Tenant - Please help.

barnaby-bear

KeepYourChinUp wrote: »

I agree with clutton :T
Poor daft LL never did her tenant 'research' properly I always make sure I have a good chat when I slowly show people round a property, its amazing how people trip themselves up. Which everway it goes both parties are going to have six months of stress and regret.

I suspect the OP will be back when in 4 months she gets a section 21.... LL seems quite reasonable (I've only been a tenant not a LL and getting a LL to do half the list of stuff she's asked for sounds one of the better ones). The lack of cleaning is usually a good thing - given you have to return a property as found, I'd rather go into a dirty one - clean / pay for carpets to be done than insist the LL does it and then pay for it to be done at the end - easier to leave it as found with moving out... the OP's tone is so shouty ranty capitalised text speak I suspect her personal issues are causing her stress and the LL is just an outlet. Very few LLs will consider a not working pregnant single mum so the LL must be fairly reasonable and accommodating.

MaximumImpact

Miss Clairey.

Why don't you calm down? You have come on here and asked for advice from people who are both Landlords and tenants and it would appear that the majority are giving you the same advice. Nobody has been rude or aggressive towards you , yet you have been aggressive and even threatening when people haven't told you what you wanted to hear.

If you are not happy with the advice given, then consult with the Citizens Advice Bureau and also, the Army Welfare Officer as they will assist you as a dependant of an member of the Armed forces.

Can I suggest that you take a little time to sit back and read some of the things you have said? You do come across as a demanding and sometimes spiteful person who expects everyone else to do everything for her.

I appreciate that you are in a difficult situation but behaviour like yours is not acceptable. Be careful how you treat people as one day you may need them.
I am not saying this to slag you off or to make you feel small but to try and make things easier for you.

The world is a hard place and throwing your toys out the pram is not going to make people like you or do things for you. Only politeness and patience will do that. Remember that your Landlady is just that, not a friend or someone to call for a chat, she is your Landlady.

Good luck and I hope you sort things soon.

(by the way I am a long term tenant and not a Landlord)

schueys_girl

missclairey wrote: »

I am sorry you are having this difficult situation. And in some parts you are very correct. BUT! I also think you need to be careful - yes you are pregnant and have a little one...but to be honest that isnt really the LL's problem.
NEVER SAID IT WAS. AND HER BEING BUSY ISN';T MINE EITHER



Why are you typing in capitals?! I am only trying to help! I just have a different opinion of things than you do...thats what forum is for!





Just because of these things yes you are a little delicate, but you are still in your right mind, and therefore knew what you were getting yourself into when you veiewed the property - before signing anything or handing over the money.

What was the rush to sign, with all these problems the place has?! YOu are making it sound like it is a horrible place with all these issues, so why on earth did you sign anything and hand over money when there were things you were not happy with?

As someone else said - it is a renters market right now. There are lots of properties to chose from, and renters have the power at the moment.

Sounds like you would of been better turning this place down and finding somewhere else?

But nevertheless you cannot do this now, as you are tied in. The only thing you can do is basically wait. Clearly this woman IS easily aggitated i'll give you that.



..........I notice with interest that you havent commented on any of this ABOVE!!!!..........




Her text wasn't RUDE, yes it was very abrupt, and clearly you are a bit like me, and read into things and take things quite a bit personally. This is the problem with text messages, things come across in the wrong way, and are misunderstood. They are not professional. Some other people would of read the text and thought "ok fair enuff shes busy....etc"
SHE SHOULDNT HAVE STARTING TEXT ME THEN SHOULD SHE



You do not have to do things how she does them....why not do things your own way?!



Why dont you phone her and speak to her? Much more professional and you will be able to explain yourself more - and it just looks better on yourself that you are able to deal with things in the correct manner. Living on your own with 2 kids you will have to get used to this.

I am not meaning to be horrible, AT ALL - btu stop complaining that you are pregnant and have a toddler - you chose to have the babies I assume? So therefore it is not an excuse for anything. Yes you are finding life difficult at the moment and things havent gone your way at the moment but that happens to a lot of people - at least you have found somewhere to live, and when everything it sorted out it will all be ok!

IM NOT MOANING ABOUT BEING PREGNANT I WAS SAYING I NEED TO SORT THINGS OUT BECAUSE OF THIS. IT'S BEING PAINTED AND I WANTED AIRED FOR MY LITTLE BOY.



Well everyone needs their homes cleaned and aired etc regardless of whether you have a little boy or not!!



