Boy/Girl sharing room

Paul_VW

Hi everyone

My wife recently had a baby boy, when he gets old enough, he will have to share his big sisters room, as I live in a 2 bed house.

I just wanted other peoples opinions on how this can work out. particularly people who have been in the same situation as me.

there possibly is room for a extension, but my finances wont allow it for a least 4 years.

Oldernotwiser

Surely not a problem for 10 years or more?

Krystaltips

We're expecting a baby any day now (was due yesterday) and if it's a boy it will be sharing with it's big sister for a good few years as we're in a 2 bed aswell... I don't think it will be a problem at all...

PasturesNew

My (female) friend shared her parents' bedroom until she was at least 13. I met her when she was 13 and, in fact, I was never aware of her moving out of there in the next 1-2 years that I knew her.

She slept behind the wardrobes at the end of their bed.

galvanizersbaby

Paul_VW wrote: »

Hi everyone

My wife recently had a baby boy, when he gets old enough, he will have to share his big sisters room, as I live in a 2 bed house.

I just wanted other peoples opinions on how this can work out. particularly people who have been in the same situation as me.

there possibly is room for a extension, but my finances wont allow it for a least 4 years.

Congrats on the birth of your son.
My two children (girl aged 5 and boy aged 6) have shared a bedroom for a good few years now as I only have a two bed.
They have bunk beds (boy at top and girl on bottom) and we sort of keep the girlie toys on one side and the boys on the other.
Seems to work fine for us
Their father has enough bedrooms for them to have one each but they prefer to share a room at his place too so it is a similar arrangement.

Nenen

PasturesNew wrote: »

My (female) friend shared her parents' bedroom until she was at least 13. I met her when she was 13 and, in fact, I was never aware of her moving out of there in the next 1-2 years that I knew her.

She slept behind the wardrobes at the end of their bed.

I know this would have been common in times gone by but personally I would have HATED that arrangement! Having said that, my son and daughter shared a room until they were 7 and 5 without any problems. I actually think it is good for children to share a room, particularly when they are little. When we had another boy the two boys shared right up until they left home and, although they had odd squabbles occasionally, they are really good at sharing and respecting other people's property and still very close. I have a vague memory that the council say children of mixed sex can share a room until they are 10 (but not 100% sure of that). However, it makes sense as this is when they are going into puberty (sometimes younger now).

galvanizersbaby

Nenen wrote: »

I know this would have been common in times gone by but personally I would have HATED that arrangement! Having said that, my son and daughter shared a room until they were 7 and 5 without any problems. I actually think it is good for children to share a room, particularly when they are little. When we had another boy the two boys shared right up until they left home and, although they had odd squabbles occasionally, they are really good at sharing and respecting other people's property and still very close. I have a vague memory that the council say children of mixed sex can share a room until they are 10 (but not 100% sure of that). However, it makes sense as this is when they are going into puberty (sometimes younger now).

I have heard this too on many other threads and I think this has been interpreted by some as you can't have a brother and sister sharing after a certain age.
This isn't the case (i.e. there is no law) - as I understand it it's only relevant to people who are in council housing.
I think others will just use their common sense as to when to separate the sexes (i.e. puberty as you say)

jackieb

My daughter shared our room until she was 5yo. We had 3 boys sharing one room, so she couldn't go in there. When we converted the loft, the 2 eldest went upstairs and my daughter shared a room with her youngest brother, until she was about 9 and he was almost 12. Not ideal maybe, but we never had a problem.

We were in a 2 bedroomed house and because we had 3 boys we were told by the council that we wouldn't get a 3-bedroomed one. So we bought our 2 bedroomed house with the intention of converting the loft (which we eventually did) and then had a daughter, so we were kind of stuck. Only managed to buy 4 bedrooms last year, and my eldest is now 25.

I wouldn't worry about it. You've a long time to get it sorted out yet!

msb5262

Yes, my DS1 and DD shared a room until they were 5 and 3, then DS1 got what used to be the baby room and DD shared with DS2 until they were 10 and 8. No problems and I agree with posters above that it's very good for children to share.

Spendless

I have a 9yo son and 6yo daughter and despite their own beds and bedrooms, they are frequently found asleep curled round each other.

Don't worrry. Congratulations on your baby.

doraexplorer

Spendless wrote: »

I have a 9yo son and 6yo daughter and despite their own beds and bedrooms, they are frequently found asleep curled round each other.

Don't worrry. Congratulations on your baby.

same in this house, dd age 4 very rarely sleeps in her own room ds 9 has 2 beds and she sleeps proberly 5 nights of the week in his spare bed. my dd does not like being on her own.

so don't worry and congrats on your new baba.

hth