I want to propose but....

gaz_jones

Have you had any more thoughts on this OP?

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Q7_st wrote: »

No way am I picking a ring I have no idea what size to get let alone style! What do I get her instead? I could get her a 'fake' ring so she has something on her finger???

And she'd be MORTIFIED if I got down on 1 knee in a public place... so would I come to it!

An idea for the fake ring - I have a "diamond ring" keyring - quite large, which people are always commenting on - a few places online sell them - quite blingy! I'll PM you if you want the details.

Kavanne

goochie wrote: »

An idea for the fake ring - I have a "diamond ring" keyring - quite large, which people are always commenting on - a few places online sell them - quite blingy! I'll PM you if you want the details.

Could you post the details here? pweaaaase

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Kavanne wrote: »

Could you post the details here? pweaaaase

Not sure if this is allowed so sorry Board guides if I'm not supposed to do this - Red Direct, IWOOT, Graham and Green and Amazon does a different colour one - just google diamond key ring, lots of places sell them and the prices do vary from about £4.99 to £9.99 for essentially the same thing.

Kavanne

goochie wrote: »

Not sure if this is allowed so sorry Board guides if I'm not supposed to do this - Red Direct, IWOOT, Graham and Green and Amazon does a different colour one - just google diamond key ring, lots of places sell them and the prices do vary from about £4.99 to £9.99 for essentially the same thing.

You can link us it's not a problem.. as long as it's not a referral link.

webtalk

Am I missing something here? Isn't the act of proposing THE MOST IMPORTANT THING? Not the how you do it and the showy stuff surrounding how you do it? Waiting for the perfect timing for the Grand Gesture is ridiculous.

If you genuinely want to marry her because you want to spend the rest of your life with HER, then just tell her. Stop faffing about. You don't even need a ring.

I'll tell you what's romantic and shows someone you love them:

• When you tell her you love her and wouldn't swap her for the world when she looks like an absolute dog
• When the last thing you want to do is housework - and you vacuum the house
• When you don't go out on the razzle with the lads because you want to stay home with her and the LO and maybe go for a picnic as a family
• When your face lights up when you see her at the end of the day/she walks into a room
• When you go for a spontaneous meal so she doesn't have to cook
• Etc
• Etc

Grand Gestures have absolutely no meaning unless love (not talking sex here :eek:) is displayed on a daily basis. If you do that - then the Grand Gesture is fantastic - as long as it is your style. But if waiting for the 'right' Grand Gesture is delaying something as important as telling someone you want to spend the rest of your life with her - and make a public commitment, then you need to ask yourself about your priorities. If she expects Grand Gestures - well ...

Grand Gestures don't ahve to be expensive - you could even plan a really romantic picnic at home - get someone to do the catering - and have a lovely time once the LO is in bed.

Sorry to be so blunt. But I have yet to understand why people can't get engaged without a ring or without planning the perfect proposal. Just as I cant' understand why people can't get married because they can't afford to do so - of course they can. What they possibly can't afford is the fancy wedding and related trappings. It is a matter of priorities.

Amber_Sunshine

I too would be mortified at a big showy proposal.

If my ex-BF had proposed to me, it would have been enough to know that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me (which obviously he didn't!)

Pee

I think trying to do it in the best, most memorable way you can and thinking about it is a lovely thing.

Let us know how it goes!

webtalk

Pee wrote: »

I think trying to do it in the best, most memorable way you can and thinking about it is a lovely thing.

Let us know how it goes!

It is. Though I would guess every happily married man or woman remembers 'the moment' - no matter how mundane it was. It is the fact that it happened that's the most important part.

But the MOST memorable aspect of it will be that he proposed. Imagine how sad if the only memory she has is the fact that he didn't propose because he couldn't find a memorable way of doing it.