The Compers Inn - Part 18

tttJay

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:I had put aside this afternoon to catch up on some comps.......just my luck :rolleyes: Hate Bank Holidays too......no post......and no cards on my Birthday on Monday, they should be made to deliver just cos it is !!

essexgal

divadee wrote: »

What would you guys do and how far would you take it?

((((to Divas DD))))

what would I do.......?

a) take her to the doctors and get her checked over - make sure it's noted on her records. If he's quite strong he could (in theory) have caused her internal injuries....especially as he does kickboxing.

b) take photos over the course of the next few days as the bruises will probably take a while to come out - and you want to get a copy of the worst looking ones

c) demand an interview with the head teacher at the earliest opportunity - i.e. Monday morning - take notes whilst there. Just say it's for you to refer back to (you may wish to take legal action)

d) write follow up letter detailing said conversation and copy to the local education authority.

At the end of the day the school has a duty of care towards your daughter - she shouldn't ever be in a position where she is attacked by another child - autistic or not - if his problems are that bad then, although I am very sorry for him/his parents, perhaps he would find it easier if he was somewhere with staff more used to dealing with him.

Also echo what sfh said - phone and ask the police for their advice - if nothing else you can drop 'the police have advised me' into your conversation with the head teacher......

essexgal

essexgal

forgot to ask..

do you know whether there have been any other 'incidents' involving this child - if you know he has anger issues just wonder whether any other children have been at the receiving end of his anger.

essexgal

Matryoshka

I've now caught up. Phew

chris08

Morning all:cool:
Divadee glad dd ok.
I dont think illness should be used as an excuse for doing wrong. I think everyone is capable of boundaries, and knowing right from wrong. So I think meeting with head parents, and children, to make sure he knows he did wrong, would probably help

Prozac not helping me much either at mom, going to go and see doc again soon, since dad, just felt blaaargh, tierd all time, not bothered with nothing, havent been out with mates for bout 4, weeks now, could be my thryoid though, due blood test, we,ll see
Solar:cool:

cathyj

divadee wrote: »

morning all. what a day yesterday, i was all happy as i now have a week off work yyiippee, went to pick up little miss divadee (whos 11) from school and she came out really upset. I asked what was wrong and basically some boy pushed her to the ground by grabbing her neck and kicked her hard in the stomach 3 times, the back 4 times and the shoulder 4 times.

I was on the way home already in the car when the full story came out, so couldnt go straight back in. What worried me more was that little miss divadee was more worried about being told off in school as when he pushed her to the ground she landed on his arm and he went off to hospital afterwards as they thought he might of fractured it ( i hate to say but in a way good he needs to know about actions and consequences).

The story I have got (and had it confirmed by 2 witnesses) is they were playing a game together about 5 of them. Boy A (the one who kicked her) just came up behind DD grabbed her round the neck she fell to the floor and whilst doing so landed on his arm, he got angry as she hurt him and proceeded to kick nine shades out of her.

The only slight problem I have in all this, is that Boy A is autistic, he is a highly intelligent autistic and the only trait he has is anger issues and ADHD. Mr divadee is absolutely livid, and he is saying that it doesnt matter if he has special needs or not, it still shouldnt of happened. If he has anger issues then he should be appropriately supervised (which i do agree with). The teachers have done nothing about this at all. I wasnt called in about the incident, The only time i found out was when DD came out of school as normal!!

She has bruising all on her stomach, arms and legs. Her shoulder is causing her pain (but just bruising i think no broken bones).

I am going to write to the school, but feel it may get overlooked slightly as Boy A has special needs. The school have said in the past to a friend of mine with a simlar incident (different boy) that he didnt mean it, and wouldnt of known he had done wrong etc.. but in my mind thats not a good enough answer. I also found out last night that his mum takes him kick boxing to try and help him release his anger!!!!! My god to me that just smacks of giving an angry person the tools to hurt someone!!

what would you guys do. Please dont think I am being horrible about children with special needs, Im not, but I feel that especially if they have anger issues they need to be properly supervised almost 1 on 1 attention. so this doesnt happen again.

What would you guys do and how far would you take it?

Diva,
speaking as a school governor,

1. take photos of the injuries

2. As daughter to write down what happened while fresh in her mind, as things may get forgotton over the holiday

3. Write to the head, sending a copy to the Chair of School Governors explaining you only found out when you were at home as dd was frightened she would get into trouble over the boys injuries
you wold like answers as to why the teachers did not have not done anything, what makes the boy think he is allowed to do this to another child, where his TA or playground supervisor when this happened,

Diva, this cannot be allowed to rest and I would be horrified if this was to happen at my school.
You have every right as a parent to have your questions answered and insist that the child gets punished, these children are taken and treated like anyother child. With these special needs issues he should be allocated his own ta etc.

Also ask the witnessses for written statements, this will only add to your case.

Please do not let it go, I can always help you as to what action needs to be taken.

I do hope your daughter is ok, may be best to get her injuries checked out to be on the safe side

x

cg1982

morning all i won on galaxy again this morning 4th time in 4 days donating the book to fellow mser who has not won on it yet.
what a lovelly day here forum upgrading again doh i have to go out from 10- whatever time helping an old lady around the road do her cleaning and washing ect
ive noticed the mars comp is being tight .
oh no i just remembered i got ironing to do fantastic not.


good luck all

scottishfreebiehunter

tttJay wrote: »

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:I had put aside this afternoon to catch up on some comps.......just my luck :rolleyes: Hate Bank Holidays too......no post......and no cards on my Birthday on Monday, they should be made to deliver just cos it is !!

We dont seem to take the Bank holiday up here this Monday and tbh thank goodness as ds will be at school yippeee :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:;)
Tell your family and friends you should be getting there cards today and Happy Birthday when it comes :Dxx

Chris- Prozac either works or it doesnt according to my doc and can take a good 4 weeks to do so, it didnt agree with me but hope it starts working for you xxxx

Agree with Cathy and essex Diva you get her checked out as no harm in doing so xx

melvis

:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad: I'm having a bad morning and I've only been awake an hour :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

Woke up and Izzy wasn't in bedroom, either rude boy has opened bedroom door or drunken OH has left it open but she'd managed to get herself locked in the living room. Let her out and walk in to living room to find dog poop EVERYWHERE :eek::eek: 3 piles of it then about 20 poopy dog prints on carpet, poopy dog prints on sofa and on quilt cover (we keep quilt in living room for chilly nights, can't afford the fire :rotfl::rotfl:)

Have picked up all poop and squirted vanish mousse but now have to go and scrub all paw prints off carpet, wash sofa covers and quilt cover :mad::mad: so Izzy's barred to the garden so I don't throttle her :rotfl::rotfl:

scottishfreebiehunter

:eek: I take it that will be from all the dog food she stole yesterday:eek:
I know how you feel got up to poop on a good few occasion and its disgusting get all those windows open and then go out and get some fresh air.
Bet she ran away and hid as mine does when this happens