Noisey Neighbour

bah_humbug_2

Not sure what to do

Been in oru first home for abouit 4-5 months . Neighbours are day to day pretty loud and incosiderate - no great problem as we are young folks usually out and about or watching a film of an evening so a bit of noise no problem just laugh at what they are yelling and joke about what could possibly be making the noises.

The only bit that concerns me is the yelling first thing in the morning at the top of their voices - usuallly earlist about 1am - latest 7 am and any time in between.

Still not that much of a problem - wakes us up but is only once a week so we just giggle and go back to sleep. Recently tho it has esculated a bit into screeming at the daughter who is only 2-3.

For example this morning at 6 am kid wakes up crying and the mum screams a her calling her an f***ing little b**ch and going on for a good while swearing and banging about. This is probably the worst it has been but they generally screem pretty well and call her a spoilt brat, stupid, ungrateful, never known a child like her etc etc untill she is practically hyperventilating and then they leave her and she seems to go back to sleep. Think the chap works shifts an it seems to be worse when he is out.

Don't want to get into a feud as they are nice and we chat over the fence/by front door from time to time but it is getting abit bad.

Any advice gratefully recieved.

mum2one

I think you really need to contact social services regarding the childs safety, as if the mum is screaching at the child like that, then u have to put the childs safety first. I fully appricate that you dont want to get into a feud, but how would you feel if in 6 mths time the mum snapped and the child ended up dead. Yes it may seem drastic, but your in the position to do something about it.

Re the general noise etc, sorry to ask but are you in HA, council, private rental etc, as if your in HA, contact them and they will suggest a way forward, if your in private and there in private accomodation you may need to contact environmental health.

bah_humbug_2

Lord hadn't thought of it like that

Does seem to be geting worse.

Privately owned.

Errata

Sorry - your neighbours are most definitely not nice if your description of their parenting style is accurate. Phone the NSPCC for an informal chat.

bah_humbug_2

Oh lord feeling awaful now.

If i do go to either of these groups - will they know it is me that has reported them?

That sounds stupid but I don't want to cause a horrible situation and endanger the child further

welsh_cake

Definately go to social services. They have to follow up every enquiry that is made. I agree with mum2one about something happen to the child and how guilty you would feel. If only the people in the baby P case had called social services! SS won't let the parents know it was you that called and anyway, if someone knocked on my door about my baby, i would be annoyed, but also grateful that I had concerned neighbours and that they were looking out for me.
Good luck. Let us know how you get on.

Errata

bah_humbug wrote: »

Oh lord feeling awaful now.

If i do go to either of these groups - will they know it is me that has reported them?

That sounds stupid but I don't want to cause a horrible situation and endanger the child further

No they won't and neither social services or the NSPCC will tell you what action they will take.

Horace

You could always keep a diary of noise and when it disturbs you and contact your environmental health dept at the same time.

The NSPCC don't ask for your name when you ring them up either and they are nice when you speak to them on the phone.

No wonder the child gets stressed if her flippin' mother screams at her like a banshee and f ing and blinding all the time:mad:

markelock

you'll feel worse if you don't do anything surely? as already advised, keep it informal. you don't have to offer your name.

she's a bad parent. swearing at a child is disgraceful.

Fire_Fox

We don't know the full story, the family situation or the parents own backgrounds. Sounds like they are pleasant people with very poor parenting skills, who need some help and advice. I believe both social services and child protection charities can offer support or parenting classes before things escalate any further.

MooMooRocks

Does the girl seem happy in the day? It is a tough situation for you to be in however you are obviously concerned and some instinct is nagging in the back of your mind to which you must follow up both for the girls safety and well being and your peace of mind! They are mentally abusing their child and turning deaf ears to it is not fair for anybody. As people say what happens behind closed doors is that families business, however as they are not making their business in keeping their voices down it is technically speaking involving you!. Do they have a neighbour the otherside of them and if so do you know them?

I would defenataly seek advice from NSPCC if nothing else but for peace of mind!