The Bankrupt Inn (Part Three)

Merlinexcalibur

What the hell is it? :eek::rotfl:

haleygrey

philnicandamy wrote: »

Nice bit of snail porridge?

eeeeeoooww that is sooooo gross Phil, you are revolting :eek:

Merlinexcalibur

The party was ended abruptly with the unexpected introduction of escargo.

dreamcatcher73

Evening all, having a bad evening today, feeking very down and despondant..

In six months I have lost my whole life, my husband ( he left me), my job, my sanity.. Can't believe how quick it all happened, and think clearing the last of my husbands things out of my house today has brought it all into reality. That's it. I am a BR single mum on IS, living on the poverty line. What a crock of !!!!!

Sorry for spoiling the mood

Lightattheend

DC, I feel for you - I may not be BR yet but during a 2 month period my partner left me and I lost my job, you will feel sad and down but there is light ahead, this is a new start for you and your child(ren) - took me a while to see it as that (I have 2 children) but I did eventually and am happy now.

dreamcatcher73

Thanks Light, I know I am not alone in my situation and there are many people in much worse ones, I guess I am just feeling melancholy tonight and looking back on my life and thinking what a mess I made of it.
I have been married 3 times, I have three children (18,16 & 5 ) and now feel there is nothing more out there for me.

Trying hard to let go of EHTB, sometimes I just miss him so much even though I know it wouldn't work, just can't stand the loneliness I suppose.

Probably best that I go to bed, before I depress the whole of the forum!

Lightattheend

DC - mine was my second relationship, son of 13 and daughter of 3, my son's dad walked out on me as well as my daughter's. Sometimes I wondered what it was about me that made them do it, I also missed having someone around, hugs from kids aren't quite the same, but time does heal. I still have down days and wonder if I'll ever find someone who'll stay with me but I look at it that now I have two brilliant children and I am a great Mum! You are as well, remember that - its the most important job you will ever have!!! :A

dreamcatcher73

Your kinds words are bringing tears to my eyes, I had such a hard time before I met my last husband, was on my own for three years and struggled so much. When I met him I thought all my dreams had come true, I can't believe I'm back to being on my own again..

I never was very good at coping with things, even less so now, it's like all the fight has been knocked out of me..

I'm sorry, propbably not the place for this, better go. Take care Light and thanks x

Lensman_2

DC, I had a similar experience. Divorce (I too got the sack), redundancy and moving from Plymouth to Hampshire for work all within 2 months. I lost my Dad a year later and have just lost my Nan too. It seems endless sometimes, just one thing after another. I think I had the mid-life thing in there too, which lowered my resistance (I'm 46).

I am a bit worried that losing my Nan will chuck me back in the deep end again. But until then, the last six months have actually seen slow and steady progress. It took 18 months to kick in though and those 18 months were very dark and lonely.

I feel for you. It's a horrible place to be. There is one certainty here - that it will get better one day. I know it doesn't feel like it, but it is true. You will look back on this as a life change and you will very likely think - 'yep, that hurt. But it was a good thing in the end and my life is better for it'.

In the meantime, I hope you feel a bit better tomorrow. At least you won't be doing what you were doing today.

Take care.

Jim

So_Sad_Angel

Hi DC we all have bad days.

Don`t let those feelings of despondancy get you down....accept that whats happened has happened & look around what you have got....your children need their Mum to be positive, take the lead & show them that life will go on & whats more you will make it better.

I so know how you feel & rejection at any level is hard to take but when those feeling surface just accept that you will feel that way . How I deal with it is to imagine that you are locking them away in a little box in your mind & then think about something else.....those feelings will still be there but I only open that imaginary box when I say so......keeps me in control. Works for me most of the time.

So....will be a lovely sunny day tomorrow so get that spring cleaning, or a good refreshing walk in the park or countryside...main thing is to look ahead not behind.

I waffle too much !!

Angiexx