*+*Daily Chatterbox-Wed 21 Jan, 2009-ALL WELCOME!*+*

Ames

If teachers think that bunging debt on the mortgage is a good idea, what hope is there for the next generation?!

Burlesque_Babe

jinky67 wrote: »

BB do you think he will listen this time?

Don't know, but to be honest, I'm going to say that this is probably his last roll of the dice to sort it out. He said a few weeks back there was the chance of part time hours coming in - I said then start looking for a new job and I just got 'oh, I won't find another job, I'd just have to sell the house'....this is a guy with 16 years teaching experience as a head of department - no, no other job, available - ever.:rolleyes:

He is a lovely guy but this, along with his drinking is the main reason we split. I was probably as bad as him when we were together, money wise - mainly because we didn't know any other way to manage our money and I was too scared to rock the boat, but I've really tried to help him over the last year with advice but this time, he is going to lose around £250 - £300 a month, so needs to really have his LBM and I'm not going to hold back in the advice and really telling him what he has to do.

Ellidee

BB - what a lovely ex you are ! You helped him when he had his flood and now you are trying to help him sort out his finances. Must be so frustrating for you but the old saying comes to mind about taking a horse to water......Good Luck !

Ames

I just want to have a bit of a moan about the 'family stuff'. I've asked my dad to come and fill some holes in my wall for me and he said he would. But he then told my sister that if my flat's not spotlessly clean he'll never visit me again. Which I think is a bit ott. I'll never get it clean to his standards, and don't want to - I prefer a comfy lived in look, he even cleans the sink when he rinses his hands so that there's no water marks on it! I just think that surely there should be more important things to him about my life than how my flat looks? Anyway, I'm probably over reacting but I wanted to vent about it.

SuzySu

jinky67 wrote: »

Hey Luc:hello: my friend is due to be sectioned on Friday

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As in mad-house or Cesearean??

Burlesque_Babe

Ta Elidee xx

Ames - you aren't over reacting, maybe have a chat with your dad about him coming over and see what he says to you? Not having a tidy/clean flat does seem a bit ott of a reason to never come again - perhaps your sister misunderstood him in some way?

Ames

No, she wouldn't have misunderstood him. In my old flat I let things get really, really bad (I was in the middle of depression and paranoia and couldn't even leave the house to take out rubbish for a while) and he was disgusted with it. That's whhy he's not visited me here in the last two and a half years. I've just about got on top of it all now, since I've been here it's been a bit untidy but not unhygienically bad. Me and my sister have both told him that and that it's a lot better than it was but I don't think he believes us. And like I said he's got really high standards.

cat4772

Ames - defo think your dad's being OTT and I'd be tempted to have a word with him, especially about using your sister as some kind of go between. Surely he could have said anything he needs to say to you rather than your sister for her to pass on any message?

Luc - I sorted through the baby clothes I've got so far and realised I have plenty of clothes for 0-3 months up to 9-12 months but I don't have sleepsuits from 9 months onwards. Nor do I have anything in newborn sizes. Wayne wanted to go out immediately to buy things and I have persuaded him to do nothing as we'll have a better idea of size closer to her due date!

Cat.x

jinky67

SuzySu wrote: »

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As in mad-house or Cesearean??

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A C-section...her second:rolleyes: she had no choice in the matter

pepe2008

Hello all,

Hi Luc in particular, for some reason ou crossed my mind today....you OK mtb?

Ames, your Dad is wrong.....nobody should impose any sort of sanction upon anybody else just because they do not reach there own standards. Particularly family. DDs first house was a tip most of the time but she was doing her best. OH would clean up when we visited and get herself upset over it.............not realizing how it upset DD that she had done it....Families!