can a parent ask for a new assessment at any time?

DUTR

[Quote Soubrette
Only when other beggars stop quoting them

Although it feels a tad unfair that he never gets the 'right' of reply to my posts....unless someone quotes him again I suppose

I'd personally like the ignore button to completely wipe out an evidence of that person to the ignoree - quotes show as blank - no evidence they've posted etc.

In all my years as a forum user I've only put 3 people on ignore and now it turns out that 66% of them are in the same week :eek:

I must be getting intolerant in my old age

Sou] Aww Honey , it almost sounds like you are jealous , I love you all and if a guy was posting on how to reduce or avoid payments then I would equally post in a flavour that he should contribute.
As said elsewhere, there is what one person thinks , what the other person thinks and what is really happening

bestmummy

DUTR my ex is working weekends not because he is kind and wants to pay for his son, how can I explain this, lets suppose he gets £1000 per month (not working weekends), this was the amount taken in consideration by CSA iniatially to calculate how much he had to pay, then he started working weekends (because he gets good money for that) and that is to pay child maintenance, do you get it now????this money he makes on weekends is not taken in consideration when calculating how much cm he have to pay,because at the time he was not doing it!!
There's only one thing i want in life and that is for my son to have a relationship with his father, it breaks my heart every single day, it will be worse when he start asking questions, it will be even worse if one day he decides he wants some contact with his father and he treats him like s*** because thats the way he treats people, he never ever cared about his son, never cared if he was alright nothing, now dont judge me because I have done an excellent job raising my son without his help, he only paid child maintenance 7 times and my son is 2 years and the last time I saw him he turns to me and say, "I will only pay if someone makes me pay", that hurts not because of the money but just to know that he couldnt care less about his son...
good for you that you are a good parent and i admire every single NRP who cares about their kids, because my kid have no father and you dont know how that hurts...(Im actually nearly crying here because this is such a sensible subject to me, thats why i never talk about this)
Anyway thanks everyone for your answers x

Zara33

bestmummy wrote: »

There's only one thing i want in life and that is for my son to have a relationship with his father, it breaks my heart every single day, it will be worse when he start asking questions, it will be even worse if one day he decides he wants some contact with his father and he treats him like s*** because thats the way he treats people, he never ever cared about his son, never cared if he was alright nothing, now dont judge me because I have done an excellent job raising my son without his help, he only paid child maintenance 7 times and my son is 2 years and the last time I saw him he turns to me and say, "I will only pay if someone makes me pay", that hurts not because of the money but just to know that he couldnt care less about his son...

Be strong for your son that's all i can really say, believe me i know it hurts like hell but you have to be the bigger, stronger person.

Good luck

DUTR

bestmummy wrote: »

DUTR my ex is working weekends not because he is kind and wants to pay for his son, how can I explain this, lets suppose he gets £1000 per month (not working weekends), this was the amount taken in consideration by CSA iniatially to calculate how much he had to pay, then he started working weekends (because he gets good money for that) and that is to pay child maintenance, do you get it now????this money he makes on weekends is not taken in consideration when calculating how much cm he have to pay,because at the time he was not doing it!!
There's only one thing i want in life and that is for my son to have a relationship with his father, it breaks my heart every single day, it will be worse when he start asking questions, it will be even worse if one day he decides he wants some contact with his father and he treats him like s*** because thats the way he treats people, he never ever cared about his son, never cared if he was alright nothing, now dont judge me because I have done an excellent job raising my son without his help, he only paid child maintenance 7 times and my son is 2 years and the last time I saw him he turns to me and say, "I will only pay if someone makes me pay", that hurts not because of the money but just to know that he couldnt care less about his son...
good for you that you are a good parent and i admire every single NRP who cares about their kids, because my kid have no father and you dont know how that hurts...(Im actually nearly crying here because this is such a sensible subject to me, thats why i never talk about this)
Anyway thanks everyone for your answers x

I do understand what you are saying 1st lets go back to the maths, lets say as you did the ex nets £1000 per month for a 40hr week and gets time and half for weekends, without overtime for 1 child csa 2 = £150 per month, now if he works overtime to make this £150 he will have to work an extra 4 hrs per week to make that up. However if this is revealed to the csa and they re-assess then the assesement would go up to £1150*15% =£173 or £3 or £4 per week.

Don't kid yourself that I'm a good parent , I have no contact (what is a good parent anyway?)
I'm sure that he cares about his child as just much as you do, it is evident though that he is not expressing it in a way that many here would like to see.
Naturally there is more behind your episode than posted (and we need not know in a public forum) of why he appears to not want to have much involvement.

A someone else has pointed out and from my own circumstance , nrp's won't always put up a fight as the system is geared against them with access.

Over a time I'm sure the ex will get used to the idea of being a father and you never know may make the move to have some involvement.

Zara33

DUTR wrote: »

Over a time I'm sure the ex will get used to the idea of being a father and you never know may make the move to have some involvement.

:eek: DUTR you been on the sauce?

DUTR

Zara33 wrote: »

:eek: DUTR you been on the sauce?

No sauce, I prolly just feel guilty cos Soubret has fallen in love with me :T

Zara33

DUTR wrote: »

No sauce, I prolly just feel guilty cos Soubret has fallen in love with me :T

Now she's gonna kill me...but i have to quote this :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Zara33

DUTR wrote: »

No sauce, I prolly just feel guilty cos Soubret has fallen in love with me :T

It has to be your way with words...right?

Soubrette

Zara33 wrote: »

Now she's gonna kill me...but i have to quote this :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Can't be me - DUTR spelt my name wrong

If he carries on like this - I might have to take him off ignore.

I'll see if he reverts back to type first though

You, my friend are a good advocate - better than he deserves

Sou

Loopy_Girl

Soubrette wrote: »

If he carries on like this - I might have to take him off ignore.

I wouldn't bother...he's quite clearly p!ssed or high as he is talking about children in a nice way.

Am pretty certain normal service (i.e a block of marble where a heart should be) will be resumed tomorrow;)

Plus it's so obvious he wants to shag Zara, you've not got a look in Sou;):D