Support for people with Depression

LadyMorticia

CCStar wrote: »

Thank you

One of the first decent posts I have read today

It is like a pit of vipers in there:eek:

Oh gosh. I know!
Most of them have their fangs out. :eek:

Horasio

meyore wrote: »

Hi everyone, hope you're all doing ok. I've got "man flu" OH has given it to me. I'd love to say I'm resting, but as he has it too I have to be the one running around after him xxxxx

Typical:rolleyes:

Big hugs to anyone who needs them

Miroslav

meyore wrote: »

Hi everyone, hope you're all doing ok. I've got "man flu" OH has given it to me. I'd love to say I'm resting, but as he has it too I have to be the one running around after him xxxxx

Sadly it's the other way around in my house. I'm the one who gets given the bugs and has to do the running around, even when i'm not well

Miroslav

Tiff wrote: »

Hi miro!
How are you sweetheart? See, I told you I'd be back for you.
I hope all is going well for you and the pusscats, miro. They are lucky to be so well looked after and I'm sure they love you to bits. I guess cats are the same as us in that when one of the family feels ill, then it's usually followed by others feeling poorly too. I hope the cystitis is now just a distant memory - the cat's, not yours! Us felines don't like to talk about our nether regions as this usually ends up with them being removed!

Anyhoo, from one end of the cat to the other as it were. How's our going-blind cat doing, hunnie? I'm sure you've had plenty of sound advice and suggestions already but you know me, I have to throw my 2 cents worth in.:rolleyes:
I hope you'll be reassured to know that pusscat should be fine - they are remarkable at adapting. In theory, it'll actually be easier for her to adjust with her being an indoor cat. Here are some tips I found down in the Tiff archives, hun. Sorry if they're a bit dusty - sazzy's fallen behind with the dusting again!

http://www.vetspecialists.co.uk/06_Animal_Welfare/Ophthalmology_Facts/Living_With_A_Blind_Cat.html
Cats are generally very independent animals, and on the whole cope well with blindness. Most blind cats will continue to lead full and happy lives and can often do nearly all the same things as when they were sighted. Cats are very good at forming mental maps of their surroundings and will use their whiskers to negotiate around obstacles.



A few tips to making life easier for blind cats include the following:

• Avoid any sudden and loud noises. These can be especially frightening to blind cats.
• Keep the food, water and litter tray in the same place at all times.
  Avoid moving furniture as much as possible.
• Leave the TV or radio on as much as possible especially when the cat is left alone for long periods. Do not move these around as the noise they emit will help blind cats orientate themselves in the environment.
• Talk to them as much as possible. The sound of your voice will be reassuring and will help them place you within their mental map of the room.
• If the blindness has occurred suddenly or you move to a new home consider confining the cat to a small area of the house at first. Make this the room in which they spent most of their time when sighted. When they are comfortable negotiating this room, gradually increase access to other rooms of the house.
• Play is very important for blind cats. Use toys that make a noise such as rolled up kitchen foil or balls containing bells.
• Before picking up blind cats, speak and stroke them first so they aren’t taken by surprise. Put them back in an area where it will be easy to reorientate themselves, such as next to the food bowl, in the litter tray or on a surface with a specific texture.
• Try to keep as much of the cat’s lifestyle the same as when sighted.

http://www.knowyourcat.info/index.html
You may feel the urge to pick the cat up and carry her from one place to the next. Carrying her will help her to move safely from A to B, but it does the cat no favours. Studies have shown that cats are literally egocentric - they literally orientate the world in relation to themselves. (Just as it should be!)

So when you pick a blind cat and move to a new location, her whole navigation system becomes disrupted, resulting in a confused and stressed cat. If you do carry the cat, make sure the journey finishes somewhere that she can immediately map into her mental landscape, such as her bedding or litter tray.

And of course there are plenty of aids out there for a blind cat!











Just one piece of vital advice though, miro - whatever you do, puh-leeze.....






FOR GOD'S SAKE, DON'T GET HER A GUIDE DOG!!!

Try not to fret too much - as you know, we tend to sleep for 18 hours a day so our eyes are shut anyway. I hope something here was helpful angel.

