Mother of the Bride outfit woes

across

yep i agree it is lovely when the brides mother matches the colour scheme my colour scheme was lilac and white and my mum wore a lovely lilac outfit and hat and looked gorgeous in it and i let her choose whatever she felt comfortable in i wouldnt have given it a second thought as long as she was happy with it! best of luck weddings can be a nightmare!

terized

I've just got married at the end of Jan an had a real problem getting my outfit (2nd marriage) It was low key but still turne out to be very stressy.
It is your day and if you are worried then you must say something. If its said teh right way then it shouldt be taken badly. Why not say that you are concerned that it matched the bm and you had a picture in your mind of how everyone looked.
Suggest a shopping trip together, just to have a look to see if there may be something else that you both really liked. I imagine that your mum knows that she wouldnt want to upset you and if it were taht important to you then she would think of something else.
\Good \luck!

elona

You mentioned if it was more fitted and shorter that the dress would not be such a problem.

Could you get a dressmaker to do this?

Becles

A dress maker should be able to turn it into a normal dress.

As far as I know, the dress is being worn to the wedding in it's current state regardless of my opinion on it

Jay-Jay_4

Becles wrote:

As far as I know, the dress is being worn to the wedding in it's current state regardless of my opinion on it

Do you think you could bite the bullet and tell her to her face that you don't feel that the dress is suitable? :undecided

I know I said that matching outfits look nice but only if the matching outfit is fitted and 'demure'. Not sure that cleavage and flouncy hemlines are appropriate for MOTB.

Maybe if you tried reverse phsycology and said that you feel she will 'outshine' the bridesmaids :undecided Lame I know but struggling for other ideas.

Becles

I'm not going to push it anymore.

My Dad let it slip that I've booked her in at the hairdressers in the hotel on the morning of the wedding for a wash and blow dry. This was supposed to be her Mothers Day present, and was intended as some pampering for her. However that's been taken as I don't think her hair is good enough when she does it, so I don't want to cause anymore bad feelings by telling her the dress is awful

Alleycat

Would it look better knee length or a bit more fitted around the bust/tummy area? If so, could you get your mum to try it on again as second time it might look different (excuse) and when she does lift it up a little and comment on how lovely your mums legs look and how flattering it would be. You could also pull it tighter in the right areas and say something along the lines of "...ooh, you've got great boobs/tum etc, that looks really good, could the dress be taken in a bit to show them/it off?"

As part of the wedding party, I think it would be nice for your mum to feel like she ties in with the colour scheme, plus look really nice in the photos. Is she having a coursage (sp?) as my mum did at my little sister's wedding and it matched the bride and bridesmaid (me!) flowers. If she is, then having the dress colour coordinated would be useful so it doesn't clash.

Becles

It would look better if it was like a normal dress - eg. fitted and knee length. In my opinion the fabric is wrong as it's Indian sari silk and the wedding is in Scotland with the men in tartan. My MIL has bought a suit that tones in with the tartan.

All offers to pick a new outfit have been ignored as she's wearing the dress regardless of what I think

I'm not sure about a corsage. I just thought of that the other day as I've ordered a boquet and posy for me and the bridesmaid, and thistle button holes for the men, but need to speak to the mothers and see what they want.

Becles

Yay! - A result thanks to my sons :j

They were there when my Mam first showed me the dress. She was babysitting for me the other day and was showing the boys her holiday snaps from India, including one of her wearing the dress with the tailor who made it. Apparantly my eldest burst out laughing and said "not the pregnant dress again". My Mam asked why he said that and my son said "because you look pregnant in it." The youngest one backed him up and said "yeah it makes you look really fat" - oops!

Just had a phone call asking what I thought, and I tactfully said it was too loose fitting, which was a shame as she has a nice figure. I suggested something more fitted would make her look slim and elegant. So we're going shopping next week........

One less thing to worry about now