Wedding Invites gone out but "no thanks"

ladypinkof66

I have recently sent out my day wedding invites mainly to close family and friends, and was hoping that i would have some sort of response as to whom might be coming - or do I assume everyone invited is. Is it not the norm nowadays for close family to reply saying they are coming or not ? I thought that it was courtesy to reply to say yes I intend to go.

Also i have sent out most of my evening invites too and dont seem to have had any response either, some of my work colleagues who i consider to be close to have not even acknowledged that I gave them an invite i know they received them as i left them on their desks as they do a different shift to me (I have seen them since i gave them out)
I am beginning to think that perhaps it will only be me and the groom at the wedding.

Has anyone else encountered this, or perhaps i am worrying unnecessarily.

whitewing

We got married 1.5 hours from home (even further for most of our relatives), and loads turned up; more distant rellies even made a special effort. We were touched by how many made the effort.

We put RSVP and most replied by that date (but not until the date), and we left it open in our minds. However, we catered ourselves so it didn't matter too much.

No, it won't just be you. And you'll have a wonderful time.

(I was most worried that the groom wouldn't turn up, lol)

BodyShopBabe_2

Hi ladypink,

The complete lack of RSVP did my head in!! I think out of the 60 day invites and 30 evening invites we had about 20 reply from the day and 15 for the evening. I even put a RSVP date which was about 6 weeks from the date I sent them out.

None of our families replied I think people just assume you know they are going. It makes it really difficult for catering numbers.

My Mum and Best Man who are from different sides of the family both had to phone round everyone a week before the final catering numbers were needed.

It added unnecessary hassle but ultimately 95% of the people we invited came and all had a great time.

Is there someone you can delegate to call round to put your mind at rest?

x

alfiesmum

Ask your chief bridesmaid, to find out for you - that's on their list of jobs to do I bet! Or one of the mums, or similar perhaps? They would do the family ones for you anyway. Did it have RSVP on the invites?

I always reply with a little handmade card to say the yay or nay. Don't worry - it'll be a packed house I'm sure hun!

ladypinkof66

i only have 1 bridesmaid and she is only 13 so i doubt she will be up to it, plus my mother has passed away so i dont have anyone on my side to be able to do it, my fiances mother may be able to assist so i might ask her in a few weeks to check with her side of the family, needless to say all my close friends who have been invited were so privileged they sent me rsvp cards back within days.
i did put rsvp on the invitation so i guess they must think i have to assume they are coming.

thanks all for your help

*Louise*

I am the same - sent my invites out in January - only got 5 cards back

Got request from the venue to have the final numbers and payment withing the next few weeks, got my mum to ask round a few rellies and they said 'of course they are coming'...jeez, I'm not psychic lol.

Out of 40 people - all 40 will be there - phew

McKneff

a friend of mine learnt from another friends mistake, so she put acceptance/decline cards in with her invitations and got a 99% result

ClaireN75

We're going through this at the moment. I would say if you put RSVP on the invite and a date then you should expect a reply.

80% of ours replied on time, more or less, and we sent email reminded to the 20% of which most have replied (even if it's a "not sure") but we still haven't heard even a peep from a few guests.

I can't believe they assume we know they're coming so I just have to chalk it down to rudeness. Equally we had a few invitees moaning at us for one thing or another to do with the invitation, without even bothering with a "congratulations". I hope I've never been such a rude guest in the past!

People are funny, but I'm sure it won't just be the two of your on the day

Edit: I should add it is an on-line RSVP (as we have invitees on three different continents) so even cost of postage can't be an excuse!

embooze2006

We are having fun with this at the moment. Ask of my family have replied but none of my other halfs have. Our date to have all r.s.v.p back is friday so OH says if they don't reply but then they arent coming which is fine with me as it will save us a big chunk of money lol

tessie_bear

we had this....i think people just assume u know they will be coming iyswim.....makes things difficult for u though...im sure replies will start flowing in soon

Blackpool_Saver

Formal replies seem to have gone out of the window, another sad reflection on society today.
I would go so far as to say that some would even think it snobby or posh to formally reply, sickening isn't it?