And don't worry hun - I'm sure can't hold out too much longer.
I'm getting quite edgy myself, waiting for Justin Timberlake, Will Smith, Michael Buble and Ricky Martin, so I can empathise with you. Yes, I know I'm being a greedy old Tiffster but unlike yourself, Tiffy's getting on a bit now and I have to keep as many of my options open as possible, so the first one of them to get here will be my Mr.Right - whether he likes it or not! Of course failing that, there's always ye olde faithful method to rely on...
Be kind to yourself, hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Sorry, not ignoring you, just not up to replying

I think Cystitis may be coming back, as she's started to be vocal again, so it's yet another trip to the vets. I'm taking a sleeping bag this time, as I may as well call it my second home. I may have to set up a weekly direct debit with the vets, as it appears to be a weekly occurrence at the moment

Thanks for all the tips. I think she has very little time left. Vet said not much longer than Christmas, I think if she sees November it may be a bonus. She's doing okay, probably no worse than the others in mental state, but having known such a jolly cat for nearly 15 years, it's hard to see a cat moving so slowly in comparison, as she can't see. Her tumour is making her thin and it's just a matter of time now

I just feel so sad. I just feel life is not meant to bring me much joy. Yes, i've had my cats for so long and they have given me joy, but I get no human affection at all. Flatmate is tiring me out with her issues, that mine don't even get a mention or thought. I trust no-one and I just don't see a future when the cats have gone. Maybe i'm being selfish wanting to be cared about, I don't know. All I know is, i'm so tired.

Sorry everyone, i'm just too tired and down to say much

beachbeth

Sorry about the treatment you have had, CCStar. I agree with LM's comments on the matter.There are some awful people here who just enjoy to belittle people and put them down. Ive had had arguments recently with such people on another forum and they just delight in picking any argument you have to bits without really discussing the matter in hand.

People think that if you can manage to go on holiday then you can't have depression. Well, Im sorry, but you can. I personally find it difficult at the airport but manage with the help of alcohol and my family. I know that once Im there I can just spend my holiday lying in the sun and also have my room to escape to if I get tearful. People don't understand depression and therefore it is a made-up illness and doesn't exist.

Don't take any nasty comments to heart, CCStar. If it makes these trolls feel better in themselves to do this then they are people to feel sorry for really.:rolleyes:

Sorry about your miscarriage, Budget-Budd. Hugs ((()))

beachbeth

Im sorry you are feeling down, Miro. I know how you feel. I lost one of my dogs in January and she was an absolute sweetheart. I still miss her so much and would love another hug from her (she loved hugs). She was bigger than most dogs of her breed and I loved this because there was more to hug!

We get so close to our little furry friends and it its horrible when they are old or ill. Just think about the lovely life you have given her and how she has enjoyed it. Give her lots of fuss and love and then when she does pass away you will know you did everything you could for her. Hugs ((()))

Horasio

beachbeth wrote: »

Im sorry you are feeling down, Miro. I know how you feel. I lost one of my dogs in January and she was an absolute sweetheart. I still miss her so much and would love another hug from her (she loved hugs). She was bigger than most dogs of her breed and I loved this because there was more to hug!

We get so close to our little furry friends and it its horrible when they are old or ill. Just think about the lovely life you have given her and how she has enjoyed it. Give her lots of fuss and love and then when she does pass away you will know you did everything you could for her. Hugs ((()))

It is a terrible loss losing a pet.

Blind cats are amazing and so loving

blue_haddock

CCStar wrote: »

Thank you

One of the first decent posts I have read today

It is like a pit of vipers in there:eek:

Erm i've read that thread myself and several people on there have given you some very very good advice on how your little boy (and i use that term because that is the way your treating him) should defend himself.

You seem to be very good at picking fault with everyone else but your little boy. Perhaps he should grow up and fight his own battles because mummy wont be able to do it for him forever.

and now if you dont like my advice then well tough. i dont care!

newlywed

Miroslav wrote: »

I think Cystitis may be coming back, as she's started to be vocal again, so it's yet another trip to the vets. I'm taking a sleeping bag this time, as I may as well call it my second home. I may have to set up a weekly direct debit with the vets, as it appears to be a weekly occurrence at the moment

Thanks for all the tips. I think she has very little time left. Vet said not much longer than Christmas, I think if she sees November it may be a bonus. She's doing okay, probably no worse than the others in mental state, but having known such a jolly cat for nearly 15 years, it's hard to see a cat moving so slowly in comparison, as she can't see. Her tumour is making her thin and it's just a matter of time now

Sorry to hear about your cat miro. Sad that their life seems so short compared to ours.

My mum's cat gets cystitus when she eats dry food so mum has to keep it away from her. Not sure whether that helps any, as I know she has other health problems.

I know it's hard but can you see another cat in your future at all? Not a replacement but as an extra comfort? There's so many cats at rescue centers just waiting to be loved.

Amber_Sunshine

blue_haddock wrote: »

Erm i've read that thread myself and several people on there have given you some very very good advice on how your little boy (and i use that term because that is the way your treating him) should defend himself.

You seem to be very good at picking fault with everyone else but your little boy. Perhaps he should grow up and fight his own battles because mummy wont be able to do it for him forever.

and now if you dont like my advice then well tough. i dont care!

So why come on the depression thread and try to pick an argument?