Support for people with Depression

beachbeth

Whoops! Never mind! Glad you enjoyed them!

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

I had a good day,

chat tomorrow

Night! Night!


love and light,

Katie xxx

Jo_R_2

Hi all

Fell asleep putting DDs to bed and not long woken up. Is nice to have a bit of a stretch of sleep as OH put baby to bed but means I've hardly seen him all day

My parents came over today and we all spent most of the day outside in the lovely weather. Me and DD2 managed to get to playgroup this morning as well which was fun. Bit worried about tomorrow as not got anything planned except haealth visitor coming round late morning and I know sometimes that's when I have wobbly moments, when the whole day stretches out without much planned because it seems so long and daunting. Usually my parents come round tomorrow but swapped as I had to go to town when DD1 needed picking up.

So might go and see my friend tomorrow who's also not long had a baby, when DD1 finished school. That way have something to focus on and the girls can have a bit of fun as my friend also has two DDs who they love seeing.

Hugs to all xxxxxxxxx

beachbeth

Morning everyone! Hope you have a nice day Jo-R. I must admit that now my kids are grown up I like having days where there is nothing planned - makes me less anxious.

Sazbo

Good morning :hello: I think it is still just about morning:) Hope everyone's doing ok. I'm sniffling a bit... can't decide whether it's hay fever or a cold - I suspect it's probably a bit of both lol

Need to get on with some work, see you in a bit guys.

Much love to all,
Sazzy xxxxxx

beachbeth

I did something this morning that I never normally do! I parked illegally on double yellow lines whilst I nipped into M&S. I had just been round the town to pick up bits and pieces and completely forgot to get my red wine from m&s (I can only drink organic and the m&s one is the tastiest one Ive found so far). I got in my car and started to drive out of the car park and then realised I'd forgotten. I didn't want to drive back and re-park and fight my way back through the market, so I drove to m&s, parked outside and nipped in for my wine.:o

As I stood in the queue I reflected how everything seems to have gone wrong for me this year so far and that if it carries on this way then I won't get my Incapacity Benefit reinstated either. I decided that if I got back to my car and had a parking fine then this would confirm that everything is going to go wrong this year. I know its silly to think this way but I couldn't help it. Well, I hadn't got a ticket and it made me feel a bit better. Does anyone else do things like this?

Tiff_2

Hi guys!
*the Tiffster sticks her head through catflap to make sure the coast is clear and there's no enemy fire*
What's all the shoutings about? Can't a cat get any peace around here?!




Hey there, everyone. How are we all?
I'm sorry I haven't posted for a few days guys. I should at least have posted to say I might not post for a couple of days, iykwim?

Thank you all so much for the shout outs, guys - you made Tiffy go all soggy. I didn't think anyone would notice tbh and I thought you could use some peace and quiet for a change. There's been some slight turbulence at Tiff Towers and I thought it was probably better not to tiff at all, rather than to post just any old tiffing. Suffice to say that ''The Tiff Chronicles ~ Part 10'' is imminent. I am trying to tiff as fast as I can to cat-ch up though.

Huge moulting hugs to the whole wonderful clan as usual, with extra big ones to sazzy, beth (you're such a sweetheart I love the flowers - you had me in tears. Big post to you very soon, angel.), gem, shaz, jo, donny, may, alba, fairy, wvw, cara, amber, sp, rose, lm, budd, katie-tulip, ccstar, ilgd and jon. I understand there's even been a gilly-badgie sighting, so there's one for him too.
I promise to post replies to you, guys - I haven't forgotten about any of you.
Better get on with it then I s'pose.
Be kind to yourself, guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hello there, missy sazzy!:hello:
Yes, I can see your little light on - I nearly had a clean getaway there!:D I read your post from this morning...

Sazbo wrote: »

Good morning :hello: I think it is still just about morning:) Hope everyone's doing ok. I'm sniffling a bit... can't decide whether it's hay fever or a cold - I suspect it's probably a bit of both lol
Need to get on with some work, see you in a bit guys.
Much love to all,
Sazzy xxxxxx

:eek:
Yes, I think that says it all!;) I loves you really.:A
I hope you're feeling better, hunnie.
Be kind to yourself angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi budd!
I'm so glad you posted sweetheart instead of just struggling on your own and that, as always, the resident guardian angels were around to help. You're another poor soul who's having a rough time off it, bless you. Let's have a look.

Well hunnie, I won't beat around the bush - you know yourself deep inside what it is that you have to do. You really need to contact your dr immediately angel, and really open up to them. I hope you've done that already, budd and that you were able to be completely honest with them. They can only help you with what they know about, sweetheart. It's scary to admit these thoughts and feelings to yourself but to get the help you deserve, you have to be honest with your dr. Your priority right now is to keep yourself safe and get some support. This Tiff doesn't want anything to happen to you, so please follow up with your dr. It's the first step forward, to changing things, hunnie. And then you can start to move forward again.

