Wedding Invites gone out but "no thanks"

Lemon_Tree

rsvp's or lack of really did my head in, we did everything cept write them and post them back for the guests, gave them 6 weeks, even gave them the rsvp card as it had the menu on the back, still ended up chasing people. I got so frustrated and kept thinking that it must be an alien concept to many people. i even got told my my MIL that those in Italy would let me know a week before the wedding if they were coming! told her 'i don't think so!'

val_84

Hi, We have had some trouble with RSVPs, I think I have sent out about 80 so far and had about 30 responses. We put in our invitations address, mobile number and email address (wonders of modern technology) Im not inviting much of my family, the close family got invitations but it was more like I am not accepting no as an answer so i wasnt expecting anything off them but my OHs mum and his dad have both RSVPd which I thought was a bit strange. Lol.

I would start chasing up, I just sent a quick text and email to a few of them to double check they got them and if they could let me know as soon as if they would be able to make it so I can keep track of numbers

Sparkle80

This is driving me mad at the moment too! Our RSVP date was last week and we are still waiting on some reply's, this is for day guests. We even included stamped addressed envelopes but it still seems like too much trouble to put it in the post box! We gave everyone six weeks so it's not as if they've had no time to reply.

I think some people are just like that, you could give them six months to reply and you would still be waiting.

Blackpool_Saver

siren13577 wrote: »

I'm not sure if this counts for everyone but I wonder if people know what RSVP means, I'm not trying to be insulting but when my brother sent out his wedding invites he asked me what RSVP meant and said when I told him 'I wondered why you sent a letter accepting'

Wow, that really is scary, what the heck are they teaching in schools nowadays????

bluezone

Hi ladypink,

I had the same problem on my first wedding so this time I have sent a reply card (looks like a postcard) with each invitation and have said to people that if I dotn get thier reply by the rsvp date I will put them down as not coming. Local invites have not had stamped reply cards but people and family living more than 45 ins away I put a stamp on their reply card so they only have to write their name and tick yes or no and pop it in the post! This applies to family as well. I t may seem harsh but if people cant be bothered to put a stamp on a card or even pay tuppence for a phone call then maybe they shouldnt come.
If you really are worried about family members then give them a call yourself and drop into the conversation that you need final numbers and other people have not sent reply cards etc.

funky_snow

Point of view from a guest...
1. until you become a bride you don't realise the stress and hassle caused by unconfirmed numbers
2. if theres no date on the rsvp - people tend to have so much on in their own lives that it gets put aside to deal with later, because they don't see an urgency and then maybe remember a couple of weeks before the wedding when they need to sort out travel and outfits!
3. may seem silly but in this day and age I rarely have cards/stamps available as i never seem to post anything - I lost count the number of weekends I knew I had to do something but actually forgot to go buy a thankyou card and stamp
4. in the end i sent an email to the bride to pass on to her mum (where the rsvps were supposed to be sent)

Suggestions for reply cards, even already stamped are great. But in todays world providing an email or phone number would be great.Granted it may not have the old fashioned charm of receiving a card and will not work for older generations (although they're probably the ones that do reply!) but it gets the job done...
And failing that - another job to add on to the list is to phone the 'no replies'...

floss2

funky_snow wrote: »

Point of view from a guest...
1. until you become a bride you don't realise the stress and hassle caused by unconfirmed numbers It is good manners to respond to an invitaiton to accept or decline
2. if theres no date on the rsvp - people tend to have so much on in their own lives that it gets put aside to deal with later, because they don't see an urgency and then maybe remember a couple of weeks before the wedding when they need to sort out travel and outfits! Most women I know take more than a couple of weeks to sort out their outfits!
3. may seem silly but in this day and age I rarely have cards/stamps available as i never seem to post anything - I lost count the number of weekends I knew I had to do something but actually forgot to go buy a thankyou card and stamp Perhaps you could write a little reminder or a list?
4. in the end i sent an email to the bride to pass on to her mum (where the rsvps were supposed to be sent) Better than not bothering!

Personally I think it is rude to not bother replying - but I appreciate that others are not so thoughtful.

MoneySaver82

We put reply cards in ours - used one of the VistaPrint business card offers - and got back a big majority - although suprising how many people either didn't put their name on or forgot to tick Yes/No!!! Thankfully I had written numbers on the back so I could match the card up to the guest if they forgot to put their name.
It was amazing though how some people just didn't bother to reply at all - we assumed those who didn't were not coming and figured it would be their embarrassment on the day not ours - tho we had enough food for more people and left some space to squeeze in extra chairs if needed!
OH did have to phone round a lot of his friends - never occurred to most of the single blokes to respond!