How much should I pay my sister for childcare?

jimexbox

I dont see any issue at all.

We live in a free society, well, apparently. If a few around here wish to be told the cant look after a relatives baby for cash in hand, so be it. What next the government telling you reading the paper on the the loo is a health and safety problem, to be avoided at all costs. Jesus grow a pair (blokes anyway ), if it doesn't harm the child, and everyone is happy, bollox to them.

Myself, I do what I want within conventional boundaries and norms, ie, treat people how you wish to be treated. The day I bow to some anonymous idiot in Whitehall on every facet of my life is the day I stop breathing.

*takes deep breath*

Mojisola

minnie123 wrote: »

She doesn't get any tax credits or claim any benefits her boyfriend has a well paid job so she has no need to work. Her income from doing various bits and bobs does not reach the taxable bracket. She offered because she loves looking after him and does not work I don't think she expected any money but I want to give her some. She is not a registered childminder but she is great with him and I would not want to leave him with a stranger, I feel he si too young yet. I was thinking about £20 to £25 a day. But is that tight? I don't want to take the mickey out of her.

You've got the possibility of leaving your son with a loving, caring relative - that's great for him and you! I would tell her that you really value her offer but don't want to take advantage of her so you would feel happier if you can pay her something. Have a chat about how things are going every couple of months to make sure she's still happy with the setup.

Don't miss this chance for a really good childcare arrangement.

pange

tiamai_d wrote: »

I wouldn't pay a registered childminder £3.50 an hour! :eek: Round here it's £2.50 for a registered childminder or £28 (9am-5pm provide your own packed lunch) nursery.

:eek: oh my goodness, where do you live? i charge £8 p/h!:eek:

alwaysskint96

pange wrote: »

tiamai_d wrote: »

I wouldn't pay a registered childminder £3.50 an hour! :eek: Round here it's £2.50 for a registered childminder or £28 (9am-5pm provide your own packed lunch) nursery.

:eek: oh my goodness, where do you live? i charge £8 p/h!:eek:

That is more than some parents earn!!!!! And over double what I paid for my son in nursery

minnie123

flea72 wrote: »

you cannot look after a child for financial reward in your own home, unless you are registered. however, you can look after a child in their own house and receive payment

tbh, mixing family members with childcare and money is just a disaster waiting to happen, as its too easy for feelings to get involved. at least if you are paying a nursery/childminder to look after your child, you all know where you stand, and there can be few misunderstandings

for sanity all round, you are prob better off using proper paid childcare, and claiming help via CTC, or using nursery vouchers via the salary sacrifice scheme

Flea

Using a stranger to look after my little boy would NOT help my sanity. I am worried enough about leaving him and there are only a a few people in the world I don't worry about leaving him with and my sister is one of them.

minnie123

Mojisola wrote: »

You've got the possibility of leaving your son with a loving, caring relative - that's great for him and you! I would tell her that you really value her offer but don't want to take advantage of her so you would feel happier if you can pay her something. Have a chat about how things are going every couple of months to make sure she's still happy with the setup.

Don't miss this chance for a really good childcare arrangement.

Thanks I totally agree. And me and my sister have a great relationship I have already had a long chat to her and said if the situation ever changes and she is not able to look after him for any reason whatsoever then to speak to me about it. I would not be upset if that were the case when I had a baby I never expected anyone to do anything for me and what people do offer I am always really really grateful.

She never asked for money, and I never asked her to have him - she offered. I would be stupid to turn that offer down. But I want to pay her she treats him so much anyway most of the money will probably end up going back to treat him.

scotty1971

minnie123 wrote: »

Using a stranger to look after my little boy would NOT help my sanity. I am worried enough about leaving him and there are only a a few people in the world I don't worry about leaving him with and my sister is one of them.

what you going to do when he goes to school?

minnie123

scotty1971 wrote: »

what you going to do when he goes to school?

He won't be a baby then will he.

suki1964

scotty1971 wrote: »

what you going to do when he goes to school?

Think shes got a few years to get used to that idea dont you think?:rotfl:

jimexbox

alwaysskint96 wrote: »

pange wrote: »

That is more than some parents earn!!!!! And over double what I paid for my son in nursery

Childcare costs vary depending where you live. Folk in Chelsea will pay more than those living in the slums of Sunderland (Newcastle fan;)).

Like I said before, my wife looked after her sister's baby daughter. Even though they are sisters its only fair that my wife gets paid a fair amount, after all her sister went back to a well paid job. Why shouldn't she be recompensed for looking after (very well) a very young child? Yes of course we still babysit, and for free;). That what family is for, they are not there as a free service, while the other half make a very good living.