Am I entitled to anything

mitchaa

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

No mitchaa, SOME NRP's may think like that but not all.

Interesting you used the term money grabbing leeches since you called me that once as well....

If you get so wound up on this board why do you come over? You don't contribute nothing, tell blatant lies about your family to try and make yourself look good and have no idea about the financial and emotional aspect of being a lone parent either with or without care.

Oh er, time of the month:rotfl:

Come on then Einstein, blatant lies about my family, come on then fire away with the supporting evidence.

Let's ruin this thread, be my guest:D

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Exactly like your Father done for you eh?:rolleyes: Maybe your Mother will have to stop saying 'even to this day', that she is proud she brought you up with no financial assistance from your Father.

P'raps you should show her your post;)

Good god.

Yes, in my particular case my father never gave my mother any direct financial contributions, she raised me herself.

I wont get into that 1 though as this thread is not about me, nor my father or mother:rolleyes:

Oh, i do not contribute anything to this forum?? Well my thanks count appears to be higher than yours, even if you are clever enough to work out the maths:p

Loopy_Girl

I am not going to answer as I feel that reply you have just posted could be better than any one I could scribe to make you look like the silly immature little lad that you are.

Well done you:D

mitchaa

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

I am not going to answer as I feel that reply you have just posted could be better than any one I could scribe to make you look like the silly immature little lad that you are.

Well done you:D

Good,

I have you in silence, 1st time for everything.

You said that i do not contribute, lie number 1, i clearly contribute more than you do:p You said that i tell blatant lies about my family? Lie number 2, please back this up with supporting evidence.

It's not me acting like a child and making things up just to get a cheap shot in is it?

Fire away LG, see how quick WE can close the thread. You need a spark to start a fire. Are you big enough and mature enough to stay in silence or do i detect a bite:p

Loopy_Girl

mitchaa wrote: »

You said that i do not contribute, lie number 1, i clearly contribute more than you do:p You said that i tell blatant lies about my family? Lie number 2, please back this up with supporting evidence.

You have also been on the site alot longer than me. If you care to read the post properly I said you didn't contribute to THIS particular forum. If you see your 'success' by the number of thanked posts then errr....well done you *saddo*

And the lies you tell are about your Mother doing everything without help from your Father (usually in a thread when you are having a go at a PWC naturally). She didn't. And you have the cheek to slam someone for posting the exact same scenario as your family.

You come across as a snob who comes on here to see how the little people live and it's pretty unpleasant to read. Maybe your tone is welcome on the house buyers board where you are all chaps together and passing round the cigars on how much money you have made but this part of the forum deals with sensitive issues and you have no empathy. Understandable as you have never been in the situation which is why your contribution is nil and is always having a go at people (female PWC naturally;))

tattycath

OP. For what it's worth... I'm a female PWC and when my ex amnd I split up several years ago, I moved out with the children (for our safety) and ended up having to find and fund my own house-I even had to totally furnish it as NRP would not let me have anything out of the family home-I only got a carrier bag full of toys for the kids because his mum let me have them. I took a holdall when I left (clothes).
He would not see the kids to start with.
to cut a long story short. I ended up going BR a few years down the line as I got a lousy settlement (for the 10 years I had put into the relationship) we weren't married.
I do get maintenance (not through CSA)-but (since I moved out of the area) he only sees the kids if I do most of the running around-and he has no partner and no other kids.
I don't know whether you will get any maintenance or not.
My OH has kids and his ex took him to the CSA for maintenance-she moved out of area and he only sees his kids if he goes to collect etc-she does nothing apart from stamp her feet and make a noise-and she is a PWC who is only out for herself-I have VERY good reason to say this, but am not prepared to put it on a public forum.

mitchaa

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

You have also been on the site alot longer than me. If you care to read the post properly I said you didn't contribute to THIS particular forum. If you see your 'success' by the number of thanked posts then errr....well done you *saddo*

And the lies you tell are about your Mother doing everything without help from your Father (usually in a thread when you are having a go at a PWC naturally). She didn't. And you have the cheek to slam someone for posting the exact same scenario as your family.

You come across as a snob who comes on here to see how the little people live and it's pretty unpleasant to read. Maybe your tone is welcome on the house buyers board where you are all chaps together and passing round the cigars on how much money you have made but this part of the forum deals with sensitive issues and you have no empathy. Understandable as you have never been in the situation which is why your contribution is nil and is always having a go at people (female PWC naturally;))

I used the thanks analogy to show that i contributed to the site. You clearly said that i did not, i was merely correcting you. It does not matter how long i have been here, if you were clever enough you would have worked it out;)

I did not lie about my mother. It is 110% true that she has never received a penny from my father towards my upbringing. Not that i think this is right, it was just the way it was and to this day she is proud that she managed to do so by herself. Now our opinions on the matter clearly differs. Yes he did treat me to xmas's and birthdays and occasional treats and so on and on. I suppose he bought me things like football boots which took that burden off my mum but if you want to use that as an argument for him contributing and financially supporting my mother it is a very very weak argument.

