Does it matter if the groom and bridesmaids don't match?!

lindaatno9

What about a lovely Ivory brocade waistcoat and cravat (or tie with a large knot)

Ruthie5

Men!? My OH will also say he really isn't bothered, then come up with something that seems to really matter to him...normally when things are at quite a late stage!!

I'm all in favour of not matching really. I think sticking rigidly to one colour can be a bit dull. If he's having burgundy, you could use something like anenomes for your inspiration and go for a range of rich colours that would be in those. I think they are beautiful...here's a link to some.

http://www.fleurette-florist.co.uk/index.php?section=87&page=853#

MsChazzer

Of course not. Mine aren't matching. Groom wearing navy pinstripe suit and bridesmaids wearing various shades of pink. Maybe if I was having a big formal wedding I'd be bothered about everyone matching, but I'm not.

ETA: Sorry if that sounds a bit snappy, it's not supposed to, I'm just a bit stressed today!

mrcow

MsChazzer wrote: »

Of course not. Mine aren't matching. Groom wearing navy pinstripe suit and bridesmaids wearing various shades of pink. Maybe if I was having a big formal wedding I'd be bothered about everyone matching, but I'm not.

lol have a think about it though.

How many weddings have you been to where you've actually noticed whether the ties match the bridesmaids? Even big fancy weddings - other people simply don't pay that level of attention.

At most weddings, all the guests really care about is how lovely the bride looks, how long are they going to have to stand around for photos and what's the food going to be like? (sorry but it's true!).

I can categorically state that the only type of people who would notice this level of detail would be other people in the same situation as yourselves who are getting married soon or who have got married recently.

All everyone else is going to be thinking is whether Auntie Maud is going to overdo it on the sherry and embarrass herself on the dancefloor like she did at the last family wedding.

kelda_shelton

see! That's the benefit of the groom wearing a kilt of many colours!! Means we can still be matchy without going matchy overboard!!

marshmallows

My Colour Scheme was merlot and champagne.
We all had some colour.
I had a very very white dress, my flowers were merlot and champagne
My bridesmaids dresses were merlot, they had flowers like mine.
The men were a bit different. Groom had champagne cravat, waistcoat and hankerchief. He had a merlot buttonhole
The other men ushers/ pageboy/ best man and both our fathers had champagne waistcoat and buttonholes, merlot cravats and hankys

So men had cravats and hankies to match bridesmaids, it doesnt have to match in a big way, whatever works for you both



Beebuzz its your wedding but you have to agree with the groom on some things lol. Maybe let him have what colour he wants to wear but get the buttonhole he wears to match the bridesmaids.

MsChazzer

mrcow wrote: »

At most weddings, all the guests really care about is how lovely the bride looks, how long are they going to have to stand around for photos and what's the food going to be like? (sorry but it's true!).

I can categorically state that the only type of people who would notice this level of detail would be other people in the same situation as yourselves who are getting married soon or who have got married recently.

That is so true! Hence why I'm not getting into a state about it.

DKLS

kelda_shelton wrote: »

see! That's the benefit of the groom wearing a kilt of many colours!! Means we can still be matchy without going matchy overboard!!

Too true, no problems matching to family tartan here. :beer:

beebuzz168

Thanks guys!

So good to have others opinions.

I think whats got me is that I've been talking for ages about having blue / grey as a colour range - it matches the aquamarine / diamond engagement ring OH chose for me - but he then throws in at some point something completely different.

TBH, I'm finding the whole wedding organising thing a bit overwhelming at the moment, and don't find that whole flowers / colours thing easy at the best of times, so the thought of just having everything matching is far easier than working out what the coordinating colours are.

All that said, I can appreciate what you've been saying about it being a bit samey, and we're not going overly formal so it's not necessary for that reason...

Think I'm going back to the drawing board on this one

beebuzz168

sal-ad_daze wrote: »

If he insists he wants maroon then choose something from the same palette of colours or even a contrasting colour,
have a go with this, it may help
http://www.brides.com/planning/receptions/colorstudio/

Am loving the colour wheel thing - getting lots of ideas!