My son has been snatched from my life...

pink_princess

I won t comment at the moment (as im so mad at his mum i would type something rude).Just wanted to say to you how much we understand what you go through.Me and my partner went through similar (years ago ,had full custody for 4 years now)
I will come back to your thread soon .
Big hugs we know you ll need them
PP

ema_o

I don't have any advice, sorry, but just wanted to add my support. I am shocked someone would do this. I hope you get him back soon.
Em x

Paparika

teckle wrote: »

I'm truly sorry to hear that blackpool mummy, i hope your still able to get access to him.



Yeah it's by law parental abduction, as ive PRR (co-signed birth certificate after may06) she needs my consent to take him away from his habitual residence to anywhere for more than two weeks, it isn't international abduction but it might as well be, with it being 330 miles away, ive found out if this happened in england to scotland, she would be ordered straight back down there, but the legal system is different slightly up here, and the rule doesnt apply im led to beleive. She hasn't gave me a contact address or landline number, i only have her mobile and email address, which she refuses to answer. I don't know how she can do what she is doing, i should of contacted the police but my family told me to get a solicitor first, i regret not contacting them and all other authoritys first, now i'm not sure what to do and the waiting game for a response from her solicitor is just hell.Going to check out ffj thanks
Thank you all for your support btw, i really appreciate it, first time i've let it all off my shoulders really, have had to be the "guy who never lets anything get to him" for the sake of my family and grandmother.

I hope that she regrets what she has done. Please go to the police, at least if you will get a report back of how your child is, which isn't much but will put your mind at rest, for now. This probably will go to court, remember that she is the one in the wrong.


On the other hand think about why she did this, is she under pressure from the bf to break ties, is he domineering? do you think he might of made her do it, email her and text her just tell her you will always be there to talk, let her know there is someone back home (i know you two are finished but if she is being pushed into doing this then at least she knows there is someone she can contact if she needs help)

newty428

So sorry to hear what you are going through, you must be devastated.

I'm not able to give you advice but a friends partner went through something quite similar. He was denied access to his child so he set up a website in her name, He posts pictures of the 2 of them together, messages on her birthday and at Christmas etc. His thinking is in a few years time she could well google her name and find her website and she'll realise he was always thinking about her and loved her.

I really hope things work out for you.

((((())))))

mookiandco

If she lived in England/wales and moved to another place in england/wales then it is not abduction and she does not require your permission. You were in contact with her at the time and had some idea where she was, unfortunatey unbeknownst to you it was a permanent arrangement. Arrangements need to be made for contact between you and your son and she should have taken your contact into account but what she has done is not illegal.

Do not despair. Yes she was wrong to move and uproot your son and disrupt your contact but there is no criminal or family law to stop her doing so. If your son had been attending school, you could have applied to the court for a specific issue order to determine what school he should attend ie new or old school which may have been the only way of making sure she had to return to the area, however unless you had cogent reasons for that specific school (e.g child suffers from special needs and new school didnt meet those needs) then court would not make an order in your favour.

You do however have the right to know your son's whereabouts, if she will not divulge this information either directly or via her solicitors, you can make an application to the court for a search and find order. However, more than likely her solicitors will provide this information to you as they will advise her that you have a right to it.

You were right to get a solicitor and this is really the only way to go. The police will do nothing. She has not committed a crime. Contact needs to be resolved but sadly in practice you will not be getting the level of contact you were previously given the distance between you. You will more than likely what to seek longer periods of contact to make up for the length of time in between that you will have to spend apart.

Your son is at an age where telephone contact is not particularly productive and he cant read letters, cards or use a web cam. All of these will come into their own when he gets older but for now I appreciate you are in a very difficult situation.

I wish you all the best.

pink_princess

newty428 wrote: »

So sorry to hear what you are going through, you must be devastated.

I'm not able to give you advice but a friends partner went through something quite similar. He was denied access to his child so he set up a website in her name, He posts pictures of the 2 of them together, messages on her birthday and at Christmas etc. His thinking is in a few years time she could well google her name and find her website and she'll realise he was always thinking about her and loved her.

I really hope things work out for you.

((((())))))

That is a lovely idea .Hopefully OP won t need it but it is a really good idea,
PP

LilMissEmmylou

like some of the others, I have no words of advice, but I think what she did is appalling and I wish you well in trying to sort the situation so you can spend time with your child **hugs**

Financial_Novice_2

What an awful thing for your ex to do. I hope you can get the help and advice you need to bring this to a speedy and satisfactory conclusion both for your sake and for your child.

You may find some good help and advice on the Wikivorce site if you wish to register. There are a few Solicitors, Social Workers and other professionals who post on there and will offer advice.

http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/

blackpool_mummy

if you have ever been to court before on this matter normaly it will say on court paper child cant beromeved without consent of court ect . You have nothing to lose by talking to police and social services the more advice you get the better . Its very sad when ex partner uses a child to get at u but i believe they will lose out in the end , i do understand about grandma family ect my mum was so upset she had looked after my son every day will i was at work as his dad wouldnt help me out , then when he went to his dad his dad stopped us seein him for over 9 months , we kept sendin him cards ect to school and in the end his dad gave in and now we see him when it suits his dad which isnt often but better than nothing . i throught my world would end when he first went but now i know he will be back 1 day i may have to wait for 4 years but i can wait it will work out in the end and i am sure it will for you to . just remember the good time no one can take them away from you regards ang xx

Uniscots97

Didn't want to read and run. Not sure what advice to offer, have you tried talking to her family? Good luck and hope you get it sorted out.