Weddings and arguing families

ginger_nuts

my parents had to pay for there own wedding ,and didnt invite any off dad's married brothers or sisters .Two single one's where invited along with all mums family including her 3 aunts .50 years later its still being talked about .

exil

A wedding is a PUBLIC ceremony. The doors of the church or registry office have to be open during it!

That is - you can't stop anyone coming to a wedding. The reception is of course a different matter - and is usually where there is likely to be trouble, once the booze starts flowing. No law to say you even have to have a reception!

Nile

Hello Wizwoo


I agree with others who advise you to have the wedding you want.

I've watched a friend's wedding video and unfortunately it has captured the miserable expressions on some of the guest's faces. We could enjoy watching it because it wasn't our wedding that was ruined by 'Dr Crippen and his wife' glaring back at us from the screen.

If you invite people who love you and wish you both well, you're sure to have a wonderful wedding day.:j

If you invite people you feel obliged to invite.......at best they may spoil your photographs or film recording..........at worst they could start a row or fight and ruin your wedding day.

nelly_2

Go as far away as possible like st lucia and just invite parents best man best women.

Say its allways been your dream to have a tiny wedding on a beach

System

Nile wrote:

If you invite people you feel obliged to invite.......at best they may spoil your photographs or film recording..........at worst they could start a row or fight and ruin your wedding day.

My second wedding was a small affair with only a few people invited. There was a handful of people who MrJudi worked with came. One of these women had tried so hard to get MrJudi to go out with her (before he met me) and she never really rocked his boat so he refused to take the hint. On several of the pictures that was taken as we were taking our vows, we have a few shots with this woman on the end of the row she looked as miserable as sin. She spoils the photos she is in really and i wish she had stayed at home to be honest.:mad:

jockettuk

I hadnt spoke to my sister for a few yrs before i got married and to be truthful i didnt like her as a person.. all my life she was the fav and always tried to outdo me etc.. i told my mum and dad she wasnt invited they said they wouldnt come then either so i said fine by me.. i was paying for the wedding and i told them that it was there choice but there was no going back afterwards. i hadnt asked them to choose they choose.. a few days after this conversation mum rang back apologised and said fine as long as i was happy she was to... a few of my friends were warned that if my sister turned up she was to be escorted off the premises.. bearing in mind my wedding was 300 miles away from her home.. My poor friend who tried to surprise me as she had been away got mistaken for my sister and wasnt allowed in untill my dad sorted it out lol... so bouncers so to speak are great if they know whos who lol..

my wedding day was fantastic..... so was the divorce yrs later lol

pickle

Why not have the marriage at the registry office and then down the pub for a drink to celebrate. Tell them it's very informal and then they can come and go as they please. Then have a special second wedding overseas with all the trimmings.

gixxerchick_2

One of my sister's is already being unreasonable; for my hen day, i want to go go-karting, something different and lots of fun and everyone i have asked to join us is really looking forward to it apart from her. When i told her of the plans she promptly told me ' i'm not doing that, you'll have to do something else ' and she also say's she isn't getting us a gift from the company with who we have our small wedding list with.
But she'll come out for drinks on my hen night though!!
And i know she will have something to say on the day as we have chosen special flowers for oh's mum and the same one for another of my sister's who i am really close to but i don't particularly care about what she has to say or what she thinks as it's our day and it's going to go the way we want and not how someone else thinks it
should.

You just stand your ground and enjoy it.

Wizwoo

gixxerchick wrote:

One of my sister's is already being unreasonable; for my hen day, i want to go go-karting, something different and lots of fun and everyone i have asked to join us is really looking forward to it apart from her. .

:T

Well done gixxerchick. Go-carting sounds like great fun. Don't know what I'll do for a hen night. That's another issue. We go for a girls night out once every couple of months and it's always the same crowd and I really don't get on with one of them (she has driven me to tears - in the past ) and she'll not be on the list - and I know I'll get such a hard time.

The Italy weddings web site looks amazing. Does anyone else have any ideas / experience of getting married in Italy?

ginger_nuts

my aunt & uncle where 39 when she got married in 1970 .They didnt tell anyone they had been going out together ,they didnt tell anyone they where getting married .
They had a best man & bridesmaid ,no photos and reception was in a cafe around the corner .Honeymoon was a day trip in Dublin .They had bought a house 6 months before the wedding and my uncle had been living in it with lodgers .When they got married my aunt moved in but they didnt tell the lodgers they had got married .