Advice needed for my son, please.

sammyjammy

Poor man, wishing him all the best for Friday, unfortunately some employers just don't care about their employees, particularly in the current climate, perhaps you could try to persuade him its a good move, he could make an informed decision to take a year out and spend time with his son, he could put this on his CV as a positive thing to offset leaving the job.

Whether he leaves or they let him go he will definitely be entitled to money, this will pay him enough money to pay his way for them both in your home and manage reasonably ok.

Let us know how he gets on.

Sam

Loopy_Girl

Whether he leaves or whether he is sacked he will get his Income Support and CTC plus his CB. There will be no sanctions applied and no questions asked.

For future employment, if he left he could say that he took a 'career break' to look after his son? Just a thought.

Personally if it was me (and I stress this is personal opinion), I would resign, thank the company for their employment and then wait a few months before looking for a new job citing the home responsibilities as reason for leaving.

Much better to leave than be sacked in my opinion.

Norman-B

Loopy Girl, I have a feeling you are correct.
It is a question of timing imo. If he gets a feeling that things are not going in his favour (on Fri') perhaps he should ask to resign. Move on and look for a fresh start. Shame is that he has been there 5 years.
Thanks for your reply.

Loopy_Girl

I think so too. Reisgn, leave on good terms and then he can deal with getting himself better.

He can then look for new work when he is stronger and there is no blemish on his work CV.

I agree it's a shame too and he could push for sickness etc due to his circumstances but as he is having issues at the moment then it may be one fight not worth doing.

You pick your battles in this life and this is one he actually doesn't need to do and could come out of it all ok - professionally and personally.

Norman-B

Sadly, following a meeting that lasted 4 hours, my son was dismissed. He was represented by his union, produced his medical report (from his GP) and yet he was fired.
It seems to me that his depression leading to his poor performance, counts for nothing. I'm sickened by this decision and want him to appeal against it! But my son is drained and does not want to fight it. His worry now is more to do with applying for a new job and his CV.

All we can do is offer him our support. Shame is, he was offered a council flat only this very day.

Thanks to all the above posters for the support and advice.

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Would it not be an idea to go for unfair dismisal?Acas will offer advice on this
http://www.acas.org.uk/index.aspx?articleid=1461

Norman-B

woodbine wrote: »

Would it not be an idea to go for unfair dismisal?Acas will offer advice on this
http://www.acas.org.uk/index.aspx?articleid=1461

His union rep' was shocked at the result! Wants him to fight the decision by an appeal and the union to take it further.
I think my lad just wants to walk away and move on. My gut feeling is that this was a way out of paying him redundancy.

Shame is that my lad was offered a council flat earlier today. His day started off so well and finished up so badly.

Thanks to the above posters for advice.

nova

Hi Norman, there's nothing constructive l can add l dont know enough, but just wanted to let you know my support X
Your son is very lucky to have you, we've had work and personal problems this year after losing my mum and although my dad was bereaved himself we could'nt have got through this year without him. Life is about caring and sharing and you certainly get that from this site, sorry l cant add anything practical but l hope everything works out for you all.
Can your son not have his council house now, there's plenty of people in local housing who dont have jobs, its not like he has no intention of not working at all. X

Norman-B

nova, thank you for your kind comments.
I am seeing a good friend tomorrow evening and she has offered my son a job, subject to interview! He may have 'landed on his feet' with this spot of luck. I just happened to call a pal and next thing, I get a call re this job offer.

Re the flat, I have been told by the council, that the Housing Assocn will be unwilling to accept someone on housing benefit. I am a little surprised at this news. So, this job offer is so very important.

The good thing (to me, at least) is that my son can acknowledge that is has been and still is in a depression. All we can do is offer him our support and hope that things improve in the near future.





PS, my nephew has just 'phoned me and is willing to try and find him work.

nova

Oh Noman thats good news, will keep everything crossed for you. l have suffered with depression and the fact that l had friends and family around me for support l think definately aided my recovery. l have a great understanding of people with these problems. l find if someone has a broken limb they get loads of sympathy as its something people can see, where as depression no one can really see and they dont know how to deal with it.
let us know how he gets on, lm angry they wont let him have the flat, his self esteem would really go up then, aiding his recovery.

Nova