Child Care & Tax for Working Or Allowance for staying at Home?

Miss_Cinnabon

Broken_hearted wrote:

His grandmother, she loved it and he loved it. I stayed with my Nana when I was young as both my parents worked so I have no problems with working mothers.
I chose to work as I enjoyed working, I was brought up to believe that it was my responsibility to work and earn my own money. If you want a nice house, cars, holidays and such then you need to work. Infact these days both adults need to work just to get the house.
If you want to stop working to stay at home then you need to accept you are going to have less, not expect other to pay for you to do it.

Don't you think leaving a 3 month old to go back to work was a bit harsh, ok you love your work but what about the child and your responsibilty to your child to just pawn it off to your granny.

I couldn't imagine leaving my kids at that age with anyone not even my own family as i want to be there as i took that role when i became a mother.

And as for your comment you don't want to pay for others to sit at home which is fine you are entitled to your opinion but stay at home mums have it just as hard as working mothers and we don't just sit at home and do nothing!

I chose to not to work as i am responsible for my kids and no one else, my partner goes off to work and earns the money and we do not have a lesser life because of it! i don't drink/smoke as i find it a disgusting habit and we prefer to do things with our kids as they enjoy quality time with mum and dad.

I agree with all that has been said regarding paying and childcare. You just need to find a balance.

We survive on 25k which to most of you doesn't seem like much but to us it's a lot of money and we don't waste our money on trivial stuff.

vodkaqueen75

I am old school too, I think if you have had children then you should blumming well stay at home and raise them till school age, whats the point in having children if you are going to fob them off at the earliest moment? and if you have to work as you cannot afford to give it up then why have children?
I have 3 children, I worked in banking up until i was nearly due with first child who is now 8 years old and i havent worked since, I now have a 5 year old and a 3 year old and i love staying at home and watching them grow! My husband works and we get tax credits, when my youngest is at school age i will then look to going back to work.
rant over!! :mad:

Broken_hearted

All well and good if you have a partner working, would your point be the same for single parents. They then have the right to live off the state for five years.

vodkaqueen75

If i was a single parent then yes i would stay at home and live off benefits until my children were all in full time education, you will never get that precious time with them again, and if i was single i very much doubt i would have 3 children!

Broken_hearted

Nice attitude to pass on to your kids "It's ok someone else will pay to support us". It's no wonder we have 2nd and 3rd generation benefit claiments.

vodkaqueen75

everyone has their own look on it i suppose, you have your views i have mine, but i saw my kids first steps, heard their first words, heard their first laugh, thats far far more important to me than anything else.

Spendless

kyle wrote:

I think the government have totally done it all wrong as the amount of children getting into trouble when they hit the teens is a problem , they have to address the problem where it all starts ie the parents ( don't shout me down for this) and lack of attention which can result in bad behaviour.

Around here there was only 2 private nurseries until about 10 years ago. One was attached to the college and neice went there whilst SIL studied for a HND. The other was attached to a school for special need children, the nursery was open to everyone but ran only in term-time. After-school clubs, holiday clubs, breakfast clubs did not exist. My sons school got a breakfast club etc only a few weeks ago. We still have our share of troublesome teens (police down are street after them twice this week :mad: ), so can we really blame nurseries and childcare for trouble making teenagers as the teens round here did not have these things. They weren't available when they were young.

Miss_Cinnabon

I don't think it is right the amount of young mothers claiming benefits as a means to get money but if you do find yourself in a situation where you need to claim for the welfare of your child then you have to do it.

There are jobs you can do that can work around your kids ie parttime, i know when we struggled for a few months when partner lost job, we didn't claim every benefit under the sun but we found jobs to do at home.

I do a lot of mystery shopping which is really good money when you get established, and the kids come with me so they don't feel left out and at the same time we are spending time together which is important.

vodkaqueen75

Today 7:52 PM
Broken hearted Nice attitude to pass on to your kids "It's ok someone else will pay to support us". It's no wonder we have 2nd and 3rd generation benefit claiments.

Thats a bit harsh isnt it? so you are saying that because i want to bring my children up myself pre school I am encouraging 2nd and 3rd generation benefit claiments? how? I am going to go back to work when my children are in full time education, I will never get these years back with them.I chose to be a mother and im going to be a damned good one, thank you.

Miss_Cinnabon

Spendless wrote:

Around here there was only 2 private nurseries until about 10 years ago. One was attached to the college and neice went there whilst SIL studied for a HND. The other was attached to a school for special need children, the nursery was open to everyone but ran only in term-time. After-school clubs, holiday clubs, breakfast clubs did not exist. My sons school got a breakfast club etc only a few weeks ago. We still have our share of troublesome teens (police down are street after them twice this week :mad: ), so can we really blame nurseries and childcare for trouble making teenagers as the teens round here did not have these things. They weren't available when they were young.

I didn't say i blamed childcare etc i said parents, if a parent does not give children attention they will rebel. If parents are out working all day then when they get in they are too tired to bother with their kids then trouble will start.

Parents have to spend one to one time with their kids regardless if they work or not we have to make time as we became parents for a reason!