Pre nup

twinklyrach

This makes me a sad panda

Judging you is the last thing I want to do; I'm a child of divorce and understand that marriage isn't always for life - but if you're getting married in church (I can't remember the registry office vows), then you will be saying in front of everyone 'All that I am I give to you, and all that I have I share with you'. There isn't much getting around that.

I went into marriage with my eyes open and knowing how things could turn out but believe with my heart and soul that we'll make it through. While it's difficult to know everything just from a forum post, it sounds like you might have niggles already - and if you do, please please please think very carefully about getting married. There's no harm or shame in putting it off while you think things through.

I know this is odd, coming from someone who is already married, but there is no reason, none at all, why you have to sign that certificate to prove that you love someone. Please take time to think about this - if she's right for you, she'll still be there once you've made your decision.

zzzLazyDaisy

To OP - your OH can't sign away her statutory rights to a share of your pension in a pre-nup. In the event of a divorce the pension splitting laws would still apply. It might be that, as often happens, the right to a share of the pension is waived during the divorce negotiations in return for, say, a larger share of the house (or whatever) but the pension would still be taken into account.

This is why the pension splitting laws were introduced - to protect women who sacrificed their own careers and pension security to raise children and take care of the home, only to find themselves in old age divorced and with little or no pension, while the ex-husband had used his time wisely to salt as much money as possible into his pension where - in those days - it was untouchable.

suki1964

Its a sad reflection on where we are as a society that we plan for the divorce before the marraige

To keep on topic - pre nups are not legal in the UK as yet

BeenieCat

Evansangel wrote: »

But i wouldn't dream of getting a pre nup, i dont think we'll get divorced. But i think he is entitle to some of my pension seeing as he is giving up work so i can have a career in the future

x x

Remember anyone in reciept of child benefit has their stamps paid in for their state pension - so if that's the case, maybe let him have it paid in his name?

Crispy_Ambulance

Why are you getting married if you think you'll end up divorced?

If you are thinking about this, then I suggest you are not ready to make this kind of commitment.

seven-day-weekend

blondeman wrote: »

Hi,

I have lived with my partner for 11 years we have a 2 year old and are getting married in June.
Is it worth whlie trying to protect my pension with a prenup?

Cheers

Blondeman

No, they are not legally binding in the UK.