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  • gravitytolls
    gravitytolls Posts: 13,558 Forumite
    Contact the police. A visit from a PC may convince both your mum and your brother that this is serious.

    Your brother needs help, if he's doing it to you, he'll do it to others in his life.

    In the meantime, you need help too. Forget the debt for now, you can deal with that when your life is on a more even keel.
    Contact CAB, they'll tell you what's available in your area; there are organisations that help young people at risk, who are too old to be taken into care.

    Don't try to make excuses for your brother, and don;t accept any from anyone else. What he's doing is wrong.

    I suffered abuse during my teenage years from various sources. For a long time I thought I was destined to be a victim always, that there was something wrong with me. There wasn't, but I wish I'd told somebody.

    Don't prevaricate, do it immediately, and let us know how you get on.
    I ave a dodgy H, so sometimes I will sound dead common, on occasion dead stupid and rarely, pig ignorant. Sometimes I may be these things, but I will always blame it on my dodgy H.

    Sorry, I'm a bit of a grumble weed today, no offence intended ... well it might be, but I'll be sorry.
  • Hi Charlie

    First, Good luck!

    I've been there too and I know it can seem like you're breaking people's hearts by highlighting a problem, can feel like you're being selfish etc - but your own safety (and sanity) comes first.

    I'll add to earlier suggestions of keeping a record of your brother hurting you - look as well for other 'evidence' eg did anyone else hear an argument, have you spoken to your doctor/other 'neutral' person about it? These bits of evidence help the police (and you) if you do decide to take it further.

    It's your choice, and it's a hard one,whether to 'tell on' your loved ones, but you don't have to make the decision on your own, there are lots of people who will support you.

    -Hope
    total debt as at 02/02/06 = 18944

    2006 target = finally get my share of money from divorce, pay off cards
    rest of year = use remaining money to build up house deposit
    2007 = buy a house

    I did it - am now safely in house with my boyfriend. We're sorting out our joint finances and getting organised. GOOD LUCK to all those on the board. You can get there.

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