In such a mess....

Lalaladybird

My life is so chaotic and I need to do something about it. The house is constantly in a mess. I can never find anything (keys, shoes, purse, clothes pegs, a cardigan I was wearing only an hour before, my nectar card/advantage card/clubcard....) My husband has never loved my cooking so although I still prepare food from scratch I hate doing it and it always seems to turn out wrong nowadays. I have been trying to lose weight all year and have lost no weight at all. I am trying to grow out a too short haircut but it won't grow past my shoulders. I'm supposed to start a new job in about three weeks and we move house in 2 weeks.:eek::eek::eek:

My husband doesn't recognise the woman he married as I am so different (I was attractive, efficient and a neat freak) and neither do I. What has changed? We had a baby.....life is turned upside down in the early days but a year and a half on and I still can't get my life in order.

Where do I start. I want to wake up one morning to find everything in order but that's not going to happen

Please give me some advise

lala x

Penny35_2

Ahh poor you. I cant offer much advice, but cant hubby help you get house organised it would at least be a start.

As for hair, go to a great hairdresser ( l love T&G pricey but very good) and tell them you are trying to grow it but want it to look nice and you will be amazed it will be like a tranformation.

Good Luck

sooz

moving house is the perfect time & excuse to sort this out. You need a huge clear out of all the stuff you don't use. You have two weeks to do this, & this will greatly help in the new place, with only one week til the new job.
start slowly, by packing boxes of stuff you will need in the first few weeks...or atleast making a list as you'll probably find you need those things day to day anyway.

Then go room by room. Start with the baby's room. Little stuff is easier...infact anything but your own stuff is the easiest to do. Leave yours til last, & get help from a trusted friend for that. If you are planning another baby, & not getting rid of everything, label it all into sizes & colours & ages. Then box up, clearly labelled for the loft/garage etc. Keep a copy of all lists on your computer, so you don't have to go up there to hunt through boxes to find things!

If you really can't face chucking loads out now, put stuff you think you don't need into boxes, straight into your new loft or garage, clearly labelled with contents, & an expiry date to throw it out in 1 year's time if still unopened. then do throw it out. Don't keep the stuff forever...



Try looking at the old style board, & joining the fly lady thread.

fernliebee

I was going to say the same as sooz. For me, I was always disorganised and chaotic, I used moving house before baby was born, and becoming a mum as catalyst's to change. I'm not perfect by anyone's standards (probably chaotic and messy by many peoples ) but My house is generally tidy and clean as I have chucked so much stuff out, and I can find what I need as I usually prepare the day before.

My only advice (apart from flylady ) is to get stuck in, and chuck stuff out!!

Good luck with it, and hope the move goes ok.

catherine_h_2

You poor thing, I feel like that every now and then....... everything gets on top of you and before you know it you're ready to hide in a corner and cry, hoping it will miraculously sort itself out:rolleyes: And thats without a baby:eek:
When I'm like this I find the best thing is to start with one thing I really NEED to sort out & then something I WANT to sort out(kinda like rewarding myself:o) and alternate like that.

Why don't you start off by sorting out 1 room for the house move then 'reward' yourself with a trip to the hairdressers It's lovely relaxing and knowing you've 'earnt' it:D:D
If you're competitive it works wonders:D

Do you have relatives nearby who'd look after your little one?? My sister does this regularly to my poor mum so at the end of the day while my sisters house is spotless my mums is wrecked:rotfl:

And also get your OH to help, even if it's just the washing up, it's one less thing for you to worry about:D
And don't make work for yourself, if you wash your pots, leave them on your drainer to dry instead of using a tea towel... its more hygienic too. and pile the stairs with stuff to go up/down and each trip take something with you.......can you tell I've done this once or twice???:o

Have you tried making some things fun and get your little one to help, my sister has her 2 kids running round the house putting stuff in its proper place while she's on her butt with a brew and a stopwatch......whichever kid is fastest gets a treat:rolleyes::rolleyes:

I hope you manage to feel better soon and hopefully more organised;)

nzmegs

it sounded like i was reading about myself. I am also pretty "relaxed" about housework, an enthusiastic but poor cook, am growing out a very short hair style - my hair is very thick and is growing outwards instead of downwards. I also have been trying to lose weihgt and much to my husbands frustration i have managed just 10 pounds in one year...

