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Buffythedebtslayer

Snaggles wrote: »

Can anyone please explain why I now own 2 new dresses, some jewellery and some new underwear?

I actually think I might have a problem you know.

only if you cannot afford it, although I feel I should confess to an amazon basket FULL of stuff!

Gemmzie

You have another date Snags?

beanielou

Louise~ its actually positive because if we dont expect to much we are not dissapointed IYSWIM.

Snaggles

Sal - it was real life shopping - I went to Debenhams to avoid spending the evening bickering with Stu!

Buffy - I can afford it (sort of) but it's eating away at my savings, and that's really bad because I will need them when I have to buy a new house.

Gemmz - Sort of - I am seeing a friend again next week. Not really a date though.

Gemmzie

There you go, use for new dress, jewellery and underwear

ZTD

beanielou wrote: »

Louise~ its actually positive because if we dont expect to much we are not dissapointed IYSWIM.

That depends what's meant by the word "expect".

"Demand" and "aspire" are totally different, but are both facets of "expect".

LouiseJ

beanielou wrote: »

Louise~ its actually positive because if we dont expect to much we are not dissapointed IYSWIM.

Ohhhhhhhh, I see:o

But I do expect too much:rolleyes:.....maybe that is my problem

sallyx

snags...are things bad between you and stu at the moment?
enjoy your evening with a friend

Snaggles

Gemmzie - Exactly! I am not the worlds most confident person as you might have guessed, so feeling as though I look okay has a big impact on whether or not I can relax and enjoy myself. And I hadn't bought new clothes for years up until a few months ago, but it's difficult being a single girl, and wanting to date, but only having baggy, shapeless clothing to wear. So it's an investment in my future really.... :rotfl:

Sally - yes, pretty dire at the moment. He hates me apparently, and takes every opportunity to show me so. I think it's because we are hitting the 6 month point and I think at the back of his mind he thought we would be back together and he wouldn't have to renew the lease on his house.

I've tried to make sure I never give him false hope, because it IS over for good - but I do feel very very guilty about how difficult he is finding it.

Gemmzie

I was exactly the same Snags, clothes always used to make me happy and it's taken me a long time to get control of the splurging, I think I had a serious problem at one point. Now I have a good wardrobe of wearable clothes, I've just gone too far the other way and don't have the confidence to wear them

*hugs* for the situation though, sounds tough.