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MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Should Lofty hold out for his dream job?

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  • Bismarck
    Bismarck Posts: 2,598 Forumite
    Take the job. Make a plan and either succeed from within or plan the next move- preferably try and do both. Its easier and cheaper to apply for other jobs than it used to be and if he wants to make it happen, he'll get every chance. It's up to him in the end but being sat at home is asking for trouble with the current climate.
    For what I've done...I start again...And whatever pain may come ...Today this ends... I'm forgiving what I've done -AF since June 2007
  • Voyager2002
    Voyager2002 Posts: 16,283 Forumite
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    I don't agree with the question is posed... You don't WAIT for a good job, you exert yourself and go out and get it. If Lofty is being serious about his job hunt, he simply won't have time or energy to do much work in the supermarket.

    He should also note that someone who has been unemployed for more than a few months, or has spent too much time doing a low-level job, is not going to make the shortlists for the kinds of jobs he wants. The way round this bind is to do voluntary work for some kind of charity or good cause, making sure that he gets work experience that is relevant to his career goals so that he can develop appropriate skills and demonstrate achievement using them. He would also be giving back to the community in return for the benefits enabling him to live.

    Personally, I lost my research job in October 2007. One of the things that I have done with my "spare" time since then is to serve as a trustee (director) of a dynamic charity and this has given me experience of processes at senior management level. I have talked about these quite a bit in the (many) job interviews I have been to, and in particular in the interview for my new job (I start next week). It worked for me: I shall be going from a zero income to a six-figure 'package'.
  • gizzie121
    gizzie121 Posts: 79 Forumite
    Just goes to show how pointless a degree is these days!
  • 1ec
    1ec Posts: 14 Forumite
    Of course he should take the supermarket job in the meantime. Why should I pay for him to be picky? - he shouldn't have the choice of not working if he is able to do so. I understand his frustration but there are other good reasons for working - employers are more likely to take on someone in work (including voluntary activities) than doing nothing; he will gain knowledge and skills as no experience is wasted; he will earn some respect, including self-respect and there may be more senior opportunities in this company or others in the sector.
  • I don't think the options are, "either a) start stacking shelves or b) wait for future possible job". And that awful word wait seems to give all responsibility for his happiness to someone else, and on those dreaded interview skills and other slightly arbitrary factors, such as the state of the economy.

    I think he has to either work part-time whilst trying to work towards his dream job in the rest of the time through volunteering and further qualifications (a postgraduate diploma or so), or b) claim benefits and busy himself through volunteering and continued study.

    Whlst it's great to have a dream, as an ambitious graduate, working full-time in Tesco might hurt that, if it's not a graduate trainee or other relevant position. Part-time or claiming benefits might be better if either enables Lofty to volunteer and do further study towards his goal - maybe even setting up his own enterprise - that's the ultimate 'taking responsibility' for his own happiness, after all.

    If claiming benefits enables him to better busy himself in these ways, with a time-frame and a plan for where he wants to be and how he’s going to make it happen, I’d go for it. You have to think medium-long term with these things. But if it makes him sit around I’d go part-time at Tesco – the dullness should motivate him to pursue better things!

    If he thinks he can be a Tesco Manager and make a career of that, and actually wants to more than other things then why not full-time - but I suspect his dream lies elsewhere. If so, he needs to work towards and not undermine that.
  • Atelier1975
    Atelier1975 Posts: 4 Newbie
    edited 22 April 2009 at 2:09AM
    I don't think the options are, "either a) start stacking shelves or b) wait for future possible job". And that awful word wait seems to give all responsibility for his happiness to someone else, and on those dreaded interview skills and other slightly arbitrary factors, such as the state of the economy.

    I think he has to either work part-time whilst trying to work towards his dream job in the rest of the time through volunteering and further qualifications (a postgraduate diploma or so), or b) claim benefits and busy himself through said activities. Why not make the goal some form of self-employment or personal enterprise, thus taking yet more responsibility for his own happiness? In any case, if part-time paid dead-end work undermines the volunteering/study/enterprise, then it might be as well to go on benefits for the sake of achieving the longer-term goals, if they seem realistically achievable.

    He should plot a path, with a timeframe and clear steps needed to achieve what he wants. It's not enough - as a mature graduate, unfortunately - to think one will just get a degree and then get the right job.

    As an ambitious graduate, working full-time in Tesco might hurt his having a dream, if it's not a graduate trainee or other relevant position, not capable of giving him the interesting life he's looking for. If his excitement lies elsewhere, he needs to work towards and not undermine achieving that - neither through waiting nor by simply settling for the nearest fruit, so to speak.
  • keet83
    keet83 Posts: 226 Forumite
    don't take the job you'll get too settled and it'll slow you down or even stop you looking for your dream job. keep looking and just watch your money, only take the job if you need the money desperately.
    [STRIKE]Beggars cant be choosers, but savers can![/STRIKE]
    That used to be the case :mad:
  • ailuro2
    ailuro2 Posts: 7,540 Forumite
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    Who knows who you'll meet when shelf stacking?

    More jobs are available via word of mouth, and already having a foot in the door of a company than going down the job centre and waiting for the perfect job to come along.

    He needs to get his backside out there and try and find work.

    Of course the other half of me says leave the lower paid jobs for those who can't find one with better pay, if he has someone who can support him financially.
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  • KT1985
    KT1985 Posts: 291 Forumite
    Lofty needs to get a job- any job will do for the time being.

    The job market (or lack of it) is currently so scary, that to have anything is worth doing.

    He should apply, but quite possibly will be over qualified, or will come across as not really wanting the job- even shelf stacking is highly customer service motivated. If he then got the job he would learn lots of skills that are transferrable to other places of work, and show resilience and willingness.

    From a money point of view, I thought that JSA required you to be looking for work, and to accept any reasonable offers of employment? lofty doesn't really seem prepared to do this.

    So... I think he should apply for a lowpaying job (which he might not necessarily get) whilst perhaps continuing to train, ie doing ECDL or some relevant OU study.

    :D
    :jMummy to 2 small 4 year old bundles of mischief!:j
  • tallgirld
    tallgirld Posts: 484 Forumite
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    edited 22 April 2009 at 7:11AM
    He should take the shelf stacking job until his dream job turns up. But with a name like Lofty he might be waiting for a long time :-)

    When I finished my studies I DRIED PLATES at a hotel. (only did it for a day though)!!!!
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