I don't think we're being unreasonable...

VfM4meplse

There has to be more to the story than this. I can't imagine anyone, however broke or tight grumbling about sharing a £15 cab btwn 4. Are they peeved about being denied the football club as the wedding venue (still no excuse for being narky but there has to be something more substantial than what you've told us). If not you really should ditch these so-called friends.

sexki11en

Friends? One of our friends (and we haven't known him that long) is travelling from Luxembourg to Wales for our wedding! And he keeps phoning us to tell us how excited he is! I would forget all about it, ignore their moaning and enjoy the rest of your planning. It's their loss if they can't travel 6 miles for the biggest day of your life!

SK x

poppet

I love weddings - but they can sometimes work out extreamly expensive for the guests and I often wonder how many bride and grooms concider the finacial implications to their guests ?

Wedding outfit, wedding gift and card and wrapping paper, travel expenses to and from the church and then the venue, sometimes overnight hotel accomodation is required, in extreme cases flights are required, sometimes they have to buy their own drinks at the bar, they might have to pay a babysitter or call-in favours for childcare and that dosnt include costs incurred for a stag or hen do.....

The (2004) Morgan Stanley Credit Card poll of 2,000 adults found being present on the happy day cost each guest an average of £294

You are not being unreasonable, it's your big day and you should have exactly the venue you want but spare a thought for the guest and his/her recession-hit purse, im sure their "grumbling" was just a knee-jerk reaction to the additonal cost of a taxi.

LilDevil

I don't think you're being unreasonable either, I've got family coming from Scotland and Australia!

I do appreciate that it can be expensive for guests, but at the end of the day, these ones aren't travelling that far. And surely with this much notice, they can save some money each month.

Shevs

You arent being unreasonable at all. It's your wedding day so you should have it where ever you like, if they dont want to travel the measly 6 miles to the venue then theres a very simple solution to that problem, they simply dont go. If one of my best friends were getting married in timbuc two I would be saving my pennys to go.

sugared_honey

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What is it with friends nowadays!! 6 miles is nothing!! Starting to think that some of us are far too polite for our own good, if someone invites me to a wedding, I'll reply accordingly, book hotel if needed (bearing in mind alot of hotels let you cancel on the day if plans change) and sort transport out.

So why do some so called friends have to be 'chased up' to let you know that "actually, we're not going to be able to make it", I was only checking if anyone was veggie, or had allergies etc for food preferences! Thought they might have been able to let me know more than 2 weeks before the wedding!

Think what I'm trying to say kettlefish, is 'their loss' if they don't make it (but my moneysaving side begrudges paying for no shows at the same time!)

Rant over!

mrshaigh2b1987

id tell them that if they have a prob paying a couple of quid for a taxi home for their friends big day then id have a prob paying £40 for each of them! they should sort their priorities out!

Terri x

joolesw1972

Don't worry about it, those who want to be there will make it no matter how far it is! In the last 3 years we've been to 2 weddings in Ireland! Not a problem, they're friends & we felt honoured that they wanted us to share their day. Most of our guests will be traveling 40-50 miles as we don't live near either family & have friends all over the country!

sunshinejoclaire

I sympathise. My OH's family on his mum's side live in the same town as us. The rest of our families on both sides are scattered about the country. Our venue, like you is about 6/7 miles away.

Who has moaned? His mum's family.. I actually had a couple of them say to me 'why are we expected to travel so far?'. I pointed out that all my family, bar my parents who live near me, are travelling a good 300 miles to attend.

Another one said we should get married in the local church 'because its tradition'. I pointed out there that it is tradition to get married in the church the bride was christened in, which is the afore mentioned 300 miles away where my family are

Honestly.. you need to tell you mates you really don't care if they attend (even if you do!), you only want DF to turn up.

sunshinejoclaire

sugared_honey wrote: »

:mad:

What is it with friends nowadays!! 6 miles is nothing!! Starting to think that some of us are far too polite for our own good, if someone invites me to a wedding, I'll reply accordingly, book hotel if needed (bearing in mind alot of hotels let you cancel on the day if plans change) and sort transport out.

So why do some so called friends have to be 'chased up' to let you know that "actually, we're not going to be able to make it", I was only checking if anyone was veggie, or had allergies etc for food preferences! Thought they might have been able to let me know more than 2 weeks before the wedding!

Think what I'm trying to say kettlefish, is 'their loss' if they don't make it (but my moneysaving side begrudges paying for no shows at the same time!)

Rant over!

I think its just people these days full stop. You would not even beleive some of the cr*p I have put up with from family members (on his side) of the past 2 years of planning.

Just the other day I saw DF's aunt on the bus who informed me 'I am sitting next to X at the dinner':rolleyes:
1) We haven't done the seating plan yet so how could she know this
2) We tell her where to sit on the day, not the other way around
3) X is a bridesmaid and is sitting on the top table. Nosy Aunt is neither