I could do without the stresses i have right now, working way over full time hours, trying to find a new place to live, as my employer has decided they dont want me to live on site anymore - god knows how i am supposed to find somwhere else to live and move when i work 5 days as week and then go racing at weekends!! I also am not very well and my fiance earns very little money so renting privately is going to be a struggle....BUT this isnt my prospective LL's problem - they are just running a business (however badly) and making money like the rest of us!

WELL, MY HUSBAND HAS RECENTLY COME BACK FROM BING IN IRAQ WITH THE ARMY FOR SIX MONTHS, AND THEN CHEATED WHILE I WAS PREGNANT AND NO IT WASN'T PLANNED, IM DISABLED AND DOCTORS SAID I COULDNT GET PREGNANT. IM ON MORPHINE FOR ILLNESS AND ONLY 12 WEEKS PG SO CANNOT DO WORKS MYSELF AS DRS SAID ID LOSE MY BABY. I CANNOT EVEN WALK FAR - THEIR REQUEST, NOT MINE. I WAS HOMELESS AND THIS WAS THE ONLY PLACE LOCAL TO MY MOM AS SHE HAS MS AND IM HER CARER SO I HAD NO CHOICE BUT TO TAKE IT. I CANNOT UNDERSTAND SOME PPL, I NEVER SAID OR MADE OUT IT WAS HER PROBLEM.




You are getting very personal!! Either disclose all the information you feel is relevant or dont....BUT THEN DONT MOAN AT THE BOTTOM OF YOUR POST THAT PEOPLE ARE TALKING ABOUT YOUR BABIES!!! YOU CHOSE TO MENTION BEING PREGNANT ETC AND YOUR HUSBAND LEAVING YOU AS IT IS A DISADVANTAGE YOU.....

...IF YOU DIDNT WANT PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT THEM (AND NO ONE HAS SAID ANYTHING BAD ABOUT YOUR KIDS!) THEN DONT MENTION THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE.






So look on the bright side, you have a lovely toddler, another on the way, and somewhere to live, which once its sorted, will make you a nice home.

For all you know, you just got off on the wrong foot with the LL, I mean you are jumping to conclusions and calling her rude etc....because you say you have a lot on and stressed cos pregnant etc...HOW DO YOU KNOW SHE OR HE ALSO DOESNT HAVE A LOT ON, FAMILY PROBLEMS ETC....
AS YOU SAID, HER PROBLEMS ARENT MINE JUST AS MINE AINT HERS. IM NOT THAT TYPE OF PERSON THOUGH. I TRIED TO HELP THE BLOODY WOMAN AS I KNOW SHE WORKS. I EVEN OFFERED TO GO THE CARPET SHOP AND SORT SOME QUOTES FOR HER - I DIDNT HAVE TO.
IM NOT JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS. I didn't understand some of the questions on one of her many forms (i've never rented before)







I have never rented before either....my fiance works all day and nights too in two jobs so he not around to help move things and fill in forms etc either. I am doing stuff on my own too...as a lot of people are - but i figured out the forms myself...you have to do some things on your own!!!!!


I called her to ask her to explain them, I left a voicemail as she wasn't avaliable and I later got a text from her saying she wasn't going to keep explaining everything to me and even rang her old tentant who I know and asked her to tell me everything I needed to know as she was sick of me asking questions about the property. That isn't right. She should have stayed with an agent as she hasn't a clue how to talk to people and it's not for the old tenant to sort out for her. She just wants everybody to sort evefrything out for her


Just have a think.

Is it easier for you to paint the place yourself?!?!!? then you can go in and clean too??
AS I SAID NO. I HAVE NOBODY TO HELP EITHER, THIS IS WHY I NEED TO MAKE BEST USE OF THE TIME NOW SO I CAN MOVE THINGS SLOWLY. I PAID HER 1,150 5TH AND I DONT MOVE IN TILL 17TH - I PAID RENT FROM THEN TO HELP HER OUT I DIDNT HAVE TO. ALL I WANTED TO KNOW WAS AN APPROX OF WHEN WORKS WOULD BE FINISHED.



I am exactly the same as you, most of the stuff i am sorting on my own. However i only have a few hours each week to do stuff - and i am not moaning - its called getting on with things!!!




