Please go to the doctor. Take your original post with you to help. Not all doctors are insensitive morons, but you may have to be persistent. Not all are good at diagnosing depressive illnesses. Find a sympathetic one, book a double appointment if you can. I did and was referred to the psychotherapy service. It took a while to be seen but still...

2. Find out what the current situation is with regard to having any more children as at the moment you seem to be in limbo. You need to find out exactly what is going on and then, you can take things from there.

3. Your partner sounds incredibly insensitive to me. His nasty comments aren't helpful and you should try to distance yourself from his harsh words, if only mentally at the moment. You are not a blob, he is a knob. Remember this. Tell him if he wants to go to NZ, then he can. As for horrid comments re. flowers, all he is doing is putting you down. You deserve better than this. It's not fair to make you feel worse, even if he doesn't mean it.

4. You are going through a rough time. Try not to beat yourself up over what you aren't. You are a mum and your son loves you. Remember this when you feel ultra-low (hard to be positive, I know) and make an effort to get help. You deserve this.

PM me if you want and remember the folks on MSE are fab if you need to talk.

Take care of yourself.

Scammo

MadMac_2

OH, I can't add much to what has already been said, but Scammo's point no.4 sums it up for me! Your OH, whether he realises it or not, has probably made your situation worse for you and is not being the positive example he should be at present.

Talking to a professional, be it doctor or otherwise, is the most frighteningly hard step to take, but you'll feel better once you've done it and can hopefully be helped out the other side of this darkness you find yourself in.

There is always someone here to talk to, you aren't alone x

prettypoppyknickers

thank you for all your kind words it really does help to know that all you lovely people actually care and it will come back to all of you one day.

i just found out that my son is going on holiday today for 12 days (well i knew he was going to france but i thought it was just for half term) so i'm a bit worried scared and not knowing what i am going to do with myself.

well tuesday i am going to go to the doctors and then go and see my mother and just do something maybe go for a run if i can get over the fact everyone staring at me.

thank you again all of you :beer:

Mrs_Boo_Boo

Hya there. Sorry just read your reply. Just checked the relate website and yes there is a cost!!! sorry was unsure of your situation but you may find other organisations heve free telephone counselling. Best bet is counselling on the NHS via your GP which is free. Ask about a fitness scheme while your there as several of my friends have had 6 sessions free at a gym via their GP to assist with their depression for free.
Just wanted to say you are a star and you have made some goals for action which is always a good idea. Getting motivated is always difficult with depression but even if you do one thing a day you are there and successful people make goals.
Take care
XXX

bubbles1984

I hope the docs went ok today and you got to tell them everything. If not book an appt with a different doc. It was the third one I saw that actually listened to me enough to help. :j