Sometimes i also feel that I am pretty much useless compared to the expectations placed upon me. I get around this by looking at the things which i am good at. My job, being a Mum, knitting, sewing, writing. I am a good friend and tactful and caring.

Can you see the good in yourself? make a list of those things you are good at and put them on the priority lists next to the housework and cooking. you will see what is more important.

bunty109

I just wanted to offer you some virtual hugs. None of us are super-woman!

I'd second getting the haircut recommendation: you'll feel so much better in yourself for that and then perhaps you can tackle other things when you feel like it.

Moving house sounds like the perfect opportunity to tackle some of your issues: maybe think about setting up a place in the new house where you'll religiously put all your important documents/cards etc so you don't lose them?

harlina

Lalaladybird wrote: »

My life is so chaotic and I need to do something about it. The house is constantly in a mess. I can never find anything (keys, shoes, purse, clothes pegs, a cardigan I was wearing only an hour before, my nectar card/advantage card/clubcard....) My husband has never loved my cooking so although I still prepare food from scratch I hate doing it and it always seems to turn out wrong nowadays. I have been trying to lose weight all year and have lost no weight at all. I am trying to grow out a too short haircut but it won't grow past my shoulders. I'm supposed to start a new job in about three weeks and we move house in 2 weeks.:eek::eek::eek:

My husband doesn't recognise the woman he married as I am so different (I was attractive, efficient and a neat freak) and neither do I. What has changed? We had a baby.....life is turned upside down in the early days but a year and a half on and I still can't get my life in order.

Where do I start. I want to wake up one morning to find everything in order but that's not going to happen

Please give me some advise

lala x

its called life we all change nothing stays the same and there are worse things in life to moan about! And if ur hubby aint satisfied change him for a new one

sooz

I agree you should treat yourself after doing one job on your list. Do the baby's room, & then go out & buy a new purse that all your cards fit into. I finally found one, & it means I don't tear round the house like a mad woman looking for my oyster/nectar/tesco/boots/gym membership card on the rare occasions I actually need it.
Now every card goes into my new larger purse, purse goes in handbag, handbag goes on buggy handle in hallway. And it's always there It only took me 4 years to work that one out!

webitha

Lalaladybird wrote: »

My life is so chaotic and I need to do something about it. The house is constantly in a mess. I can never find anything (keys, shoes, purse, clothes pegs, a cardigan I was wearing only an hour before, my nectar card/advantage card/clubcard....) My husband has never loved my cooking so although I still prepare food from scratch I hate doing it and it always seems to turn out wrong nowadays. I have been trying to lose weight all year and have lost no weight at all. I am trying to grow out a too short haircut but it won't grow past my shoulders. I'm supposed to start a new job in about three weeks and we move house in 2 weeks.:eek::eek::eek:

My husband doesn't recognise the woman he married as I am so different (I was attractive, efficient and a neat freak) and neither do I. What has changed? We had a baby.....life is turned upside down in the early days but a year and a half on and I still can't get my life in order.

Where do I start. I want to wake up one morning to find everything in order but that's not going to happen

Please give me some advise

lala x

and there you have it, my lot is nearly 10 (he wont say hes 9 lol), 7 and a 4 year old amd im the same, coz the LO is not 18 months they are even more hard work as they are into everything , and stressing about it will only make you worse, get LO and OH to help, and soon they will grow up leave home, and then we can get some proper sleep, and a tidy house again :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Lalaladybird

Thanks for all the replies :happyhear

I just feel that life my doesn't have to feel so out of control just because I'm a mummy! I only have the one....a lot of mummies have more than that and seem to manage ok. I know that I am lacking discipline in every area of my life. If I hadn't let things slide (house/appearance/diet etc) I wouldn't be feeling like such a failure. I spend my days playing with my dd and taking her out to the park etc...so I know I'm doing the most important job right but I am neglecting myself and the house in the process. I need to get some balance.

I tidied out my purse and bag while watching a cartoon with my dd this afternoon then we went on a walk to the supermarket and I got the ingredients for Gordon Ramsey's lasagne (hopefully OH will like it) and I am going to clean the house once dd goes to bed until I drop or get distracted by the book I'm reading :rotfl: I'll try to fling some things in a box for the move tonight too (maybe). Tomorrow I will book an appointment for a haircut and if I have any energy left tomorrow night once dd is in bed I'll paint my nails and toenails.

I'll post my progress or stumbling blocks

lala xx