Am I entitled to anything

jacklink

16 year old boys and motor bikes dont mix, why on earth would you want him to have a motorbike.

catenorfolk

it is such a shame that you put this on the forum, you have been really lucky that your ex has been supporting you, even tho it was directly through the kids and yes he should have been giving you monies, but it does look as tho you are only trying to claim again just to try and gain more contact between father and son which i dont feel is the right way to go about this. Yes he perhaps should have given you some money over the years but you were happy with this situation so he cant be blamed for that. I am a pwc and feel that the above really gives pwc a bad name. it is as tho you are trying to manipulate the situation. If you feel you need the money to help your son, the go to the CSA, just dont manipulate, not good for the relationship

fairydiamond

I think you have been lucky with everything he has left you.

LizzieS_2

Afraid I thought the same as everyone else. But as the OP has not come back, perhaps the opening post is misleading, so I will give the benefit of the doubt if she wants to return with a few answers:

1) What was the equity in the house (your share) when he left?
2) How much did he pay in debts in joint/your name etc compared to what he would pay in child support?
3) How much did he pay for the childrens clothes etc compared to what he should have paid?

In answer to your question, the csa will not take the past into account.

fatjax

Basically i came out with about 30k to put down on a new house, sold the mat home as i could not afford the mortgage on my own. bought a house and got a mortgage for around 20k. House now worth 40k more now than when i bought it. Renting this out now as i moved into my husbands house. The debts he took with him were aprox 5k. The car is paid for.
I did not write this post so abuse could be thrown. I just wanted to know my rights. I do understand that people have come out of situations a lot worse than me, but when my sons father has to be asked all the time to supply these clothes, shoes etc and am sick of asking him all the time. He hardly sees our son any more either which is very upsetting to me and him as he used to be a very good dad and it just seems that since he has got with his new wife and they have their new son he just does`nt care any more. I have been told his new wife does not care for our son and has refused to let him stay at their house, something about there being no room!!!
I just wanted to know if i could back date my claim to when i first made a claim 4 years ago, and weather it was worth making a new claim as my ex is self employed (in wife`s name) and also my son could be leaving education in the next few months, so was not sure if it was worth the hassle...
I was up front and honest about my situation and understand people`s frustration, but all i wanted was advice, not moral judgement!!

kelloggs36

There are a lot of people on here who believe that all PWCs are in it for the money and will judge you regardless - just ignore them.

If he is leaving school soon it may not be worth the aggro as you won't get anything backdated and if he is self employed in his wife's name then to be honest you will be fighting a losing battle. You can try but it will be frustrating and the amount of money involved won't be much - I wouldn't bother to be honest.

mitchaa

Beggars belief.

How about you give him back half the proceeds of the house sale and half the amount of debt that he took on and ALL of the £10 contributions that he was paying for a child that was not his.

He has supported his child(ren) by buying clothes, shoes and holiday spending money, that means you have not needed too.

You are a prime example of why NRP's think PWC are money grabbing leeches.

You are not doing too badly it appears, income from a rental home, 2 good salaries, so why chase money that you have no chance of getting? (If he is SE and declaring min wage)

Has to be a windup.

kelloggs36

Why can't you just answer the question that the OP posed in the first place? You don't know how well off the NRP was or how the agreement was reached, so you should not make judgements like that - you are just being nasty and posts like that should be taken off.

Loopy_Girl

mitchaa wrote: »

You are a prime example of why NRP's think PWC are money grabbing leeches.

No mitchaa, SOME NRP's may think like that but not all.

Interesting you used the term money grabbing leeches since you called me that once as well....

If you get so wound up on this board why do you come over? You don't contribute nothing, tell blatant lies about your family to try and make yourself look good and have no idea about the financial and emotional aspect of being a lone parent either with or without care.

Loopy_Girl

mitchaa wrote: »

He has supported his child(ren) by buying clothes, shoes and holiday spending money, that means you have not needed too.

Exactly like your Father done for you eh?:rolleyes: Maybe your Mother will have to stop saying 'even to this day', that she is proud she brought you up with no financial assistance from your Father.

P'raps you should show her your post;)