I TRIED TO SOLVE THEM MYSELF BUT SHE SAID IT WOULD BE DONE AND SHOULD STICK BY HER WORD. I CANNOT AFFORD TO GET A PLUMBER OR PAINTER AND ITS HER JOB. THE OLD TENTANT HAD TO REPLACE THE LIVING ROOM CARPET AS SHE KEEP PUTTING IT OFF THEN SHE WOULDNT GIVE HER THE MONEY BACK. SAYS IT ALL DONT IT

DONT MEAN TO SOUND SNAPPY AND THANK YOU FOR POSTING. JUST SOME PPL HAVE PUT COMMENTS ABOUT MY CHILDREN AND IM NOT HAPPY. I WANT MY CHILDREN TO HAVE A NICE CLEAN HOME WHICH IS WHY I WANT THE BEST FOR THEM.

So to sum up - if you were NOT happy with the place you should never of signed the tenancy. You clearly do not get on with this womans style of doing things. I think you are not dealing with this in the best way and taking everything WAY too personal in my view - from people on here and also from this woman.

Not everyone in life will be helpful and nice. We have all foudn this. yes you are trying to be helpful as you put it and go to get carpet qutoes etc but in a way this isnt for her, this is for you and your babies!!!

At least next time you will be more experienced in this and not make similar mistakes and rush. We all make mistakes when we do things first time.

I think you need to calm down. There is not a lot you can do about this woman for 6 months until you can go somewhere else. So just let it all roll off you back and not let it bother you. People do manage to survive with horrible carpets honestly!

You have defiently gone off on a slant to what was your original problem - so i'll take things back to what you were on about before - have you heard anything since, any updates on the situation from your LL?

clutton_2

if you are the carer of someone else, then clearly you are far more capable than you would have us believe .....

with all this different coloured posts, and replies, i have lost the plot ......

not sure i am interested anymore ......

Planner

Shocking!

O/P I suggest you print off (no pun intended!) this thread or email the link to your prospective LL. After a quick read, I am sure she will agree to a cooling off period immediatley. Your posts and responses to people trying to help you on here, and your apparent general attitude will be enough to put any landlord off having you as a tenant. Alright Love?

I wish your landlord all the best.

barnaby-bear

clutton wrote: »

if you are the carer of someone else, then clearly you are far more capable than you would have us believe .....

with all this different coloured posts, and replies, i have lost the plot ......

not sure i am interested anymore ......

I don't think the OP wants objective advice but is looking for confirmation she is in the right. I'm not quite sure why the kids father can't do the decorating and she'll have to clean at the end of the tenacy. She does seem to be pushing for a section 21 which if she is 12 weeks pregnant will see her moving when about 8 3/4 months pregnant. Really odd to be antagonising and pester-texting the LL like a 15 year old with that at stake.....

missclairey_2

schueys_girl wrote: »

I think you need to calm down. There is not a lot you can do about this woman for 6 months until you can go somewhere else. So just let it all roll off you back and not let it bother you. People do manage to survive with horrible carpets honestly!

I know you're right just want to get things sorted. I'll just get some rugs and have to pay for a plumber myself if she doesnt as the celling could collapse.

You have defiently gone off on a slant to what was your original problem - so i'll take things back to what you were on about before - have you heard anything since, any updates on the situation from your LL?

No i haven't heard anything from her and i am still waiting for the keys but she has had the rent and deposit. I have called twice but dont want to keep ringing.

Thank you for ur advice. x:beer:

schueys_girl

well you should of been given keys when you paid dep and signed?? I suggest ringing her and asking for the keys so you can at least start moving.

I am moving on 14th,15th,16th so will be thinking of you! It is a massive upheaval!

clutton_2

no one in their right mind would hand over a deposit and the first months rent and sign a tenancy agreement and then not get the keys .....

sighs with utter disbelief

FireworkCrazy

Only read the first page so sorry if this has already been posted, but didnt you say that the repairs would be done between the 5th and the 17th?

It's only the 6th for goodness sake! Give the LL a break!

Fair enough she could have just text back I will let you know in a couple of days whats happening, but then you didnt say anything about helping her out you just hounded her. Maybe you should have said, I know your busy would you like me to arrange it all and then tell you how much it is before you OK it. And then put it all in writting.

I do this with my LL all the time, I even re-fitted his bathroom 14 months ago at no cost to him whatsoever, Fine, it used up my time, but I enjoyed it. But the best part.... We got the bathroom with all the fixtures and fitting we wanted, power shower, heated floor, towel radiators etc. If he had got someone in to do it, for his budget we would have got a load of crap!

It works both ways. We look after the place and he looks after us.