MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Would you put £10 in Kitty's birthday kitty?

Sooler

redstararnie76 wrote: »

Where I work, I'm in a small team - 7 of us, we get asked to put in around £2.50/£3 which I don't mind, however what I do object to, is that we are also then expected to pay to all go out for a meal - I struggle to afford to go out for a meal with my husband, let alone my work colleagues...

say you can't give money but you'll say a prayer for them - works when the vicar comes knocking for cash

Sooler

tallgirld wrote: »

£10 in a collection that's taking the mick!!!

yep, is it Martin's birthday coming up or something

Ivrytwr3

£10??!!!! Obviously the people in MSE towers have been working in the capital too long!

I put in a couple of quid for people i don'tknow (i work for a big organisation!) or £5 for guys/girls i know well. My 2 x bosses would usually stump up a tenner each, but then that is why they get paid the pop star wages!

ChelseaGirl

When I was a teenager in my first job, I was kind of 'pressurised' into making a contribution to a birthday fund for someone that I really didn't know or have much to do with.
Now, with benefit of age and experience, I can safely say that I would stand up for myself and would most certainly not allow myself to be pushed into giving money that I haven't got and don't wish to give.

ferf1223

I'm one who would hope whoever was doing the collection would not pass it to the new person in the office...or if they did, would acknowledge that I was new and that they were only doing so if I wanted to take part.

Our office used to do birthday/leaving collections...it was the norm to put in £5 for normal birthdays, more for important ones. One time we had 3 collections in one week (at the same time)...I was on a very good salary, but was pretty strict with my weekly spending money budget and it annoyed me to feel I had to put in £15 - though it wasn't a huge amount of money to me, it was to my weekly budget...I wondered what it was like for those on much lower salaries too where it might hurt even more. We campaigned to stop it several times - normally the total collection was over £100 (the directors usually put in £10 or £20 each) and it was very nice, but 1/2 the time the gifts purchased with the collection weren't something the person even wanted (the person who was in charge believed gifts should be a surprise, so would never really feel the person out for what they would actually like)...so really a waste...one year I got something I already had (and sold it on ebay )...but it kept on until everyone was made redundant.

Reverbe

No way! I don't know this woman and can feed myself for a week on that. I have had so many of these dilemmas as a temp - sponsorships, birthdays, weddings etc. In my last job I put in for 3 birthdays and a wedding in the 11 months I was there and that was just for immediate departmental staff.I managed to get away with saying no to other departments/occasions.

When it came to my birthday in September and also my redundancy/leaving, I never even got a verbal acknowledgement despite having put over £25 in one persons kitties alone.Sorry but in this day and age tho I'm no skinflint I just can't afford to subsidise other people's lifestyles. I hope that maybe the credit crunch will put an end to all this nonsense.

ihatebt_2

If someone asked me for £10 I'd give them a piece of my mind. If it's someone's birthday THEY should bring in cakes and that's it. No presents, no cards. End of. That's what happens at my job, people usually just send out an email to everyone saying there's some cake in the kitchen and that's it.

You can't exactly expect the struggling minimum wage earner in the warehouse, who has a family, to give 2 hours of his money to someone he doesn't know very well.

Same with leaving presents, why should I donate a fiver to someone that I've rarely spoken to?

LameWolf

I would gently explain (truthfully) that I don't "do" birthdays. By the same token, I would not expect my colleagues to do any sort of collection for mine, when it came around.

ihatebt_2

Seems that most people are against donations for birthdays, leaving, etc. But how many of you actually make a stand against it when asked to put your hand in your pocket?

Lovejoy_Peacemaker

:AIn order to be able to share with others one has to first of all have something to share!

If a person is not financially well off then they can do something else like bake a cake, make a card or simply write a letter of congratulations or anything that shows that they are wishing the other person well!

Most importantly First of all you have to take care of all of your own essential needs, then fill your own cup of abundance to overflowing and then hey presto you can freely share that overflow with all others, gratefully and happily!

But most definitely do not do anything that will empty your own cup of abundance because then how will you be able to share your abundance with the next person if you have nothing left!:A