is there anything else we can try?

charlie..._7

basically you asked if dad had rights, and you were informed yes, hmmm they are and there not, basically you can spend thousands but at the end of the day if the ex doesnt wanna play ball then an nrp hasnt got a leg to stand on. oh yes there are some that say, the pwc will be issued with an order to ensure kid sees dad, oh yes some will say its enforced, but in reality the courts have little power over this and basically the pwc walks all over these orders, there maybe the odd few that have obeyed (usually after many many court appearnces and a 'threat' of jail, but it very rarely happens.

see if there are any statistics of women sent to jail because of them refuseing other parent to see kid (there arnt any).

in reality in real life the courts and the law is on PWC side, why ? coz more usual than not NRP is a man, a man brings in more money, thus the gov can gain more money from a man, whether he be working or paying for court issues, its usually females who get legal aid.

look at the stats before condemn

Loopy_Girl

Why the name change Jacklink?:rolleyes:

Soubrette

To be honest I too think that access is stacked against the NRP if they have a bloody minded PWC to contend with.

However, more NRP choose not to continue a relationship with their children compared to those denied access by the PWC.

Also receipt of maintenance payments are stacked against the PWC if they have a bloody minded NRP to contend with.

Sou

hamstercheeks_2

Rebe wrote: »

Hello,

Quite new to all this so please bear with me..
My fiance has been divorced from his ex for about 6 years now, they have a little boy together who is 7. During their relationship, she had a string of affairs and was both mentally and physically abusive to him and the children. OH has been paying through the CSA for some time now, despite attempts to sort it out between themselves, she's just not willing! and she's not let him see his son for many years.
My query is, is there no way/no law that is in my OH's favour? admittedly she is not the easiest lady to communicate with etc but there isn't a day goes by I know my OH doesn't think about him, we've tried everything we can think of and don't understand why he has no rights!!

Rebe

hi Rebe

Totally empathise with your situaiton, my partner is going thru exactly the same just now - albeit not as long as your OH. He doesn't know when he will see his kids againand it is heartbreaking.

We have tried everything but the PWC is nasty beyond belief as they want to see him and himthem but his hands are tied because she says 'No'!

Good luck I hope you get something sorted. In years to come my OH will be a happier man seeing them whenever they want to and he looks forward to that day.:D

marksoton

Court ASAP OP. The sooner you get the ball rolling the sooner your fiance will get the outcome he wants and deserves.

hamstercheeks_2

marksoton wrote: »

Court ASAP OP. The sooner you get the ball rolling the sooner your fiance will get the outcome he wants and deserves.

My OH already wentto court - spent a fortune doing so - was awarded contact and residential contact every alternate weekend - stillthe PWC continues to deny contact.

courts do nothing:mad: except cos NRP's a fortune

Rebe

We've spent fortunes throught courts and solicitors and all sorts and we even went through a centre where the child could be dropped off by parent and time spent there so there was no one to one contact but she just didn't turn up or makes excuses. She called one day to say we could go round at a particular time, I took day off work for moral support and we got there and she'd called the police telling them we were harrassing her!! There's no end, I just hoped somewhere that i'd missed a law that was in my fiances favour

HamsterCheeks, hope your partner gets things sorted, I know how heartbreaking it is!

Rebe

hamstercheeks_2

Rebe wrote: »

We've spent fortunes throught courts and solicitors and all sorts and we even went through a centre where the child could be dropped off by parent and time spent there so there was no one to one contact but she just didn't turn up or makes excuses. She called one day to say we could go round at a particular time, I took day off work for moral support and we got there and she'd called the police telling them we were harrassing her!! There's no end, I just hoped somewhere that i'd missed a law that was in my fiances favour

HamsterCheeks, hope your partner gets things sorted, I know how heartbreaking it is!

Rebe

:(Sounds like my OH's ex - she's done the same - police have been called quite a few times but it's came back to bite her as her new partner approached me and ended up being charged with breach of the peace

The law should be changed so that if it is proven that the NRP has made efforts and wants to see the children but the PWC is withholding contact then that NRP should not be charged any CSA money - that would sort out the PWC's attitude.

It is heartbreaking, especially since my OH has seen the children and they wouldn't stop hugging him:(

marksoton

I would suggest both of you get in contact with families need fathers and think about getting a mckenzie friend. They are very cheap and a lot of people have had success using them. Except in the most extreme cases solicitors are no good. They simply drag things out for their own financial gain.

Caroline73_2

Rebe wrote: »

Hello,

Quite new to all this so please bear with me..
My fiance has been divorced from his ex for about 6 years now, they have a little boy together who is 7. During their relationship, she had a string of affairs and was both mentally and physically abusive to him and the children. OH has been paying through the CSA for some time now, despite attempts to sort it out between themselves, she's just not willing! and she's not let him see his son for many years.
My query is, is there no way/no law that is in my OH's favour? admittedly she is not the easiest lady to communicate with etc but there isn't a day goes by I know my OH doesn't think about him, we've tried everything we can think of and don't understand why he has no rights!!

Rebe

Why didn't he leave with the children, or take immediate custody if she was abusive to the children?