Am I entitled to anything

fatjax

About 5 years ago me and my husband split. Our son was 11 at the time. He left me with everything, the house the money, the car, just signed it all over to me and he took all the debt with him. He also carried on paying numerous direct debits and paid me £40 per week maintenance, £30 for his son and £10 for my daughter who he brought up from being 3. He had his own business, but went bankrupt about 4 years ago as i used to sort his finances out and he could not manage his business without me. He then met his now wife and the money stopped. I got the CSA involved and they wrote back to me saying that he was not working and they suggested we sort out an arrangement between ourselves.
Over the past 4 years all he has done is pay for shoes, clothes, spending money for holidays etc but never actually given me money to support our son. But i am now re married and we both have decent jobs, so have managed financially.
I have been Ok with this arrangement for the past 4 years, but he has become more and more distant with his son and even more so since he has had a new child with his now wife. It has all come to a head this last week. Our son turns 16 in may and is wanting a moped. My ex has always known he has wanted this bike, but he says he cant afford to buy it as he has no work. He works in construction, so i know things are bad but he should have saved knowing his sons birthday is coming up.
My question is this. I am considering going back to the CSA. Will they back date my claim to my last attempt at claiming, or will it just go from this claim i may make now? Also I know he has set up in business again, but i think he has done this in his new wife`s name, the only thing is is that i have been told he has only taken a very low wage for the last year. Everything is in her name, the house they live in, the car, bank accounts. I know he works every day, but how can i prove that this business is his? Will the CSA take into consideration all the money and assets he left me with and will this g against me? Am I just wasting my time here, am I banging my head against a brick wall and should i just leave it? Our son is leaving school this year and may be taking on an apprentiship, but he may go to college. He not sure yet, but if he does the apprentiship the CSA will stop anyway wont it?
Thankyou for any replies in advance.

Zara33

:eek: talk about having your cake and eating it!

You also knew your child's birthday was coming around you also could have saved. :rolleyes: jeeze.

kelloggs36

They will take it from the date you apply now, not backdate it at all. If the business is in his wife's name then you may well get a nil assessment - unless he has declared earnings to the inland revenue - if not, then you will probably get nothing at all.

fatjax

Zara33 wrote: »

:eek: talk about having your cake and eating it!

You also knew your child's birthday was coming around you also could have saved. :rolleyes: jeeze.

We have saved and we are paying his tax, insurance, helmet CBT.

fatjax

kelloggs36 wrote: »

They will take it from the date you apply now, not backdate it at all. If the business is in his wife's name then you may well get a nil assessment - unless he has declared earnings to the inland revenue - if not, then you will probably get nothing at all.

Im not sure the case was closed though as my ex did not get the same letter from the csa, i did. He got no reply from the csa at all, so could the case still be open?

marksoton

So your ex is becoming distant with your son and you think getting the CSA involved will help how ?

At no point has this man tried to avoid his financial responsibility, if anything he has exceeded it by providing for a child that is not his.

By all means get the CSA involved and push the case as is your right. But i suspect if you do things will only go downhill in a lot of other ways.

kelloggs36

Any assessment will be based on the circumstances as they were when you make contact with them, it won't be backdated unless you requested a new assessment back then.

fatjax

Ok. Thanks... I just wanted to say that I do know i did well out of this situation, but the fact still remains that i have had no support for the last 4 years financially or otherwise.

[Deleted User]

I know what you are saying but don't forget that years ago he left you the house, the car, paid off the debts for you, you should consider yourself lucky.

Loopy_Girl

fatjax wrote: »

Ok. Thanks... I just wanted to say that I do know i did well out of this situation, but the fact still remains that i have had no support for the last 4 years financially or otherwise.

Yes you have. You said that for the past 4 years he has paid for shoes, clothes, spending money for holiday etc (no idea what the etc is but clearly it is more money being spent). THAT is financial support as by him buying it, you didn't have to so therefore had more money in your purse.

You really do need a reality check here and realise what was done. For example, you could have been left with half the debts, no car, trying to find a new house.

I think he has done more than his fair share of supporting you and your children financially. You also say he paid you for a child that wasn't even his - hardly the actions of a right sod now is it?

Maybe your son should think about getting some responsibility and saving up for his own moped if you are already shelling out for the extras.

marshmallows

he left everything to you and paid of your joint debts and now you are moaning that he only spends money on buying clothes, food etc for your son. What an awful man he is