can a parent ask for a new assessment at any time?

Zara33

DUTR wrote: »

I'm not trying to gain popularity and not chastising PWCs, just trying to understand the logic in some actions sometimes

Join the club.

Zara33

Soubrette wrote: »

And vents in quite a nasty way too :eek:

From what I remember though he seems to like you

Is that good or bad though :rotfl:

Sou

:rotfl:Dunno where you got that impression from, he certainly gives as good as he gets from me.

Zara33

overthehills wrote: »

I think we have to remember that where there are some men who don't bother because they can't be bothered and there are some men who can't be bothered (wrong choice of words) are too emotionally drained to do anything about it. Just because a dad doesn't see his kids doesn't mean he loves them any less.
Just like there are women who use the CSA because they have to and those who abuse it because they can.

Kinda agree with your post to an extent. I have every sympathy with a NRP who is emotionally drained and "can't be bothered" and i do believe they love their child, howver those that just walk away never batting an eyelid no i doubt they do love their child.

overthehills

Yes Zara. Those who walk from choice obviously have little feeling for the child.

Soubrette

Zara33 wrote: »

:rotfl:Dunno where you got that impression from, he certainly gives as good as he gets from me.

Just his smarmy replies when you call him on something - so in this thread he says to bestmummy - that's not what a best mummy would do - something like that, I can't be bothered to read back to your post to find out and then when you call him on it he says 'I'm not chastising PWCs'

No, of course not, he's not make a judgement on whether or not bestmummy is doing the right thing or not based on very little information.

He wouldn't be the sort of person to do that without actually trying to find out if it is a beneficial action for bestmummy, would he?

He wouldn't be making assumptions based on the stereotypical woe is me dead beat dad and the money grabbing PWC mum would he?

So every time someone posts something about wanting to go the CSA he has some vile personal comment to make about it, you say something and then no, it's just a general observation, he's not out to chastise PWCs.

No, of course he's not, he's fair as fair can be :rolleyes:

He likes you and so you force him to try and pretend that it's all actually above board and he's just wondering that's all.

Unfortunately it all comes undone because next time someone asks a question he cannot see past his stereotypes and makes the same nasty assumptions again. He's not like the rest of us who when caught out in our biases at least have the grace to be sheepish and to try not to let it happen again.

Did any PWC post snide assumptions about LittleJohn, or Booradley or anybody asking about ways to reduce their child maintenance liabilities? No, we all here try to answer the questions as best as we are able to from both sides of the fence.

Give me the hard but fair(er) Mitchaa any day.

Sou

Zara33

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ETA: I have spoken with him via pm and he doesn't appear as bolshy via pm as he does on the forums.

Soubrette

Zara33 wrote: »

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ETA: I have spoken with him via pm and he doesn't appear as bolshy via pm as he does on the forums.

That's because he likes you - it does not excuse the inexcusable behaviour that he shows to vulnerable new posters.

The measure of a person is not how they treat their friends.

Sou

Soubrette

Soubrette wrote: »

That's because he likes you - it does not excuse the inexcusable behaviour that he shows to vulnerable new posters.

The measure of a person is not how they treat their friends.

Sou

BTW - I'm not telling you off here

If you like him then all well and good for you, I'm glad you've found his softer side

But for posters like bestmummy then I would like her and other posters to know what type of man I feel him to be and if that takes just a little bit of sting away from his innuendos about greed and bad parenting then that makes it worth while.

Of course if you just stopped quoting him then I would have no idea what he says
Sou

overthehills

Soubrette wrote: »

Of course if you just stopped quoting him then I would have no idea what he says
Sou

The ignore button really helps doesn't it? xx

Soubrette

overthehills wrote: »

The ignore button really helps doesn't it? xx

Only when other beggars stop quoting them

Although it feels a tad unfair that he never gets the 'right' of reply to my posts....unless someone quotes him again I suppose

I'd personally like the ignore button to completely wipe out an evidence of that person to the ignoree - quotes show as blank - no evidence they've posted etc.

In all my years as a forum user I've only put 3 people on ignore and now it turns out that 66% of them are in the same week :eek:

I must be getting intolerant in my old age

Sou