MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Would you put £10 in Kitty's birthday kitty?

kitchpoo

I know the people well at my place of work but now only work 2 days a week with 2 children at home to feed, so I have that dilemma. Luckily it isn't a set amount so you can put in as much or as little as you want. I put less in for people I don't know so well.

alithebarman

I would feel perfectly comfortable telling my recently acquired colleagues that I did not want to contribute to Kitty's Kitty and would not feel bad about it in the slightest.

mrwurzal

A: I dont like being told what amount to give for anything, I will give what I feel is fitting to my budget etc

B: If I dont know the person I would say no straight away, why should I?

C: I dont agree with being pressured into giving full stop, so any attitude, I would state my feelings to that person and stand my ground on my feelings!

El_Presidente

Becuase you are strapped for cash right now you offer to buy Kitty a bunch of flowers, which naturally would be bought very close to the day of her birthday.

You don't say how much you're going to spend and when the time comes you simply pick up a nice but inexpensive bunch from one of the best value retailers. Remove all the tags, spruce the flowers up with a spray of water and hey presto!

At most you've spent say £2.99 and everyone should be happy. :T

Manilla

No, I wouldn't pay £10 towards Kitty's kitty and would politely explain why, eg being a new employee I don't know Kitty and £10 is very generous for someone I don't know, etc.

However, I have another dilemma. Having organised leaving/new baby collections in the past, how would you deal with those people who eagerly sign a card and then don't put any money towards a present?

To me this is, at best, dishonest as by signing the card it implies that you've contributed to the present when you haven't. When I confronted the guy who did this in front of me (although he probably wasn't alone) he shrugged and said he was wishing them well and couldn't understand my frustration. Am I being too strict or do you agree that it's really not acceptable?

JOANNESAPHINE

I am a fairly new member of staff where I work and something similar happened when I first started. The people collecting didn't ask me to give which I presumed was them being reasonable in the circumstances, it was a leaving collection. For birthdays we take in cakes or biccies on our own birthdays, leaving collections envelopes go round and it's up to you to give or not and usually only £1 or £2 is put in for a card and flowers. Did get asked to put a £10 in recently for my boss' leaving present which I did but was gutted because I only earn £50 a week and couldn't really afford it. Would have felt mean saying no and in a way wish we stopped these collections. Over the years I have put lots in for others, birthdays, weddings you name it but have not had much back myself and feel awful but I do begrudge it. I am a thoughtful person but can't afford other people's "generous" collections.

Forsure_2

I wouldnt do this, not after having been in the company for so little time, and especially seeing as I hadnt been paid and have never met the person , then no.

It happens in my workplace now, you get people coming roung asking for cash for someone you have never heard off let alone met !:A

Sooler

geri1965 wrote: »

Where I work now we don't normally bother for birthdays, but if someone is leaving an envelope gets sent around and we put in whatever we want.

and then they're instantly forgotten once they've left

jamespir

im sorry but 10 pounds is a little too much no matter how old she is id give a 1£ gladly but not ten pounds

Sooler

kevanf1 wrote: »

Oh, what's wrong with sending an e-card too? More environmentally friendly that way.

nah, just don't bother - you're there to work, it's a job not some sort of social club.