Help with non payment from father

steeler1

I can understand what you are going through to a certain extent, but agree with Loopy Girl. It may be best for you to try and move on, you have your children and your ex is paying something. If you report him to the tax office he may decide not to contribute anything at all. This will get you down. The CSA are rubbish, I know from experience. My ex is laughing at me-but I have my childrens love and respect, they know I have struggled to pay my way and am also in debt. They have no respect for their father now as they have seen what is going on-they are teenagers and you can't hide things from them! However, I still encourage them to see him every week and chat on phone to him-he's lost out.
I really hope you get this sorted-life's too short to be unhappy.

LizzieS_2

wen1 wrote: »

He is very high earner and what he earns in a month is someone wages for a year.

In that case, you are entitled to claim some of the school fees via the courts, in addition to csa payments (CSA is limited to income of £3K pm).

It seems strange you are broke though when you are paying your own legal fees (must have capital otherwise yoiu would get legal aid as appears lost job too).

The best course of action is to keep onto the csa, but more importantly get the finances on divorce sorted through the courts.

wen1

Written in about the same problems as many others of absent parents not paying there way for there children.
But luck is on my side because the last week things have changed.
My estranged husband left me and children for someone else and now he left her just over 2 weeks ago for another.
What comes around, go's around.:rotfl:
His ex-girlfriend contacted through the solicitors to give her call. I was surprised but at the same time thinking is this set up.
Anyway I met her and she told me that they had parted and now he has set up home with another woman.
It paid off putting aside my feelings and hatred for this women, she has changed my life.
Interesting meeting because she given me all his bank statements and work contracts for last year and half and also the forged statements that he submit to CSA and for the divorce.
He as informed to CSA that he was unemployed and could not pay which is a joke as he is earning over £15,000.00 per month.
It will be interesting the next few months for my estranged ex with court for perjury and CSA chasing him now.
I have to say us women must stick together.