MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Would you give up a £50 train seat for a pregnant woman?

Enzamolla

Certainly not. Pregnancy is a choice and it is her responsibility to pre-book her ticket.

Tiger_greeneyes

mohthom wrote: »

What is this pre-booking you speak of? How would I go about post-booking? Is there any other kind of booking? How about during-booking? What's the purpose of putting pre- before a word that implies doing something before the fact anyway?

Easy to do, you just book your ticket in advance instead of paying on the day which means you get allocated a seat rather than taking your chances. I always book my journeys on the trainline website.

Enzamolla

You're forgetting that the moral dilemma was that the person had pre-booked their ticket and hence this theoretical train has pre-booking. I'm appalled that you expect special treatment because of your life choice.

If the pregnant lady was seriously ill then it is her responsibilty to explain and to request someone's seat. It is incredibley rude to suggest people should automatically give up their pre-booked seat for someone's decision not to pre-book.

I personally always give up my seat on the train/bus for anyone looking ill, frail or disabled but this does not automatically include healthy pregnant women.

Tiger_greeneyes

smk77 wrote: »

You better use the sarcasm smiley appropriately..otherwise it suggests that you are going to get into a bickering match

Not in my book it doesn't

Marcheline

My my, there's a lot of selfish people around. I would suggest any pregnant ladies left standing on such a journey ask the nearest seated person for their seat.

If someone refuses you, try this line "my moring sickness is terrible at the moment: guess where I'll be directing the vomit"

Forsure_2

Enzamolla wrote: »

Certainly not. Pregnancy is a choice and it is her responsibility to pre-book her ticket.

Yes maybe it is someones responsibility to pre book a ticket if they are aware in advance they are tavelling and have the money to pay for a pre booked fare. Unless someone is in possession of a crystal ball or can somehow see into the future, they may need to make an unexpected journey that they would not necessarily have had to make. Maybe they dont usually get the train and whatever their situation at that time was, they found going by train at the last minute would be more beneficial. Can you seriously give a valid argument as to why you wouldnt give up your seat in this scenario ? Or is it a case of not admitting to us or to yourself, how selfish you are ?

God help you if you ever need someones help one day....say you didnt give up your seat, say the woman did stand for the whole 5 hrs, say her waters broke on the train ? You trying to tell me that seeing as you are such a decent and upstanding citizen you would not assist ?

What a charmer you are !

Forsure_2

Enzamolla wrote: »

You're forgetting that the moral dilemma was that the person had pre-booked their ticket and hence this theoretical train has pre-booking. I'm appalled that you expect special treatment because of your life choice.

If the pregnant lady was seriously ill then it is her responsibilty to explain and to request someone's seat. It is incredibley rude to suggest people should automatically give up their pre-booked seat for someone's decision not to pre-book.

I personally always give up my seat on the train/bus for anyone looking ill, frail or disabled but this does not automatically include healthy pregnant women.

And unless the woman specifically walks up to you and announces ' hey im ill and pregnant, can you please let me have your seat ' are you going to sit there until she does that ?
Most pregnant women do not want to make a fuss or are simply embarrassed to even ask someone for their seat, as we all dont just assume we should be sitting down and making you stand, but its a very different story when through no fault of your own, you are left standing and struggling when an able bodied person sits there and would prefer to be an !!!! instead !!

Feel sorry for you

garysmum_2

Why not offer to share the seat with her?one hour each.maybe others would share too.

smk77

Enzamolla wrote: »

You're forgetting that the moral dilemma was that the person had pre-booked their ticket and hence this theoretical train has pre-booking. I'm appalled that you expect special treatment because of your life choice.

It's a good job that other people do make this choice. It means that there is someone there to look after others in their old age.

Enzamolla wrote: »

If the pregnant lady was seriously ill then it is her responsibilty to explain and to request someone's seat. It is incredibley rude to suggest people should automatically give up their pre-booked seat for someone's decision not to pre-book.

Who has suggested that people should automatically give up their seat?? Who says she didn't pre-book? She has an unreserved ticket. Perhaps she booked weeks ago but the reserved seats had sold out. You don't know either way so could at least give her the benefit of the doubt!

Enzamolla wrote: »

I personally always give up my seat on the train/bus for anyone looking ill, frail or disabled but this does not automatically include healthy pregnant women.

So the bus goes around a corner too quick or stops to soon sending a healthly women flying. That'll soon erase the healthy status you have assumed of the woman AND the baby.

hanny

I find it very sad that so many people would not give up their seat. Now if it was for one of the spoilt brats that proliferate these days that's a different matter. I've lost count of the number of times I've given up my seat for a lady only for her to install her brat instead. It should be like it is in Canada (or was 20 years ago anyway!) - kids aren't guaranteed a seat and if they get one have to pay full price!