I dont have any chaps on the house price section, i am not here to make any friends as i have plenty in real life. You will find if you do a little research i disrupt things, or shall i say cause a stir on the recession forum far more so than i do on here. (Hence the point of my signature, it really winds the housing doom and gloom crew up) If you never had posters like me around, forums like these would get so boring, there's only so much virtual hugs and kisses and posts of support before the whole thing gets tiresome. I'm not here to do any of that, some people get me, some do not;)

As a man im never going to be in a position of being a single parent, well not unless my wife dies.

It's strange LG, i dont get you. I was actually in agreement with the majority of replies in this thread but just worded it a little more strongly. Im getting the same point across as what you did in your initial post.

I mean your initial post was less than welcoming too;)

Good day LG, we can carry this on and get the thread locked if you so wish, we can transfer it over into the PM system, or we can move on.

minnie123

mitchaa wrote: »

I dont have any chaps on the house price section, i am not here to make any friends as i have plenty in real life. You will find if you do a little research i disrupt things, or shall i say cause a stir on the recession forum more so than i do on here. (Hence the point of my signature, it really winds the housing doom and gloom crew up)
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God you are a nasty person aren't you!!

mitchaa

minnie123 wrote: »

God you are a nasty person aren't you!!

I'd give you the shirt off my back if you were needing it.

No, i am far from being a nasty person. I just dont get all this online hugging nonsense, the world is not full of fluffy bunnies and it shouldn't be on this site either

Different views and opinions make reading more enjoyable. Think about it, if we all agreed on subjects there would be no point in discussing or debating them as reading them would become ever so boring.

It's a strange 1 this 1, as i have just posted exactly the same as the majority of the replies on this thread so far, just a little more strongly, but yet being singled out

LizzieS_2

You got the full 30K equity instead of half. Your ex became bankrupt a year after separation. Property transferred within 2 years prior to bankruptcy is investigated by the OR (who can take back a share). The fact the OR did nothing suggests he was happy with the financial arrangements upon divorce.

Signing away 15K, taking £5K debt and paying £40pw for 2 children (one not his), suggests this was an arrangement you both agreed upon. If you also had the full details in the financial consent order, it would have the backing of the court. In the least the first 2 would be in a consent order. If you did a diy divorce, you may not have a consent order, in which case both of you can still claim against the other (unless since remarried).

I don't know any pwc who has taken more than half net assets, but from being on here I've seen quite a few nrp's complain over losing their equity and then having to pay csa on top. That is the part of your post which offended both nrp & pwc. Ironically the family courts are well aware of what the csa can do, so sometimes it is really them who are to blame for not accounting for potential csa payments.

It appears you accepted the lesser help in the hope your ex would buy the moped instead, and now feel let down.

The csa cannot change the prevoius nil assessment - they could if it was wrong, but only if you appealed in time (4 years is too late).

Most of this surrounds the lack of contact your ex wants as the years go by - csa will not change that at all. Your son will make his own mind up who is there to emotionally support him (and financially) - one day when mature enough he will say so.

If your son is leaving soon, it isn't worth the hassle.

The employment being put into his partners name might be innocent (though from the rest it does look suspicious) due to the past bankruptcy.

spitshine

fatjax wrote: »

About 5 years ago me and my husband split. Our son was 11 at the time. He left me with everything, the house the money, the car, just signed it all over to me and he took all the debt with him. He also carried on paying numerous direct debits and paid me £40 per week maintenance, £30 for his son and £10 for my daughter who he brought up from being 3. He had his own business, but went bankrupt about 4 years ago as i used to sort his finances out and he could not manage his business without me. He then met his now wife and the money stopped. I got the CSA involved and they wrote back to me saying that he was not working and they suggested we sort out an arrangement between ourselves.
Over the past 4 years all he has done is pay for shoes, clothes, spending money for holidays etc but never actually given me money to support our son. But i am now re married and we both have decent jobs, so have managed financially.
I have been Ok with this arrangement for the past 4 years, but he has become more and more distant with his son and even more so since he has had a new child with his now wife. It has all come to a head this last week. Our son turns 16 in may and is wanting a moped. My ex has always known he has wanted this bike, but he says he cant afford to buy it as he has no work. He works in construction, so i know things are bad but he should have saved knowing his sons birthday is coming up.
My question is this. I am considering going back to the CSA. Will they back date my claim to my last attempt at claiming, or will it just go from this claim i may make now? Also I know he has set up in business again, but i think he has done this in his new wife`s name, the only thing is is that i have been told he has only taken a very low wage for the last year. Everything is in her name, the house they live in, the car, bank accounts. I know he works every day, but how can i prove that this business is his? Will the CSA take into consideration all the money and assets he left me with and will this g against me? Am I just wasting my time here, am I banging my head against a brick wall and should i just leave it? Our son is leaving school this year and may be taking on an apprentiship, but he may go to college. He not sure yet, but if he does the apprentiship the CSA will stop anyway wont it?
Thankyou for any replies in advance.

Hi, im fairly new on here and just browsing this post. Im a NRP and am not taking sides but your ex seems to have fulfilled his responsibilites very well according to your post. Why would you go to the CSA?