Does it matter if the groom and bridesmaids don't match?!

beebuzz168

Argh...

My ever so lovely OH is doing my head in about this wedding!

My Landy swatch arrived today :j so I was all set to have a chat about what colours he fancied for the wedding, though all along he's been saying that it's entirely up to me. At the moment, I'm thinking maybe a light blue or a grey, so absolutely no decision made yet as you can see...

Anyhow, to get to the point, I asked him if he'd thought about cravat v tie, and what colours. He says he doesn't want a colour that matches the bridesmaids dresses, seemingly no matter what colour it is that I choose, and that he'd thought he might wear a maroon tie.

Fine, I say, we'll put the bridesmaids in maroon too - but apparently that's a ridiculous idea.

He sure does have a lot to say for someone that doesn't mind :rolleyes:

So... thoughts... do the bridesmaid and groom have to coordinate in any way to bring the photos / atmosphere together. If it helps any, we're not having any ushers, only best man & FOB to dress...

Thanking you xxx

rinroo

I am choosing to have my bridesmaids match my groom, i originally wanted yellow but my h2b wants blue so were going to work abit of both in.

At lot of people have their grooms men match the bridesmaids and the groom in a simple colour.

My bil had a silver waistcoat and cravat, and his grooms men matched the bridesmaids in a deep blue, but the men did wear a silver cravat to also co ordinate with the groom, iyswim.

sal-ad_daze

If he insists he wants maroon then choose something from the same palette of colours or even a contrasting colour,
have a go with this, it may help
http://www.brides.com/planning/receptions/colorstudio/

kte

We decided not to try and match everything, partly that my OH isn't into the matching everything up thing, and partly that we have quite different tastes...I have gone for grey bridesmaids (got skirts and tops from Phase Eight - really good price and stunning outfits which suit big and small bridesmaids)...and my OH and the ushers are wearing mainly black (he doesn't want all of them matching either, so everyone has just been told to wear a black suit)...I wouldn't worry, I think a vague theme of some kind is fine, or just as long as things don't clash horribly...and things like flowers/buttonholes will pull it all together at the end

blonde36er

Maroon and grey could work together quite nicely...

http://www.flickr.com/photos/finestationery/2923637321/

http://tastefullyentertaining.blogspot.com/2008/10/wedding-wednesday-burgundy-grey-wedding.html

val_84

Hi,

Were not having the BMs match the groom as he wanted to be slightly [STRIKE]awkward[/STRIKE] different. lol. I have 3 BMS and he has 3 Best Men so were having them in the same colour (i.e they will be in Purple and men incl my dad will have a purple cravat) whereas Groom is going for Silver or Ivory (I cant remember).

I dont think it matters if they match but me personally I wanted them to because I have a bit of OCD about things matching and looking even :rolleyes:

zzzLazyDaisy

personally i dont think it matters, but maybe he & the other men at the wedding could wear buttonholes that would pick up the colours in the bm dresses?

mrcow

No one else is either going to notice or care what colour his tie is and whether it matches your bridesmaids or not.

Let him wear what colour he likes.

And chose colours for your bridemaids that suit them.

Minxy_Bella

My OH's outfit didn't match the bridesmaids - they were in black and he was in a silver/purple cravat/waistcoat combo, although he did have a black coat, but grey stripey trousers. Nobody batted an eyelid.

Let him wear what he wants, is my opinion - it's nice that he's taking an interest and I suppose I would have gone bonkers if my OH had tried to tell me what I was going to wear LOL.

xx

loracan1

For what it's worth, my thoughts are that it's his wedding too and I can see why a bloke doesn't want his tie matching someone else's dress.

No-one's going to worry about it - and if they did, surely that says more about them than anything?

Overly matching things up can look a bit naff, you just need it not to clash badly.

Steel_2

Why not let him pick the colour he wants, pick a complementary colour for the bridesmaids that suits them and then bring them all together with the flowers?

I didn't match, but I did try to steer them around the same colour area. Hubby's suit was light grey and he didn't want to wear a cravat, cummerband etc but he was fine with a waistcoat, and chose a blue-ish silver one with similar tie.

The two bridemaids saw his waistcoat and decided on pale blue dresses with tiny rhinestones on the front. The wedding flowers were white, various blue shades, violet, purple and the occasional shot of pink.

I wouldn't say any of the blues or silvers matched each other, or that the groom matched the bridesmaids other than they were in shades of blue and silver, but once it all went together it just looked right on the day.

Interestingly, I let them all pick what they wanted and they all ended up trying to team the colours as closely as they could anyway. All the ushers turned up in grey and blue as well, which I didn't expect.