The revenge of the stripey socks - a DFW adventure

Pippilongstocking

Lemon_Tree wrote: »

does that mean we're invited for christmas then?

As long as no 'outlaws' are invited I can't see why not - the tables big enough, the lodgers are away and the freezer is FULL enough :rotfl:

Eh and what's this all picking which days - it will all be delicious!!

Karmacat

Erm, vegetarian here! maybe we can pick some seaweed off the rocks and fry it up?

gallygirl

fayjmck wrote: »

As long as no 'outlaws' are invited I can't see why not - the tables big enough, the lodgers are away and the freezer is FULL enough :rotfl:

Eh and what's this all picking which days - it will all be delicious!!

Em, most people's Christmas' are 'differently menued' to yours Fay

Pippilongstocking

Oh well

KC - plenty fudge for you its generally pretty meat free

GG - we'll probably have the 'traditional' type menu no one in this household seems remotely inspired by my beach kill

Am cream crackered today - up til 1.40ish working and need to work like a beast today - hey ho - been a bit up and a bit down about this phd malarkay

Spoke to student services on Thursday which just ended up in my in floods of tears (again) and wondering what I am doing to myself

Thinking of making appointment with 'father figure' type supervisor (lucky me having 4 supervisors I almost have one for each day of the week - to have a chat. Really unsure of continuing to be honest - two more years of constantly NOT making the mark is too much for me I am afraid

Just need to fathom out how best to go forward if indeed I do anything at all - I don't need a PhD - whilst it would be nice - its not essential to my life long everyday breathing in and out.

Am beginning to think there's more to life than dotting I's and crossing T's - rather acheive something more practical (which I hope project this will anyway) - onwards

Excuse the moan!

Gargamel got another £10- need to fathom out level of expenditure in my Lloyds account to keep it ticking over and shove the rest into gargamel - not long til (2 more rent payments) one lodger disappears - (gulp).

PS sign of misspent time - I just got to 5000 posts (whoops!) but I have saved alot of money.........and am under 20k in total debt wise now......:) cheers martin (and of course you chaps!)

starnac

Karmacat wrote: »

Erm, vegetarian here! maybe we can pick some seaweed off the rocks and fry it up?

hugh fearnley whatsisname did a good recipe for cooking seaweed found on the beach

Karmacat

Fudge and seaweed......... perfick!

Fay, sounds like you're going through some serious reassessment, if you're considering stopping the PhD work. Is there a holiday you can take from it?

Pippilongstocking

Hey KC - nope its make or break time - they are shortening my deadline, despite my shouting about it.

The dyslexia thing means it does take me longer to do stuff - therefore - that ones a no brainer - shorter deadlines, tight time scale, I either work my bahoocky off (which I am trying to) but I can't keep running just to stay walking pace in the longer term it will be 2 years of work like this - and to be honest they don't listen - therefore I am not sure I am willing to play a game I can't win, with constantly changing rules.

I haven't written it off - however - I am not convinced this latest review period is anything but an exercise to say 'oh we tried with the dyslexia support in place but she's not up to the mark'............therefore she can just do a post graduate degree (MPhil) instead of the PhD - which seems to be just as much work to be honest (I think it is anyway - without the Dr of Flowers bit) I have never been in the position before where I really 'dont' know how to achieve or actually what is expected of each section I write (phrases like - 'I can't do your job for you - this is supposed to be challenging' - isn't really supervisory support.

Negative negative! Sorry.

What they don't seem to have grasped is that I already have a postgraduate degree, I am normally pretty competent (they seem to have no issue sending me all over the place representing them and using me for contract work)............ and whilst I love my project I have no real need to validate myself again by putting myself through another qualification which is equivilant to that I already have............................and may actualy lead to a nervous breakdown!!

I miss cooking, I miss walking and I miss my kids (am constantly shoved in the office 'working'. Its not the life I have strived to give the rugrats.

However, that being said - not much of a giver upper............................:) and I love my project, I think its important and I don't really know how to make sure its OK and is communicated 'out there' to help folks.

Onwards - ta for listening to my silly nonsense - back to the writing!

honeybear_2

fayjmck wrote: »

Thinking of making appointment with 'father figure' type supervisor (lucky me having 4 supervisors I almost have one for each day of the week - to have a chat. Really unsure of continuing to be honest - two more years of constantly NOT making the mark is too much for me I am afraid
PS sign of misspent time - I just got to 5000 posts (whoops!) but I have saved alot of money.........and am under 20k in total debt wise now......:) cheers martin (and of course you chaps!)

:wave:

Take yourself off to a good supervisor & have a chat. There's no point in putting yourself through hell & back on this. Equally, talking to people who've been there & know their stuff will give you another perspective on it all.

Also, it's worth bearing in mind how much you've achieved in just under 2 years with your debts & I bet you didn't think you could do that when you started

Good luck with it all tho, hon

Katy83

Sounds like you have a lot to think about. Definitely would second the idea of going back to your supervisor for a chat. And if that doesn't work what about the head of the department?

Is there any chance of negotiating a year out and picking up where you left off? Do they have a student support person for dyslexia?

Beachkill Christmas dinner sounds intriguing...very Gordon Ramsey! xx

starnac

would it be worth sitting down and writing out exactly where you see yourself in 5 years time? that way you'll prioritise what's important and you can then decide on a way forward.