I'd love to be a Stay At Home Mum

Horasio

It is unbelievable what you save by not working. The cost of buying extra clothes, childminding and travel costs do contribute to the savings that can be used for being at home.

I was lucky, my child is and was a late riser so didn't have to get up early either.

fairylights_2

I am a stay at home mum too! I quit my not very lucrative secretarial post when my son was tiny and I realised I hated leaving him. I now have two, and am starting to wonder what I'm going to do with my life when they both are at school. I currently "do" usborne books (selling at playgroups, schools and toddlers) and have been trying to decide whether that will bring in enough once they're at school that I don't have to go back to the nine to five. I wouldn't have missed these early years for anything. I didn't realise pre-children how rewarding and important they would be (for me or them)

More power and less criticism for stay at home mums! If you can manage4 it and you want to, then do it - but don't feel bad if you can't. The world seems determined to make mums feel bad no matter what they do. Just do what makes you happy.

Becles

I loved being a stay at home Mam, but had to return to work when my ex left me, and I became a single parent.

Good luck to you all, and appreciate every minute of them growing up. The time is so precious.

gingerdad

we were lucky as my wife wanted to be a SAHM so we took a 70% pay cut and managed it, now five years on she has just returned to work part time, school hours 9-12.

What amazed us was when we looked at our budget how much we wasted at the time. We cut everything back and managed very well.

i still think its about priorties for us it was the kids and not money. even now i changed jobs to take a pay cut to stop commuting as far. but we are lucky as we still have managed to keep a reasonable lifestyle with out too much debt.

I agree with other posters as it was the best thing for our kids, and they still benifit as mum picks them up from school and has the holidays off.

All the best hope you can work it out

bobsa1

I work part time but seriously considering stopping or taking career break.

I have an 11yr old, eight yr old and dd of just 2.

I went back to work last march and do 2.5 days, however I'm not very happy so thinking of stopping.

My problem is, I've been a shm before and I hated it, other peoples low opinion of shm got me down, however I am older and wiser now so hope things would be different.

My ideal would be to have my own business at home, mornings only, but how viable this would be I don't know.

I went through an assessment day at work recently and get results next week so either I'll know my strengths, or I'll know I don't have any!!! so this might point me in the right direction.

robowen

debsley_pig wrote:

I'd love to be a Stay At Home Mum .

I'd love to be a stay at home dad :think:

unfortunately there are too many women giving up work to look after babies. Someones gotta do the work :rotfl:

We told you it was bad going to work....you wouldn't believe us would you You all went out , got jobs and now you all want to stay at home :rolleyes:

I think you girls should be forced to goto work and us dads can stay home and tend the tv !!

rob :rotfl:

mancitychick

robowen wrote:

I'd love to be a stay at home dad :think:

unfortunately there are too many women giving up work to look after babies. Someones gotta do the work :rotfl:

We told you it was bad going to work....you wouldn't believe us would you You all went out , got jobs and now you all want to stay at home :rolleyes:

I think you girls should be forced to goto work and us dads can stay home and tend the tv !!

rob :rotfl:

Ha Ha! Have you seen daytime TV!! That works for me, but ONLY if I came home to clean house, washed and iron clothess and a meal on the table. Most men I know seem to think just looking after the baby is good enough, they forget about all the extra housework. :rolleyes:

larmy16

I looked after my son at home until he was 10. I was on benefits but then felt I had to get some work, there was much publicity about scrounging single parents and how we were ruining the country etc.

I have worked ever since then and though I accept that is what you have to do I would love to stay at home full stop (providing money was not a problem). My sis has a friend who is married to a man who earns such good money she has never "had" to work, though she occasionally does a little cleaning!! She seems to find plenty of things to occupy her time. Maybe I would be bored if it were a reality for me, but one can always volunteer. There are so many creative things I would love to be doing. Sorry for hijacking thread about stay at home mums.

Becles

robowen wrote:

I think you girls should be forced to goto work and us dads can stay home and tend the tv !!

:rotfl:

Here's a story for you:



One afternoon a man came home from work to find total mayhem in his house.

His three children were outside, still in their pj's, playing in the mud. There were empty food boxes and wrappers strewn all around the front garden. The door of his wife's car was open, as was the front door to the house.

Proceeding into the entry, he found an even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over, and the throw rug was wadded against one wall. In the front room the TV was loudly blaring a cartoon channel, and the family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing. In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast food was spilled on the counter, dog food was spilled on the floor, a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door. He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife. He was worried she may be ill, or that something serious had happened. As he reached the top of the stairs, a small puddle coming from the bathroom greeted him. He looked in to find a towel in the sink and a tap left on. There was toothpaste squirted all over the mirror and a small toy dog 'swimming' in the loo.



He found his wife lounging in the bedroom, still curled in the bed reading a novel. She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went.

He looked at her bewildered and asked, "What happened here today?"

She again smiled and answered, "You know every day when you come home from work and ask me what in the world did I do all day?"

"Yes" was his incredulous reply. She answered, "Well, today I didn't do it."

across

here here mancitychick!!! robowen you cheeky thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!we dont get to watch our daytime telly cos the kids want nick junior and beebies on!! :rotfl:
i dont know these men coming home tea on table, clothes washed and ironed for work,nice clean house (even if a little untidy with toys everywhere!),i'll tell you now i dont drink as much tea as i did at work!!!!!!!!!! this is the real work so if you cant graft don't be a stay at home mum/dad go to work!!!!!!! :rotfl:
ps:becles that story was funny and so true!!!!!!!!! i think i'm going on strike tomorrow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!