I'm glad our savvy suggested it, , I've always said the best thing to do if you know you're going to have problems explaining things to your dr, is to print off your posts and give them to the dr to read. This is important because when we post on here, we are brutally open with how much we're struggling and we say things that we'd probably not be able to tell our drs very easily. When someone posts on here in crisis, it's like having a virtual snapshot of their whole situation and the professionals would find this a great asset in finding the best way to help you. And you can only come out a long-term winner then, hun.

You know the Tiffster isn't a professional in any way hunnie, so these are just words of support for you. I hope you know I'd never mean to sound patronising in any way. The everyday situations around us tend to snowball when we're at our lowest and I think that may be what's happening now. The problems with work, your bills, your jealousy and your upset regarding the engagements are all being amplified due to feeling poorly. In addition, it's making you anxious because you're fretting about it all, so it creates a very vicious circle. What I want to say hunnie, is that these things are not the real priority right now. You can get help with all these things angel but first you need to take care of yourself and get back on your feet with some support from your dr. Things may seem easier to deal with once you're feeling a bit better in yourself. CAB can help with the debts and will be only too happy to speak to your creditors on your behalf. They're wonderful people who will stand with you and will speak up for you. Of course there's always the wonderful DFW thread on site too - and not forgetting all your friends here either. You're never alone hunnie.

budd wrote:

I do have medication but I haven't been taking it properly so I have built up a large amount of "spare.
I went through a bad patch at christmas and the doctor doubled my dose, but I have only been continuing to take 1 a day, so I have got 3 months of tablets hidden away. I have still been doing my prescription monthly.
If I hadn't been paying for the meds I might be prepared to give them to the pharmacist, but I don't want to waste money.

The most dangerous thing you can do sweetie, is to mess around with your meds.
Again this is another vicious circle. If you're not taking the doseage your dr recommended for you, how can you feel better? This may be one reason why you're so low now.
Please guys, never make any changes to your meds without discussing it with your dr first. They are much more willing these days to listen to any worries we might have about taking meds and will work with you. I'll mention again the possibility of us being in an accident or very ill (God forbid!), and not being able to speak for ourselves - all the drs will have to go on is what's in your medical records and they may not give a certain med which can help us, because they think we're taking this other med that will cause a bad reaction together. We have to keep our records up-to-date folks. The other point that we all need to consider too, is that a lot of these meds may come under the heading of ''controlled substances'' and we might get in serious trouble by storing these meds. And we have to think about the possiblility of any children that we may have finding them!

Sorry budd - got sidelined there, back to you, angel.
Be aware also hunnie, that meds have 'use by' dates too - so even though you have three months ''hidden away'', they can go out of date. I really can sympathise about the money side of things sweetheart, but with the way you're feeling now it may be too much of a temptation. Please angel, either hand them in to your chemist or tell your dr what you have. They will then work out what you need to have now. The one place where you shouldn't try and save money, is through ''prescription only'' meds. They were given to you for a reason hun, so please talk to your dr and get back on track. You're worth so much more than the cost of a prescription, angel.

budd wrote:

I haven't seen my GP in a couple months last time I lied and said I was taking the meds fine, Im in such a mess.
I usually go to the docs and say things are "fine" when they are not and only when I get to the really bad days where I just sit there and cry and say nothing apart from outburst between the tears. I always tell people to write down how they are feeling if they can't say the words but I forget when its me!

They'll understand, hunnie. A lot of us say we're fine when we're anything but fine. You're a brave soul who's trying to keep everything ticking over , when they're feeling poorly and not taking the right meds. No wonder you're feeling the way you are, angel. We can be our own worst enemies sometimes and most of us don't want to admit that we need more help until the last possible minute. You're not alone in this sweetie. This doesn't help our self esteem either.

Hark at me wittering away! I just really feel for you, hun and wish I could do more to help. All I can say is that it was very brave of you to post all that you did, budd and that I really hope that you have been back to the drs. You know the clan are here for you whenever you need us, so please keep us posted hunnie. You seem like such a really lovely person - all we need to do now is to make YOU believe that! I'm thinking of you, budd.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi shazza!
Hey sweetheart - it's good to hear from you. You know this is very much an open catflap door thread and you're always welcome, hunnie.

shazza wrote:

Hi all, had been coping quite well. Had a car accident Jan and have dipped down again. constant pain and not being in work dont help. have seen occ health today and am back on anti d's.one step forward several back.
Glad to see old friends still posting.
Hugs to all that need them

I'm sorry to hear about your accident, angel - hugs right back at ya! Not a great way to start the new year. I hope your health starts to improve soon, shazza. When you're in constant pain, it's bound to affect your depression too and it can be so very frustrating.
I know the steps back are no fun at all but try and remember that there will be more steps forward, angel. If only we could schedule them!
I hope the balance will change for you soon, hun. Keep us posted as to how you are, angel okay? Keeping you in my thoughts, shazza.
Safe journeys and be kind to yourself hunnie.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx