I don't think we're being unreasonable...

kettlefish

...but apparently some of our 'friends' do. We have recently changed our wedding venue for our wedding this October - we booked the first one in a bit of a panic as we couldn't find anywhere else to cater for us. This venue was a football club, so couldn't give us the actual date, only a guarantee that we would get one of two dates chosen, to account for the fixtures. This is about 2 miles from where we live and work. We changed to a nice local pub which we felt was more 'us' and they could confirm the definate date there and then. So far so good. Felt really excited and happy planning our wedding for 6 months time. But now, one or two 'friends' have been moaning about having to get transport from the new venue, even though the landlady has kindly said they can leave their cars overnight. Bearing in mind it's costing about £40ish per head, I don't see why they can't fork out £15 between 4 of them for a taxi (Oh yes, it's about 6 miles away from where we all live, so not exactly the outer Hebrides!!) Is 6 miles to travel really too much? Myself and DF are both young and it's the first wedding in our bunch of mates, in fact the first wedding I've been to since I was about 9, so perhaps these people don't understand. :mad: Or perhaps I'm missing something??!

Sorry to rant, feel better now

duchy

I think you need new friends......ones with manners !

nat82

I don't think your being unresonable at all! It's YOUR wedding! Our wedding is about 6 miles from where we live but we have relatives travelling 70 miles to come! I'm sure they'l get over it and once they are there having the time of their lives they'll be the one's feeling silly for making a fuss! A few pounds for a taxi is extremely reasonable!

xxx

twinklyspecialkag

I don't think its unreasonable at all. But if it was a good friends wedding then id travel pretty much anywhere, as long as i could afford it. Maybe they were just commenting on how the new venue was further away than the original one? Sometimes its easy to get the wrong end of the stick. especially when your rushing around to organise something so important. but if they were complaining then tell them that if its such an inconvienence they dont have to come.

lindaatno9

Ditto the new friends, bloody cheek. It may have been an off the cuff remark but they gotta remember it's your day and they won't be the only ones doing the driving/distance.
Chin up hen. x

Horace

Who needs friends like that?

I would have gone to my mate's wedding in May over in Italy but I couldn't really justify spending £400 a night to stay in a hotel for 3 nights with flights on top (yep, she has picked the most expensive resort in Italy) so I decided not to go, however, I am still going to her UK reception which is 15 miles from my home plus I am driving home at the end of the night.

6 miles is nothing and cabs are not that cheap in Birmingham especially but still between them it works out cheap, in fact if they are that bothered why don't they ask the landlady if they can bring their tents and camp in the beer garden?

stef240377

You are far from being unreasonable. I am currently in the process of planning a wedding also in October which i had sprung on me on friday. Two of our guests are having to travel from Macedonia at their own expense so i really dont think you are asking alot at all. If they have a problem with it are they really obliged to attend? Are they of benefit to your day i.e best man, maid of honour etc? If not dont worry about it they are probably only attending for a free meal and a night out at some one elses expense.

Minxy_Bella

I think your friends are being very rude tbh.

Some of my guests are travelling hundreds of miles to attend our wedding - I'm very glad that they're doing so but it's their choice and we're providing a lovely reception at a fabulous place with a kick-!!! party in the evening. They should be paying us! LOL!

Stardust

Moaning about 6 miles :rotfl:Im traveling 200 for my first wedding as 'an adult' this summer and can't wait.

xjoannexxx

oh my god how unreasonable are u?
I mean how dare you have YOUR wedding were you want it!
Its a day for your mates not you
I think u should pay for everyones transport and put them all up in your house for the night haha

Seriously i think you need new friends

Noctu

We are travelling over 300 miles to a friend's wedding in August... the only thing that makes it difficult for us is it's on a Friday so will have to take time off work (DF gets the bare minimum allowance and compulsory hols at xmas taken out of that) and set off very early in the morning!

But I know the ceremony venue only holds 60 people so I consider it an honour to be invited to the full day and we will certainly be attending!

DF has moaned a bit to me about having to take the day off (yes.. I know!) but he certainly wouldn't say anything to the bride or groom!