daughters!!!

glodh1973

ok here goes i hope im in right place but need some advice im copying all the wonderful tips over these boards too try change my lifestyle so that i can start paying my debts off but my daughter who is 18 is now saying that if im buying and saving money she should reduce her board she has done nothing but complain about how im freezing yoghurts and they are coming out watery etc and because i have got rid of tumble drier because between both of my daughters it is on practically all of the weekend so i have got clothes horses and they will have too deal with it..

anyway how has your teenagers reacted they are not going without anything it is just a case of changing how things are done so nothing is wasted

eldest daughter is even moaning because im paying 5p on a sunday for a loaf of warburtons instead of £1.25 then i freeze them

thanks any advice would be helpful and sorry if im in wrong place

glo

PixiePie

Tell your daughter to move out, and she can spend her money how she sees fit, including setting the board she pays in the form of choosing which accommodation to rent and which food to buy.

When my parents had to tighten their belts when I was younger and still living with them I just accepted it - what my parents said was the law and I would *never* have dreamt of complaining about it.

pebbles88

oh hun, not much too add as i dont have any children, but i freeze all sorts, fruit, veg, yogurts... i can t stand waste! yes some yogs come out watery but all you need to do is stir them up and they will be fine!!

hope they settle down for you

splishsplash

Why not sit your daughter down and investigate the possibility of her renting her own place? Go through the full cost of running a household from insurance to heating costs, as well as maintenance and upkeep and groceries.
Then factor in how much her board contributes to that - I'd be surprised if it came anywhere close to what she could expect to pay for her share if she were to rent her own place.

glodh1973

well i basically have told her she knows where door is because i could understand it a little if it was a case of her going with out but it isnt it is just a case of changing lifestyle

well going for now as it is asda time see what bargains i can get today

thanks for the comments

glo

justruth

As a daughter myself, I would second the advice from Pixie Pie. Suggest to your daughter that she look at how much it would cost for her to live on her own, then if she prefers that she can go for it.

Another option is to work out exactly how much she costs to house, feed and maintain (include a proportion of every bill) add it all up, thank her for bringing to your attention the relative cost of her living there and give her an increased bill for board. See what she thinks of that. If she continues to complain go ahead and put her board up.

Even if she doesn't like what you are doing she is learning from it so just carry on!

boredofbeingathome

I would say the same as others. Paying board does not dictate your lifestyle choice. If she has a problem tell her to go and find somewhere else, then i expect she will be doing exactly the same thing in order to make pennies stretch.

Mine are teenagers and basically i tell them tough, if they want something else go and buy it..and don't moan to me when they have no money left.

If she wants to reduce her rent, then say right fine that is for room only. You will pay for your own electric, gas, telephone, food, toiletries etc..itemise these! Contributions of a third for rates as well.
I can guarentee she won't like that one!

SouthernSoftie

Well firstly I would agree with PixiePie.
I expect, as a parent, you are not charging the full market rate that you could actually get from renting out a room to an unrelated lodger, so mention that too! Not in a nasty way, but point out you could probably get as much for the room and facilities alone without having to provide food!

My son is 16, and tbh, never moans about anything like that. He had one Christmas present and was more than happy. I guess I am lucky there.

Lara44

Yes - agree with all of the above.

My rent is - £500ish pcm for a room only
Ctax - £40ish
All other bills - £100
Food - £20

She would be lucky to get a tumble drier in a rental place. Good luck x

CAFCGirl

I'd like to think I was really understanding with my mum when times were tough and there were cut backs etc.
Have you sat her down and explained to her why you are cutting back, and what the bigger aim is?
Perhaps explain to her the running costs of your household,show it to her in black and white maybe, and perhaps then she will understand that in the big old grand scheme of things, her board contributes.... but still doesnt cover most of what is actually spent out in a house....

And add if she wants non-watery yoghurts, to buy her own!!!!

OliveOyl_2

My DD moans constantly that we don't have a TD, and has done since she was first a teenager (she's 22 now).

We've always said if we had one "just for emergencies" as she suggested, she wouldn't ever get organised, it would ALWAYS be an emergency. :rotfl: However, when she went off to university she was much more able to cope than her flatmates at hanging and re-hanging, so that stuff dried faster. (smells sour if hung up sopping and removed a week later :rotfl: )

I think teenagers complain more than grown ups, they don't seem to have developed empathy or tolerance for others. Can't advise, but can sympathise!

Larahosts figures should help your case. Good luck