Wedding Gift List asking for money or vouchers

Sexy_Legs

Help/opinions needed from you wonderful people.

I am putting together a Wedding Information Sheet, about accomodation, how to get there etc and am thinking of including something about a wedding list.

Is this cheeky, we have our own house and don't really need anymore salad bowls, duvet sets etc. etc. and I would rather be able to use money or vouchers towards honeymoon or a new sofa.

These are the two wordings, I have put together, if you received this in an invite would you be insulted annoyed.

Wedding Gifts: We do not have a wedding list as your attendance is all we expect. However should you wish to give us a gift, a contribution towards our honeymoon would be gratefully appreciated.
OR
Wedding Gifts: We do not have a wedding list as your attendance is all we expect. However should you wish to give us a gift, Thomas Cook Gift Vouchers would be gratefully appreciated

Vouchers are available online at: https://www.voucherexpress.co.uk/VERSE/thomascook/index.aspx
or do I not put anything in about gifts and just let guests decide for themselves.
Its a difficult one.
Thanks for any opinions

Bluebelle72

Hi there hun. I am also going to be asking for donations towards a honeymoon as H2B and myself have lived together for the past 5 yrs. I found these http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/80-mini-cards-to-politely-ask-for-wedding-gifts-of-cash_W0QQitemZ360102965428QQcmdZViewItemQQptZUK_Home_Garden_Celebrations_Occasions_ET?hash=item360102965428&_trksid=p3286.c0.m14&_trkparms=72:1686|66%3A5|65%3A12|39%3A2|240%3A1318 on ebay, I'm not going to buy them but I am going to be cheeky and steal the wording then I will simply rint them off with a picture of my own choosing and simply send them with the invites, HTH hun. xx

Bluebelle72

sorry that looked a little mixed up here is the link again.

http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/80-mini-cards-to-politely-ask-for-wedding-gifts-of-cash_W0QQitemZ360102965428QQcmdZViewItemQQptZUK_Home_Garden_Celebrations_Occasions_ET?hash=item360102965428&_trksid=p3286.c0.m14&_trkparms=72:1686|66%3A5|65%3A12|39%3A2|240%3A1318

if you can't click on it just copy and paste to your browser. xx

Sexy_Legs

Bluebelle72 wrote: »

Hi there hun. I am also going to be asking for donations towards a honeymoon as H2B and myself have lived together for the past 5 yrs. I found these http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/80-mini-cards-to-politely-ask-for-wedding-gifts-of-cash_W0QQitemZ360102965428QQcmdZViewItemQQptZUK_Home_Garden_Celebrations_Occasions_ET?hash=item360102965428&_trksid=p3286.c0.m14&_trkparms=72:1686|66%3A5|65%3A12|39%3A2|240%3A1318 on ebay, I'm not going to buy them but I am going to be cheeky and steal the wording then I will simply rint them off with a picture of my own choosing and simply send them with the invites, HTH hun. xx

cheers for that, it is difficult isn't it.

hannahjex

This topic comes up on wedding forums a lot, and tends to get a mixed response. However, I personally wouldn't be offended and think it's becoming the norm. Lots of people nowadays ask for cash/vouchers; we're doing it too, because we have no use for another toaster/kettle/whatever. While some of the older generation guests might be offended, the majority shouldn't be; and besides, you've made it clear that you don't expect gifts from anyone and it is up to them whether they want to contribute. Also, if you choose to do it via the poem method, here are some links to loads of different ones.

http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/index.php/chatroom/topic/9145

http://www.youandyourwedding.co.uk/index.php/chatroom/topic/58199

http://www.verses4cards.co.uk/wedding-verses.html

Also, if you haven't already booked your honeymoon, or even if you've booked it already with Thomas Cook; several travel agents now have a honeymoon gift list scheme where you pay your deposit and then they set up a gift list for you where guests can come and contribute to it and they give you little cards to put in with your invitations the same way you'd put in the details for a John Lewis/Debenhams/whoever gift list. Whatever guests contribute goes toward paying off the balance and you pay whatever is left over just before the wedding. If guests contributions turn out to be higher than what the honeymoon cost, they'll give you a cheque or debit the money back to your card (same thing with contributions that come in after the wedding or after you've already paid of the balance. If it's strictly honeymoon money you're after, rather than just random cash/vouchers, that might be a better way for you. The only problem with doing it this way is that you can't book last minute, and you have to be sure what sort of budget you can afford because there is no way of knowing how much guests will contribute. But you could book the cheapest, no-frills holiday they have on offer for the destination you want and then upgrade once the contributions start rolling in. xx

robnye

my neice is getting married at the end of april, her and her fiance already live in their own flat, and have added the same thing into their invite, in fact it was done in a way that people could send the money to the travel company, who would then reimburse them

so personally i dont see any problem with it - better than getting - 3 kettles, 4 toasters and several sets of place mats

marshmallow13

if you want thomas cook vouchers and you are asking people to go online, their direct honeymoon gifting service is free at the moment see www.thomascookhoneymoons.com - people can go on there and you can put a pic of you, where you are going and a thankyou note. There is a small charge for each transaction via credit or debit card but as i said free to register. I dont think its cheeky at all. either of your phrases are the same, I think the poems make you look a bit like you are trying to justify it and i dont think you should have to althought they are fun. good luck

Sexy_Legs

Thanks everyone for your advice and support.

Don't laugh, but the problem for me with the Thomas Cook vouchers is that the wedding is Friday 24th April this year, so I will be booking a last minute honeymoon deal, so if I ask for the voucher I won't be able to use them for the honeymoon but would have to be for another holiday in the future, would that matter. I am known amongst my family and friends as always being on holiday as we love travelling LOL.

Shall I just use the donation to honeymoon one instead of the thomas cook.

What we will also do, for those in the family who really would not be able to afford a donation, we'll ask them to get us something small that we do need, do you think that would work.

What a dilema.

skintbutsmiling01

I think we're going to have a small gift list as we really do need stuff! But we also have ran out of money for a honey moon! So I may put
We cant stress enough that your presence is our special gift, however if you do you want to buy us a token we are having a traditional gift list at www.wherever.com, or would be eternally grateful for donations to our dream honeymoon in Hawaii.

What do you think? Be honest!
Sorry to hijack the thread, sexy legs, I love your wording btw!

gill_81uk

I think I would lose the 'eternally' from before the grateful skintbutsmiling

lindaatno9

You could say. "Your presence not you presents are required." And then go on to say but should you wish to give a wedding gift, Thomas Cook vouchers would be greatfully received.